Girls, if you don't like a guy or find him annoying, why would you keep initiating conversations with him?

[Anonymous]

Let's say he is just sitting, minding his own business. Then you proceed to ask him a question or initiate chit chatting. The conversations evolves and you sit there for 20 or so minutes just talking normally like 2 normal people. Then after the conversation ends and he listened to you talking about your random topic (how you fixed your wifi at home?) you'll start being difficult, a teasing him and even being a bit rude and you actually seem to enjoy it because your are trying to hide a grin on your face.
She tells me "i talk too much" but when i dont, she'll come up to me and talk about stuff that isn't that interesting, but i listen to anyway, what is the deal?

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Its just weird. She can be very girly but when i talk to her, she gets kinda rough. I am nice to her but she is very sarcastic and rude. I know she is playing but if i go out of my way to do her a favor or being nice, i dont know why she resorts to that. She is playful AND nice with others, but she gives me a hard time quite a bit, not even in high school was i teases this much and i was a bit of a nerd back then.

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Thanks for the answers but, for those of you who said she likes me, why does she act like this? I mean the other day she talked to me about a rude customer at her work, for like 15 minutes we went over it and i gave her some advice, she was a little worked up so i offered to buy her a coffee but and everything was cool. The next day she just started with the sarcasm and calling me irritating, i mean really? She is a nice girl, she only gets like this with me!

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Wow, thanks for all the feedback! There is a lot of different opinions. I've been talking to het and it seems all she wants is attention, especially the way she acts when she doesn't get it and te way she gets all crazy and starts yelling at me and freaking out for stupid things.

I am a nice guy and i just can't bring myself to retaliate and be mean to her as self defense, i know when im angry i can be really mean and i've done it before to her. I'll just stop talking to her and be polite.

[cpsw111]

She is DA biiitch, no joke. I REALLY hate this kind of girls like OMG, I used to have a friend that's like that, rude and sarcastic, she still thinks I'm her friend but I don't lol, I told myself to stay away from her, it was for the best like really, I couldn't stand her. Look, she might like you, but she's not worth thinking about or even think about getting into a r/s, I mean, even if she's like that by nature and she's just pretending to be nice to other girls, and that she likes you that's why she's teasing you so badly, there's no reason for her to be so mean to you. This kind of people? Just stay away from them like seriously omg. There is a much much WAY nicer girl out there, so don't worry. I kinda feel sorry for this girl, She is very sad on the inside, that's why she's like that, she need to annoy people, she's been pretending to be nice to other girls and she wants to find somebody to annoy like wtf man, I'm sorry if I'm so bitchy right now, but as you can tell, I hate this kind of girls, I hate hate them, because I know how you feel...

[PureBliss]

She definitely likes you, but when you show her mixed signals she gets insecure and acts out, but she will leave you wondering. And then be all nice the next day. It's a repeated cycle! You shouldn't ignore her, that would just cause more hostility because it is completely obvious that she likes you! Lol. I think that you should take into consideration about just mentioning to her on why she has to be like that. Let her know it's annoying and that if she didn't do it you might seem a little more interested! Good luck! Girls are difficult lol

[Anonymous]

I never start a conversation with a guy That annoys me (i most likely try to AVOID it.) she's just just playig hard to get (and doing a horrible job at it). What you need to do is switch the tables around. Since she claims you "talk too much" just leave her alone. When she comes over to talk to you just get up and leave. If she asks for a favor say no. I dont know why, but when people can't get what they want- they want it even more. The fact that you stop talking fo her is going to make her want to talk to you more.

[Asker]

Yeah, i do that, i just dont say anything. I will leave her alone but when im nearby she'll start "talking to herself" loudly so i hear her complaining or whatever. If i dont pay attention, she'll come over and be "have you seen/hear this before" or some random conversation. Like i said before even when im talking to other people, she'll over hear it and start teasing me or making fun of me from across the room, which if anybody else did it it would be, in fact, annoying.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah just start ignoring her all together. She seems pretty annoying and doesn't know how to flirt lol.

[boatfullofpeace]

She seems like an attention wh***. She just wants your attention. She probably likes you but she's being a bitch so I wouldn't give her the time of day if I were you.

[Account]

"you'll start being difficult, a teasing him and even being a bit rude and you actually seem to enjoy it because your are trying to hide a grin on your face."

... Oh.
If she's anything like me, she digs you. A LOT.
I can be quite mean towards the person I'm interested in.

"Why?"
I have answered it before.
It's probably due to a stupid self-defense mechanism, since I don't want them to find out that I'm into them, but at the same time I also want to draw their attention even in a negative way.

[Theguyoverthere]

Such girls who play that game enjoy the attention. It's simply the attention. They get called "attention whores." They enjoy being chased and pursued and it doesn't matter what kind of attention it is.

