Does he still like me after I seduced him to have sex with me?

I know that guy for not very long time, I was breaking up with my boufriend so I felt desperate, then I knew him. He is a nice guy to be friend with, so we wet out once, he picked me up to his place once to watch some series in order not let me feel lonely, but I still too much love my boyfriend. I ask him for company only because I felt desperate and lonely without my boyfriend. He is a good and a special guy of course, but I don't love him. The third time when we see each other, we cook together and watch series on couch again, I got drunk. I know he likes me a lot. He kissed me a lot and undressed me, but finally he dressed me again and tried to drive me back to my place.. but I kind of seduced him so we finally had sex. He felt very bad and said we should be normal and still want to see me again, but I told him I didn't want to see him anymore. So that's it, and it's already two weeks after that, I'm together with my boyfriend again, but I still want that guy to be my friend again, because he is so good to me, and he is a good guy after all. And we all like the feeling that we watch TV together on the couch, lay on each other, eating and drinking with each other. But since then, he didn't ask me out for even once until now. He knows that I love my boyfriend, and I don't love him. So what should I do to make him to be my friend again? Does he still like/love me?
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  • Hi dear asker thank you for invited me to your question.

    First of all , I just want to say I really understand your feelings to that guy, I think I also experienced the same thing, but the story is different, Since I break up with my gf, I feel alone too, then I hooked up with a hooker. And sometimes we met and have sex , Drinking eating. Just similar to your story. But I decided to leave that hooker.

    As for your relationship with that guy, I don't know what it is, If you love your bf why you need another guy? In someways you hurt your bf too. I think that guy just don't want to be involved in this triangle. I think he knew you like him and you two have a good time. But what will gonna be? He become your second boyfriend or lover? I mean you have to decide , Who you wanna be with tohghter. I think he still like you, He just don't want to get in trouble. It seems that guy more suitable for you. But I do like that part you try to seduced him to have sex. It sounds awesome, maybe he can be your Sexual Partner.

    • In those days my boyfriend and me are breaking up, I just wanted to find someone else to make me forget about my boyfriend. But the next day after he knew what I did, he felt so bad and came to my place made food for me. Since me and my boyfriend still love each other very much, we just have different mind toward life and things in life so we quarrel a lot. Now me and my boyfriend are together again, though we still quarrel a lot, but I so much in love with him. I seduced this guy just because I felt desperate and lonely, I'm not in love with him. No friend with benefits is not my type, I already feel guilty to that guy. I tried to forget about it but after 2 weeks I still can't, because he was too good to me but I used him. Yesterday I sent him a message said that we should talk and still be friend, he agreed. I said that I feel guilty, but he said don't feel guilty it's all ok.. So what should I say/do to him to be friend with him again?

    • I feel In someways you do love that guy, Why you don't try go with that guy? I suggest you drop one. If you keep going this way, one day will be more worse, Since you break up with your bf, Why you go back with him again. Often quarrel make you can not feel the love, I think that guy just appear in the right time. So if you two both like each other even can have sex, Why you feel guity? Remember, you do did not force him and he was willing to do with you. Even you try to seduced him but nothing wrong just like he said don't feel guity about it. But if you want him back, You should go to find him talk to in private. Tell him you like him you need him. Wait that's not fair to your bf. Why you don't try to have sex with your bf? Don't worry about it maybe he will be with you again. And you two will have sex again.

    • yes now I find out that I already have feelings to that guy and I miss him. I already sent him message and asked him to go out and talk, but he just say " if I have time I will let you know", he is trying to ignore me and not talk with me, what should I do?

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  • You used him and it may take him some time to get over it. Have you sincerely and humbly apologized? In a couple of weeks, ask him our for a drink and tell him that you really value hos friendship, that you know you used him for a rebound guy, and that you feel awful about it and miss his friendship. Then ask him if he can forgive you and, if you promise to not seduce him again no matter what, can you be friends again. Then respect his answer.

    • I hear something wrong from your words. Yes I seduced him but I was sad and drunk, and he liked it. Why should I apologise to him? I sent him a message yesterday said I feel guilty, he said don't feel guilty it's all ok, so what does it mean? I feel guilty indeed, but seriously? I should humbly apologise?

