He gives me MUCH longer hugs! Do they mean anything?

[Anonymous]

Says it all really. I've known the guy and liked him for more then two years. He knows it too. He is quick hugging his other girl... friends. With me it's almost like it's just us and nobody else and I feel his want to hug. He was a little drunk last night and hugged for even longer as well.

Think my magic might finally be working?

My worry was that he viewed me as a little sister in the past, but I'm a lot more confident now. :)

[autumn_wind]

Sorry but like the other girls said don't over think the hug. I have a friend exactly like that who knew I liked him a year ago and he loves hugging people too, and at times I thought maybe he liked me. But truly he didn't, huggin was just as natural to him as breathing and laughing. Not to mention the fact that he also loved the attention he got (He's always hugging tons of girls). But now I realized I like him a lot better as a friend more than anything else anyway.

[Asker]

I'll still keep hope. :)

[autumn_wind]

Yeah, don't give up hope at all! Who knows you guys might be soul mates =P But just don't think into things too much, for most guys usually aren't.

[michelle_a]

i wouldn't overthink this to much a hug is such a universal thing, my ex gives me long hugs but other people shorts ones and we don't like each other like that anymore. But if you feel like it may mean somethign else I would investigate and c how he feels its worth a shot!

[Anonymous]

I also wouldn't read too much into that... could be that he just sees you as a good friend or maybe because he knows you better he feels more comfortable giving you a hug. My best guy friend gives me long hugs too, but he definitely doesn't like me more than a friend.

[Asker]

He knows all the other girls much more then me! They're the lot he goes out with to clubs.

[paintballguy]

I kinda agree with the other girls. Hugs do not NORMALLY mean much. When he hugs you what does he do with his hands and how does he hug you? What does he say when he hugs you? Does he ever kiss you on the forehead after or as he hugs you?

I would say without knowing the answers to those questions that he might just feel closer to you as a friend and just gives your a little longer hug.

[Asker]

No, it just feels as if the world stops in that split second. With everyone else who he's known much longer then me, he gives them quick hugs. They're on his course so he's closer to them I think. That's why I was wondering.

[paintballguy]

Well answer my questions.

[Asker]

Sorry loll he usually asks me enthusiastically how I am (or wellll he didd the other night) then I ask him and if I don't instigate the hug he'll put his hands up in a 'hug?' way as if unsure I want one. I'm never unsure tho. I move forward it's a close hug and I rest my head on his chest. His hands are round my side. Nothing. He simply goes in for the hug, it's our thing. we never say anything. No, he doesn't kiss me.

[paintballguy]

Does he ever slowly rub your back or maybe up to the back of your head when he hugs you?

[Asker]

No, he respects me. Even though I would love if something like that was to happen he would only do that if he was with me. :) I have also seen him whisper in his friends ears and then they start dancing together right next to me but that's another question!

[paintballguy]

The next time he hugs you slightly hold onto him when he tries to stop hugging you. She how he reacts. This sounds retarded, but you might like it. After he hugs you give him a quick kiss and run away...lol. You pick either lips or cheek...lol

[Asker]

I am not that confident and it wouldn't be me! This is why I struggle with guys and why I've never been with anyone. :( :( Thanks for your help though and wish me luck! :)

[paintballguy]

Well forget the kiss part. Would you not feel comfortable just slightly hugging him a second longer when he tries to let go when he hugs you. That would show him that you are interested in him. It would be so sweet or I would think it would be really sweet if it happened to me. Gauge his reaction and just let things happen. He should respond in some way to your extended hug.

[Asker]

I would, I've done that before I think. Or, the other night he was the one wanting to hold onto me longer. I knew he was quite drunk tho so I let go a little quicker then I usually do. It just doesn't seem right for either of us, but I can't help but think his feelings were evident if that happened. Oh I can't stop hoping! You're being so helpful with all this, thanks! Next time I will hug him for longer and when he pulls away, I'll hug him more. I think I could be condfident enough for that!

[paintballguy]

Ask him to come over to watch a movie together. This would give you two some alone time. You have the option of watching a chick flick or a scary movie. The scary movie would give you a good reason to get close to him especially during the scary parts..lol.

You need something to let him know your interested. Does he wear cologne?

[Asker]

No, I could never have the guts and he doesn't but I remember in our halls of residence two years ago (where I first met him) he would be smeling of deodrant, lush! loll I think the thing is, I asked him for a drink in February but he never replied so I nearly gave up but then just recently I've only started to be myself and like who I am. He confides in me a lot, and instead of an hour conversation every five months in a blue moon he now communicates with me every day in some form or another!

[Screwdriver]

The girls I like the most, or have a connection to, get the best hugs. I do not hug everyone the same, but, that's just me.