I’ve got a problem that I hope you guys can help me out with. I met a guy at a party about a month and a half ago. We flirted a little bit, but I figured he wasn’t that interested, so I left. A friend of mine showed up at the party later, they talked and cuddled a little, and chatted. However, she isn’t really interested in dating, so after about a week, all contact between them stopped.
I visited a graduate school in the town where he lived about two weeks after the party, and ended up running into him. We grabbed dinner, and it turned out we had a fantastic connection and lots in common. Since then, we’ve been chatting every day and hanging out on the weekends. There’s been some physical (kissing, cuddling, etc), and we’re tentatively moving towards committed dating (it’s been about four dates/weekends now.)
This past weekend was my friend’s birthday. He came up early, and we spent most of the weekend together having a great time. At the party, under some intoxication, I asked him if he thought my friend was hotter than me, and he said yes. It was my own fault for asking-but I got kind of upset. He tried to say that yes, she was more PHYSICALLY attractive than me, but he’s more attracted TO me, but is there really a difference?
Now I’m wondering if I should pursue this any further. I don’t expect to be the hottest girl even at the bar, but I’m upset that he finds my friend hotter than me yet is pursuing a relationship with me. I don’t want to date someone who sees me as second best. Is this a bad sign? Am I overreacting?
PS: My friend is also very upset with me, because she says I’m over-thinking it and it was obvious at the party he was really into me. But if he’s so into me-wouldn’t he think I was hotter?
I visited a graduate school in the town where he lived about two weeks after the party, and ended up running into him. We grabbed dinner, and it turned out we had a fantastic connection and lots in common. Since then, we’ve been chatting every day and hanging out on the weekends. There’s been some physical (kissing, cuddling, etc), and we’re tentatively moving towards committed dating (it’s been about four dates/weekends now.)
This past weekend was my friend’s birthday. He came up early, and we spent most of the weekend together having a great time. At the party, under some intoxication, I asked him if he thought my friend was hotter than me, and he said yes. It was my own fault for asking-but I got kind of upset. He tried to say that yes, she was more PHYSICALLY attractive than me, but he’s more attracted TO me, but is there really a difference?
Now I’m wondering if I should pursue this any further. I don’t expect to be the hottest girl even at the bar, but I’m upset that he finds my friend hotter than me yet is pursuing a relationship with me. I don’t want to date someone who sees me as second best. Is this a bad sign? Am I overreacting?
PS: My friend is also very upset with me, because she says I’m over-thinking it and it was obvious at the party he was really into me. But if he’s so into me-wouldn’t he think I was hotter?
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