    • YOU are a GROWN woman and you used this man. Own up to it and apologize!! If you can't hold your liquor or control your emotions, that's on you so own it. What else is he gonna say, being as he's a nice guy? He's not gonna guilt you out but you have it coming. You behaved badly and for that a grown woman apologizes.

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  • Oh i think he feels used. I honestly wouldn't do it even if im desperate, if i love my bf i dont have another men in my mind, sexually.
    So i think you must leave him alove, because after sex for him is not the same. You still see him as your friend, but he has feelings.
    So just dont be cruel for him and be with your bf.

    • yes I feel the same, I feel that I used him and feel so guilty. I tried to forget about it but after 2 weeks I still can't. Yesterday I sent him a message said that we should talk and still be friend, he agreed. I said that I feel guilty, but he said don't feel guilty it's all ok.. What feelings do you think he has towards me? So what should I say/do to him to be friend with him again?

    • Well then he's really nice person, you could try. But i think he's really in love with you, thats why he forgives you. In person he will suffer because he knows he won't have you. You decide.

    • I don't want to hurt anybody, just want him to be a normal friend. thanks

  • TBH, you can't be friends with him. First of all, you had sex with him, you are okay with it but apparently he's not. Secondly, it will make him feel used and he's nothing but your rebound. So, don't be friends with him. It will hurt him and he still likes you obviously

    • how can you see that he's not ok? Yesterday I sent him a message said that we should talk and still be friend, he agreed. I said that I feel guilty, but he said don't feel guilty it's all ok

    • If he's okay with it, he wouldn't like you. But things could change. Maybe he moved on realising nothing's gunna happen between you two and he's cool with it. Who knows. Just be careful, he could be your potential rebound when you have some problems with your bf again

    • yes.. but do you think he would like to be my friend as before again?

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  • You cannot continue to be friend with someone you had sex with when you're with your bf. Gawd, it's really that simple. Reading this just mace me realize you don't even deserve your bf.

    • Interesting thought process

    • @TripleAce it's true though. You supposedly love your bf, but you want to maintain a friendship with a guy you fuck? How would your bf feel? That's the most fucking retarded thing I heard.

    • Yea lol I mean she's also ok with dating her bf and chilling on the couch with some guy she had sex with... which is a little funky lol

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  • Sex with him is not love. Leave him alone. Unless you want a love triangleshi goin on!

    • I don't love him indeed, but he is too good to me so I still want him to be my normal good friend. I also feel guilty. I tried to forget about it but after 2 weeks I still can't. Yesterday I sent him a message said that we should talk and still be friend, he agreed. I said that I feel guilty, but he said don't feel guilty it's all ok.. do you think it will be ok just be friend with him? will be accept that?

    • Hell no. You took adv. Of him.

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  • If I were him sorry but I won't get out with you because you hurt my dignity after all he try to be a good friend and since he said that he wanted you to be normal the he really cares about you but don't you think you were mean with him?
    And since he knows that you love your boyfriend I don't think he will be the one who start the conversation
    And yes he still loves you
    And you should try to apologize

    • why I hurt his dignity? He likes me a lot, although he did want to send me back to my place, he still had sex with me in the end and he liked it a lot. why should I apologise and how? Can we be normal good friends again?

    • You hurt his dignity when you told him that you don't want to see him again I don't think he made you do this (sex) And no it's hard to be normal friend again

    • I sent him a message yesterday said that we should talk, he agreed.. so what does it mean? What should I say to him? oh god I feel so bad and guilty. I told him in message that I feel guilty but he said it's all ok don't feel guilty..

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  • If I was that guy I'd also not want to maintain contact with you. You used him in the cleanest sense of the word.

    And you also somehow managed to get back together with your boyfriend AND yet you're still seeking another man's attention? Yeah, I'd stay away.

