Girls, why do you avoid eye contact?

[medical2523]

I was at a fast food joint today and the girl knew i was looking at her but its like she was avoiding eye contact

[DaniJ]

Well I am not necessarily the best person to answer this, since I have Aspergers syndrome and hate making eye contact for the most part anyway, but I do know a bit about it.
It's always said that the eyes are the window to the soul, and it's very true. There are so many tiny muscles all around and in the eyes, and they are so very expressive. Everything from the pupils dilating with attraction to the eyelids squinting. Any tiny, almost invisible change portrays a completely different emotion, and some people are very bad at controlling/hiding that.
For me at least, when I make eye contact, it feels almost like people can read my mind and it makes me uncomfortable. That could be if I like someone and am subconsciously afraid that he will find out, or if it is someone who makes me feel uncomfortable, when they make eye contact, it's bad because it feels like they are invading my privacy.

[medical2523]

I really like your opinion cause i myself have aspergers

[DaniJ]

Oh, really? That's cool! Before getting diagnosed, I'd never heard of it before, and now I see it everywhere!

[medical2523]

I wonder if it will prevent me from getting a girlfriend?

[DaniJ]

Only if you think like that... There's nothing preventing it.

[medical2523]

I wish i could get a girl with aspergers she might be in total sync with me

[DaniJ]

Maybe so, but I've always thought I'd rather have someone without, because we would probably have better communication. Aspies aren't the best at confrontation or communication, so putting two together is almost like condemning the relationship. I want someone with strengths that I don't have that appreciates my strengths.

[LovelyDisquiet]

Well, they could just be a shy, unconfident, or awkward personality type.
Or maybe it's a bad habit.

But for girls that do not have confidence issues specifically?
It could possibly be:
1. She's trying to avoid getting hit on (and feels like she might be)
2. She's having a bad day, and not in the mood to have someone strike up a conversation with her.
3. She finds you physically distracting/appealing and she's trying to cool off.

Those are the top reasons I do it anyway...

[medical2523]

I hope its not 3

[LovelyDisquiet]

Haha! Why? That seems like the best one.

[Claair]

I avoid it because a. it makes me uncomfortable b. I like the guy and I don't want him to see my flaws c. I'm too shy.

[medical2523]

Well typically im shy myself but if she's so cute i can't help mye

[medical2523]

Self

[Claair]

she might be really shy! Some people are like that

[medical2523]

Well sometimes my stare can be intense and intimidating

[Claair]

Well, you have answered you own question then!

[medical2523]

how do i change it

[Claair]

Some people have powerful stares, it shows how they are. I don't know if you can change that.

[WaterNymph99]

Because it feels like people can read your mind when you make eye contact, like they know exactly what you're thinking, or they make assumptions about what you think of them. At least, that's how it is for me

[dipta]

What other girls already said, she's either 1. Self conscious around you, or 2. Not in the least interested.
Unfortunately, it seems for the most part guys can't tell the difference.

[Anonymous]

For me, it's because I'm shy and awkward and panic internally when someone is looking at me. She might have felt that way too, or maybe she was just uncomfortable, didn't want to talk or anything.

[medical2523]

Well typically im shy too but she was so cute i couldnt help myself

[Opinion Owner]

That's sweet, haha. Hopefully she was flattered or just being shy.

[shinyshoe]

I avoid eye contact sometimes, because I get shy when I think a guy is looking at me.

[medical2523]

I kinda got dissapointed when she didn't look back

[shinyshoe]

Maybe she felt a bit uncomfortable? Or she isn't used to guys looking at her.

[medical2523]

I guess sometimes my stare can be intense and intimidating

[shinyshoe]

Bingo haha. Sucks that it happened though.

[medical2523]

Yeah im not even trying though it just happens i naturally have it

[isthatarose]

Staring is rude. Try not to stare

[HappyMiku]

If a guy is looking at me, I would think that maybe he looks not at me, but past me. Also, I would ask myself, why such a handsome guy not approach me, if he likes me.

[isthatarose]

She may not really like you, you make her uncomfortable or she's just socially awkward.

[Luvyou2]

Either she liked you to and was embarrassed to look at you
Or she saw you and thought you were looking at something else
Or she thought you were creepy

[medical2523]

Probably creepy most girls think that about me

[ababee10]

my dad hates making eye contact, and I take after him... I personally just find it awkward even though its the proper thing to do.

[medical2523]

Well typically im shy myself but if she's so cute i can't help myself

[ababee10]

I understand. But a girl doesn't have to make eye contact to know your looking her. I know it'd be easier for you to tell if she may be interested or not but you'll have to pay even more attention to see if she keeps looking at you.

[PippiL]

social anxiety or shyness.

[medical2523]

Well typically im shy myself but if she's so cute sometimes it just happens

[PippiL]

sometimes I have a hard time making eye contact with people. it kind of depends on my mood. i don't think it's very uncommon.

[medical2523]

Wel sometimes my stare can be intimidating and intense