That's why you see the grin on her face. The nasty truth is that many girls especially when they're young get trapped into using sexually provocative means to get this attention then things get really really bad. I see many cases of it at my 2nd job. The girls at it will "Complain" about the old guys hitting on them and then they'll have smirks on their faces with enjoyment and 1 will even tell me how she's all flattered. They like the ego boost even though it's such a cheap and even demeaning way of getting one.

[Asker]

I hear ya. That may be the reason but at least personally, i wouldn't go out of my way to talk or give attention to a girl i dont like. Its weird because she is a nice girl and she doesn't usually act like this with anybody else, she'll give them a hard time and what have you, but doesn't nag them constantly. I may run into her tomorrow and i'll be all quiet, see what kind if stunts she pulls. Last timr i told het to go talk to people she actually likes, she got mad/offended, she is just very confusing.

[cluelessforlove]

Next time she tells you you are annoying tell her "but you like that don't you" just turn the table and see how she reacts.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

haha she likes you A LOT. I bet if you (only if you are interested in her) just started flirting with her she would love it. I bet if you asked her out shed say yes

why do women do this? I don't know I can't explain. im sometimes a little mean to men that I like too. I don't know what im thinking in the moment, its some type of frustration like "why can't I have you?" mixed in with a little playful banter. its not meant to be hurtful.

[Anonymous]

She's trying to find out how you feel about her and I would say she has been doing this for a while. At some point, she felt rejected by you irrespective of whether you realised this or not. From her point of view, she likes you but you don't seem to show much interest so she initiates conversations about crap to get you to, at least, engage with her.

The teasing/being rude bit is about testing how far she can go with you. It's the naughty and nice syndrome. She is desperate for you to make a move to that she can in turn reject you and then everything will be even between you. I feel she is emotionally invested in you and so teases you to provoke some sort of reaction, any sort of reaction. She wants to know that she is getting to you and that you feel something when she does those things.

Do you like this girl? You make a lot of effort to talk to her when she does engage in convo and you seem to do nice things for her.

[Anonymous]

She's not flirting, but she's trying to break the ice between you two so that she eventually CAN flirt. Her method is humor. She's joking and teasing to build a "friend" type bond with you first, and then when you guys become more like good friends and get comfortable around each other, she'll turn flirty... and she'll probably tell you she really likes you/all that mushy stuff. Some girls just use humor to get comfortable at first, that's all.
My advice if you like her, would be to tease her back but be light hearted and smile. Play pranks on her sometimes.. You're going to melt her icy little heart.

[sailorjupiter]

A girl will never initiates a conversation with a guy unless she need to (for work etc) or she likes him. And sometimes, whenever a girl really likes a guy so much, the nervousness makes her totally out of her mind, yeah sometimes she will suddenly act rough bcoz she's too nervous. I have a friend like that, whenever she met a really attractive guy, suddenly she's become too rude and rough while talking to him, as she was too nervous to talk to him, then regret it lolz

[Asker]

Have you ever done time? Im mostly looking for advice on how to deal with her or what to say. I dont respond by being rude, i just stop talking but then she comes over and starts telling me i act like a baby because, if im annoying, i should just take it but if im annoying, why she keeps talking to me? I dont get it, so it is confusing.

[MixedTwit]

Maybe she liked you but doesn't know how to show it or react to it so she goes to sarcasm. She could also just have a very sarcastic personality with other people but u just didn't notice it yet. Or maybe she trusts u enough to be who she really is which is sarcastically playful.

[Asker]

I agree but, while she may be sarcastic and whatnot to others, she is always teasing me and giving me a hard time. And if she teases other people, i know for a fact that she won't tell them to their face that they are annoying, but she will tell me to MY face.

Whether she likes me or not thats something else. It just would be less annoying if she said i was annoying and just leave me alone after that, but she finds ways to squeeze conversation, so i dont know what is up with her...

[MixedTwit]

She probably likes you

[LovelyDreamer]

Honestly she reaaaaaally does like you. When I like someone I get kind of nervous and I don't know what to do. So everything i do is a little overdone (so then I kick myself later). She probably likes you so she's teasing you, but she over does it because she's nervous.

[WillowBee]

Maybe she likes you but some of the things you do still frustrate her so she has a hard time balancing what she feels. I was like that with this guy. He was really nice but could never be serious about anything and texted in this stupid way. So while I liked him, at the same time he annoyed the crap out of me.

[Keira2002]

I would have to agree it sounds like she likes you or at the very least is comfortable enough with you to tease and pal around. That is how I am. The more fiendly I feel towards someone (male or female) the more I will tease them and bust their balls. Guy friends do this to each other a lot too but I definitely do it more with guys when I'm flirting. It's human nature. Why don't you ask her about it and see what she says?