    • What cleanest sense? I also feel guilty. I tried to forget about it but after 2 weeks I still can't. Yesterday I sent him a message said that we should talk and still be friend, he agreed. I said that I feel guilty, but he said don't feel guilty it's all ok.. I'm not a bitch, just because I love my boyfriend too much and in those days we were breaking up, I just wanted to find someone else to make me forget about my boyfriend. But the next day after my boyfriend knew what I did, he felt so bad and came to my place made food for me. Since me and my boyfriend still love each other very much, we just have different mind toward life and things in life so we quarrel a lot. Now me and my boyfriend are together again, though we still quarrel a lot, but I so much in love with him. I seduced this guy just because I felt desperate and lonely, I'm not in love with him. But I still want to be friends with him, since he is so nice to me.. not friend with benefits, just normal good friends

    • ''I just wanted to find someone else to make me forget about my boyfriend." That counts as using people. " I seduced this guy just because I felt desperate and lonely, I'm not in love with him." Again... that is using some one for your own benefit. And also, quarrel or not, sleeping with some one when you JUST broke up and still had feelings for your bf is a pretty... don't know... wrong thing to do. All in all, using some one as an emotional cushion just to make yourself feel better after a breakup is bad - you should deal with your problems by yourself. Now - if some one offers help, then by all means accept, but seducing a guy when you still have feelings for another... as I said - bad. "But I still want to be friends with him, since he is so nice to me.. not friend with benefits, just normal good friends." If that guy has any dignity, then he'll walk away from you. If not, then good luck at being friends.

    • I know I was wrong, but I really couldn't control that emotion, it's like drowning in icy water, felt so desperate

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  • Well you used him and he likes you... you knew that but still went for it knowing it would create emotions in him

    So of course he doesn't want to be friends, he wants more. But you want friends.

    Depends how understanding he is

    • Yesterday I sent him a message said that we should talk and still be friend, he agreed. I said that I feel guilty, but he said don't feel guilty it's all ok do you think he will be just friend with me?

    • Sure why not. He said it's ok. But then again it's possible your friendship may not work out. Or lol it's possible you guys will sleep together again hummmm Let the days pass and see how it goes

    • ok thank you

  • Offer him sex again.

    • I don't want that, I was just drunk and he is a good guy, I don't want to hurt him, I just want to be good friend with him again

    • How would it hurt him to have sex with you? :O

    • he said he would be happy if I'm his girl friend, but i don't want that, I love my boyfriend too much. I just want to see this guy when I fight with my boyfriend and feel lonely. And I don't want to have sex with him, I just need some company

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  • So you are seeking his attention / sex.

    Is your bf not satisfying you/ enough for you?

    • no, I'm seeking for his friendship back I love my boyfriend very much, too much actually. When I knew this guy, I was breaking up with my boyfriend and felt desperate

    • Tell him that we are friends... Since you asked him not to approach him.. So say sorry n take initiative.. ;!

    • Don't worry he already understood. N is still your friend... Just try to avoid him when you are drunk.. If you really want "only" friendship

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  • no way in hell Id be friends with you

    • why not?

  • girl your emotions are terribly mixed up, that's why it's not good to go wizard for relationships and have free sex , maybe you will meet a 3rd good man, and take a place in your heart, maybe your mind too

    • so all in all, what should I do to maintain this friendship?

  • It depends on if the guy who you slept with had feelings for you, if he's just looking at it not too seriously then I think you guys could be friends... believe me I've been a rebound guy a few times, it hurts if you like the girl and she just disappears, but as long as there's no lying I think you two should be alright again. Granted your relationship will always be different, because as much as people want to say it's just sex for the most of us there is a little meaning to it

    • I think he likes me at least more thank I like him.. do you think we can still be normal good friends like before?

    • I'd say you have to talk to him, if he does like you, you have to be honest to him and let him know. From the sounds of it, it seems you sort of like him too

    • I don't know I like him or not.. what do you think he will react if I say that I like him?

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  • he obviously likes you more then a friend, i doubt that he will be willing to see you in the arms of someone else... I dont think he will be your friend, unless he stops liking/loving you

    • Thank you for your help! I know he likes me a lot but not sure he likes me more than a friend, how can you see that?

    • to be honest, i have no idea, im terrible when it comes to guys... dont take advice from me... lol

    • Thank you any way