At the risk of sounding overly desperate, what kind of text should I send the gal I've been talking too, after she didn't reply to my last message?

[Anonymous]

I'm at the point where if she talks to me good maybe we'll schedule something... But if not, I just really want closure cuz this shift to disinterest seemed to happen overnight...

[MaryJne]

Don't, she'll probably just ignore that too

Hit her up later another day and ask her a straight forward question like: want to hang out.. Insert day, time etc..

If she's hesitant or making excuses leave it be

You said another girl did this to you?
It maybe your personality too nice, too openly available.

I know this as someone who would listen to people tell other how much they enjoy my company and sometimes publicly they would act like it.

But when we were one on one.. It was like sometimes I'll get a bite but usually ignored

After making and accepting excuses from that person for two years the best thing I ever did was move on.. Of course not without giving a peace of my mind first ^_^

But serious red flags if this continues
I don't know why some people put on shows for publicity so often... I just don't get it...

[Asker]

Thanks :)
The other girl and this one have both said I was too nice... This one made it sound like something she liked a lot about me... The other.., she just... Was a whole mess of bad things in my life.
I mean I'm not gonna turn ass hole because of this... But to be honest if being nice and open gets me hurt maybe I'm better off not trying anymore. I'll still ge good to my female friends and whatever... But I think I might just be done trying... Cuz I don't want to play games and have to act dis interested to get someone to think I'm worth their time.
I'll give it another shot... Maybe tomorow I don't know.
It's good too hear from someone whose out of my current situation lol...

[MaryJne]

Haha the other one was worse... Jeez

. I don't know a way anyone can make you feel crappier than being ignored:..

But yes try again later...

Being good natured, nice, available etc..
has it's downfalls
This is one of many..

But good idea not acting choosing not to act like an ass given the situation if it doesn't turn out for the best.

I took a different route with mine.
No regrets really he deserved every word and treatment he got
But being that no one could actually see what went on in private they will definitely try to use it against you and portray you as the bad guy..

Tactics of manipulation and guilt..

[Asker]

Oh yeah... The other girl was bad... Like OD on drugs bad and tell me how I was the one good thing in her life and that I was the only one that made her feel without drugs... But then ignored me the next day bad... That chick had me crying lol... It really wasn't much loling haha...
But thanks I'll definitely keep this in mind and give it the last go :)
And yeah the thing about ignoring... Is that because there's no scornful words, it's so much easier to blame yourself, rather then the person. I'd much prefer done harsh words over being left with my imagination.

[MaryJne]

You're welcome.. ^_^

Hey drugs impair the brain.. They make you say things sometimes you don't mean..

Although I've tried a few things, and loved alcohol I've never said anything so deep under the influence..

She must've had something strong..

Best of luck with future girl choosing..

[Anonymous]

Did you ask her a question in your last message? If you did and she hasn't replied, don't send anything. Let her reply if she's going to, and if she doesn't, I'd just leave it at that.

[Asker]

I sent a how are you text.
I mean I guess I can just leave it... But it seemed like we were at the very least friends and honestly it seemed like she was legitimately interested...
I can't deal with out closure I don't think... If she isn't interested in me I can be her friend still... But if she's just going to decide to ignore me and make it look like us enjoying eachothers company was an act... It's seriously going to hurt me mentally, cuz it's exactly what the last girl did to me...

[Opinion Owner]

Well hopefully she replies and was just busy with something

[lucasnabizada]

Well... YOU don't write anything to her... Because you are not some puppy she can hangout with whenever she desires...
You should make her feel like she his lucky the YOU are talking to her, and not the other way... Only then wil she find interest in you, otherwise you're just some other guy, at her feet, and that's unintrusting..
So yea don't write anything, if she decides to loose you... Then great I think you've done yourself a favor... My advice take it or leave it

[Noboddy]

This happened to me before. All i did is say Hey i found (insert event) i was wondering if you wanted to go it's tomorrow night.

If she replies then she replies if she doesn't you move on. Just make sure its something you are actually going to go do if she says yes lol.

[JohnStamoist]

Honestly man seems like it's game over from what I read in the other opinions. Cut all contact with her, if she's interested at all she'll establish contact with you. My suggestion is make it easier on yourself and start moving on now.

[Shykitty132]

Just ask to hang

[Anonymous]

dont text her now.

[Asker]

Should I take some time or what would you reccommend?