What do I do if the girl I like insults herself?

[Anonymous]

The girl I like sometimes talks about how she doesn't like her belly and calls it "pudge". But its like barely noticeable, noone would call her fat and I think its adorable. What should I do? Out of the blue, say I have a crush on her pudge? Wait till she says it again and tell her she doesn't have pudge (even though id sorta be lieing)? Ignore it all together? Please help me out, I really like this girl, pudge included.

[DonkeyKong1979]

She's fishing for compliments, pointing out a part of her body claiming she hates it (when she probably knows full well it isn't that bad) and getting people to contradict her is a classic fishing tactic.

Be honest, tell her you like the pudge and you think it's cute, if she likes you she'll be happier that you like her as she is including what she sees as her imperfections more than if you just pretend those imperfections don't exist.

[been_waiting]

I agree with this.

[sp33d]

Ughh, she wants positive reinforcement. When she starts talking shit about one of her body parts, the last thing you can do is agree. When you agree it will be like a moodswing tornado Cat5.

You should mention to her that she looks beautiful and then change the subject.

[been_waiting]

just be honest and say what you said here, that you think it's cute and it's not a big deal. if she keeps going on about it ignore her. I find it annoying and exhausting when girls go on and on endlessly about their perceived flaws just so someone will jump in and validate them.

[monicute]

Whatever builds her confidence. Alternately praise her, am sure you see something her worth praising, don't you? It will help her take her mind off her current mental state

[existing_not_living]

Build up her confidence and tell her she's wrong and that she is beautiful just the way she is.

[RichardTX]

Compliment her as often as you can and boost her self esteem up.

[sp33d]

As good as it sounds, you forget something. It won't build her self-esteem up as much as you would think. It's a complicated business, but constantly complimenting her leads to something called tolerance. She needs more and more.

[RichardTX]

@sp33d I would much rather drown them "more and more" with complements and have her possibly become a stuck up bit** etc. then to have her calling herself demoralizing names.

[MosaicMind]

Compliment her, even when she's not complaining.

[Asker]

how do i do that without being weird?

[MosaicMind]

Well it kind of depends on how close you are or how comfortable she is with you. Tell her something simple, don't go overboard with the compliments. As long as you're sincere you'l be fine. Also remember to think about when to tell her. It's kind of weird to receive a random compliment in the middle of a conversation. Be casual and smile. a teasing compliment afterwards may make things less awkward. It'll only seem creepy if you compliment unnoticeable things, like the fact that her hair is 1cm shorter. You get the idea.

Something like this. "Hey, cute haircut. I never thought you'd pull off a short style."

[Iron_Man]

Try to change her way of thinking

[Anonymous]

Compliment her far each time she insults herself