Guys, would you cuddle with a girl who you didn't like in a romantic way?

[ellafraser199]

Me and my guy best friend had to share a bed and we were spooning all night. Guys in your opinion would you cuddle with a girl who you didn't like in a romantic way? We ve been best friends for years and we dated when we were in middle school. Some believe men and women can never be JUST friends and that there is always sexual tension. i know being in the girls position when we were cuddling i was secretly flustered i just want to know how he felt. thanks

[Anonymous]

Hope you'll see this.
I asked something similar. My crush who also showed signs of interest is close to this guy. They are unseparable. Honestly when we first met, i thought they are actually together. I still think that at some point they were a couple.
Had to sleep over at someone and these two were cuddling. So confused as she was showing interest in me and I was trying to figure out the nature of their relationship.
Do you think these two were together at some point? They know each from highschool.
I personally would not just cuddle someone. If I do, something is happening between me and that person.

[StevePinoy]

That is hard to answer because I think circumstances play a part? The short answer I suppose is yes. Example - I have a female friend of long standing, when I visit I will usually stay over and we share the same bed. Her sexual preference is towards other women, it always has been. We both understand that. So there are no issues about sex. We have a love for each other but perhaps not in the way of the expected man/woman norms. I will always be there for her if she needs me, and she will do the same. So, I think a Guy and a Girl can be friends, the complicating issue is probably sex though?

[Elektriksheep]

Tough call. Sometimes I think a guy will do that if he's very lonely or down/depressed about something and it's a comfort thing, but even then he'd have to be attracted to you. Chances are if you've dated before and you're spooning, then he likes you and is interested in more than friendship.

[tightend]

I have cuddled with someone that I was not romantically inclined with, and really disliked. She had lost a loved one, and no one wanted to console her, and I felt really sorry for her and stayed with her until she felt that she could function again. She is now a very good friend, and after her ordeal, I asked myself why we didn't like one another in the first place.

[DodgersGM]

Well, I totally believe that men and women can just be friends; nothing more, nothing less.

I do not think, however, that spooning is something you do with someone who you've only got friendly intentions toward.

[Peter0]

You'd have to ask him.

I know *I* will cuddle with my best friend... who is a woman. And we have about 0 chemistry sexually, and not much romantically. I'm active in the contra dance community around here, and we are a cuddly bunch - men, women, mostly the younger crowd, but definitely cuddly.

Cuddles CAN be platonic - touch feels nice, even without romance.

They can also be more than platonic, so yeah, you'd have to ask him :)

[RedBull727]

I could never see myself, but this does not mean if there is actually people who consider non blood family blood and are not sexually attracted but yet care for and would do anything for these persons. I've yet to find these people. but I have cuddled with a girl that was my best friend we were both attracted to each other so does not count as no sexual tension we just decided not to take that route at that time we were younger lol

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

I can't see me ever cuddling with just a female friend it would
need to be more than friendship, I already tried it but it didn't work

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

If I cuddle a female friend than I'm going start to have feelings for her
it's happened in the past :/

[bananatossing]

Well, I tried this on a "friend" while watching a movie and we ended up making out on the couch. It's just not possible to be that close to a girl without wanting/needing something more to happen. If I didn't like a girl that way I wouldn't put myself in such close position. Not even being my best friend because I wouldn't want to send any wrong signals.

[Thermal_Reboot]

Unless he's quite drunk, no man will cuddle with a woman he isn't attracted to. Perhaps your best guy friend hopes their is more or could be more to your relationship than being stuck in the friend zone but isn't confident enough to make more of a move.

[wrestler94]

Haha, the whole male best friend thing. Honestly, having been on both sides of this, if you told a guy you were kinda serious with about this and he got jealous, there's a good chance the dude you spooned with is into gou

[OzFarmer]

You have history, and after that you will never ever be "just friends" and he may have been reliving his youth, or maybe he still has a candle for you, either way you'll never get a straight answer from him.. Just be flattered..