How can I avoid appearing stuck up or snobby?

[isabelle-aurelia333]

Every one of my friends say that I usually appear snobby to people who meet me for the first time because I am really shy. I've been told that because I'm "girly" (wear make up, fix my hair, dress well) and quiet at the same time most people assume that I think I am better than them, which is not true at all. Due to my shyness, I usually don't talk until I'm spoken to and even though I try to smile a lot and appear friendly, many people have accused me of being "fake" with them. I just need some advice on how to show people that I am actually a sweet, friendly girl, who just happens to be shy.

[bubblewrap-]

I have exactly the same problem. I wouldn't say I was shy when I'm around my friends and people I have known for a while but when I first meet people they tend to think I'm stuck up because I'm quiet and don't really speak unless someone speaks to me first. I don't think its because your girly (I'm not girly at all) I think its because you don't speak to people first it gives the impression that you think you're better than them(that's what one of my 'friends' said to me). I think the fact that people think I'm stuck up makes me even more shy and withdrawn. How about you?

My advice would be to smile more, other than that there is no real way of people knowing how friendly or nice you are without talking to you first. But if they have already made up their minds about you before speaking to you there's really not much you can do. Try not let it get to you too much :)

[ALWAYSclassy]

People who say you look snobby (especially girls who say that) are usually just jealous of you. They see somebody good looking, well kept, and reserved - and they think "oh she must think she's too good". When in all actuality you just probably intimidate them. If someone is going to form a negative opinion of me, I wouldn't go out of my way to make them like me.

[intoxicatingen6]

What if a guy says you’re stuck up?

[piratejoey86]

I actually have a friend who had that problem. She is pretty and nice but very shy, and sadly, people often associate not talking to them as being too good to talk to them. While probably a bad, maybe even jealous assumption, it seems that your main goal is to have people like you, maybe even make more friends? And the root cause of all of those problems is just a lack of putting yourself out there. Just introducing yourself, throwing in a story or comment when you hear something that you know about. People really don't bite, even if by some strange, worse-case scenario everybody just was silent and stared, that's the kind of thing that you learn doesn't matter. Few things are ever done without trying.

[Jarett]

If you are smiling a lot, then I don't know why you would appear snobby. If a girl is genuinely smiling, then there is a less chance of appearing snobby. You don't have to have long conversations with strangers. But if you smile and at least say hi, then I don't see how that is considered snobby.

[A-Mans-Man]

Stop dressing nice, just wear stuff you find at Goodwill. Wear shoes with holes in them. Talk a lot, and get rid of all that cleavage and makeup. Also, flash the guys in proximity. This does nothing positive for your image, but it will put a smile on the boys faces, and you will stop feeling so shy all the time because everyone has seen you naked.

[ALWAYSclassy]

She shouldn't have to change her appearance to please others. That's like saying outgoing people can dress nice but shy people should have to dress bummy so as not to intimidate peopple. She should keep looking nice but try to be more open

And I'm not even gonna comment about the rest of it

[Kairen]

Tough question you can't