[Dani_chan]

yeah dude, this girl is totally into you. guys think that when a girl likes a dude she gets all flirty and girly and shit. but some of us single you out and get all bowser on your peach ifyaknowhatImean. just laugh at the sarcasm and be sweet, thats a total turn on

[music_lover]

That's exactly what I'm saying! (Nice Mario reference lol)

[Dani_chan]

Haha, thanks

[Anonymous]

There was a guy I liked so much that when I was around him I would become super aware of everything I said. Not wanting to sound over the top infatuated I would go a bit too much in the other direction and he misconstrued that as being really sarcastic and a bit harsh even. Hope that helps?

[Asker]

Yeah, thats kind of what she is like. We have fun talking and everything, i can make her laugh etc but sometimes she gets very harsh, out of nowhere! She does get sarcastic and makes fun of everything she can but after a while she just finds things to talk about...

[Anonymous]

Quit being nice to her then, be sarcastic back ( personally I love it when people irritate me on purpose because that gives me the excuse to be mean to them, and I love being mean/sarcastic/irritating so long as its not morally wrong or hurts someones feelings) and if someones playfully rude to you then surely its not wrong to give them some of their own medicine?

[fallingblaze]

If I ever talked to a guy I didn't like it was because I want to stop hating him and be friends or something.

But this girl sounds like an attention whore and fuels her energy from attention to boost her self esteem. Forget about her

[geraniumlove]

Believe it or not, a lot of girls approach guys because they seem like fun people to become friends with. Even if I am not interested in a guy romantically, I will still approach them if he seems like a cool guy to make friends with.

[EMNOY_450]

Well, i would just talk to them but really just do it because i am a nice type. Even if he asks me for a date I'll give it a shot. I'll talk to them just because its humane to do so. however if he's extremely annoying which is 1% the case. Kindly tell him that I'm busy and please dont bother me.

[Asker]

Well, yeah, but if you tell him not to bother you, you are not going to go find him 10 minutes later and talk to him, are you?

[music_lover]

No one ever said women made sense. My go to saying is usually "you're annoying me" when I'm into a guy. Its just how we work. I don't think we even know why. Its just how we work lol she's into you.

[Asker]

Well, thats interesting haha. So if he talks to you, you would call him annoying/irritating? I can make her laugh and we talk A LOT, i just dont know why she randomly starts with the "you are annoying and you should know by know" stuff. Even if that makes sense, what makes less sense is that even after that, she'll be bugging me asking me stuff, making conversations and trying to be funny. Even when other people talk to me she has to butt in if they say something "nice" about me, and tell them to stop saying that or i'll get a big head. When i dont talk to her she'll start with the comments or mocking me and say "im not talking because she called me annoying even though i deserve it" or childish stuff like that lol

[music_lover]

She's into you. Dude she is sooooo into you.

[EmoPanda_is_awesome]

Omg im like that to! I would go up to my guy friends and do stuff like that and they get annoyed with it. Its funny and its quite amusing to watch But she definitely likes you. I think she's trying to flirt. Some girls do that. People say i flirt but i dont see it. She likes you she does! And its soo cute!!!

[RockDoll86]

It's simple for me: I'm too nice to just cut all communication with them cold turkey. I'd feel like a jerk.

[Asker]

While it may make sense, 2 wrongs dont make a right. Fine im annoying or whatever but her going up to me and trying to make conversation with me about stuff i couldnt care less about is a bit annoying. I mean, if there's nothing to talk about, why even bother? Especially if she sees me talking to people who like me, she has to come in and make jokey comments about me.

[RockDoll86]

See, that makes no sense to me. Her going out of her way to talk to you is a bit ridiculous, I wouldn't go out of my way like that if I found someone annoying. If they talked to me on their own accord, fine, but I wouldn't waste my time purposely talking to someone I couldn't care less about

[Asker]

Right? I mean, i've met people who dont like me and they just keep to themselves unless they REALLY have to talk to me. In this case talking and joking around makes no sense, because its obvious im gonna respond and if i dont respond or blow her off, she gets mad/pissy at me but when i do talk, im being annoying...

[fridzyy]

it's obvious she likes you, otherwise girls normally don't initiate conversation. and there is no point of initiating conversation with the one she doesn't like.

[meg2015]

She likes you. that's that. a lot of girls these days play hard to get, but can't resist talking to the guy they are trying to get, even if it means bring up random topics to talk to them, lol.

[Anonymous]

I agree with most of the posts but in addition to that she could be trying to keep you from getting close to her either because she's damaged and scared or because she's talking to other people too but I do the same thing when I like someone I'm a complete b*tch and there's nothing I can do to stop it :/

[Asker]

Haha well, can you give me some hints? I mean, is there something a guy can say or do to make you a little less bitchy? Something you want him to say after you act bitchy to get a "positive" reaction?