How can I tell if a girl is playing hard to get or she is simply not interested? I don't have much experience

[Anonymous]

I've never had a girlfriend before, never been in a relationship, not by choice though, I'm just one of those unfortunate, unlucky people out there, anyway, how can I tell if a girl is playing hard to get or if she is just not interested in me at all? Because I don't want to get accused of stalking her, I don't want to waste my time or get embarrassed. I don't want to annoy or creep out a girl in any way, I have a hard time reading a girls body language and facial expressions. So can anyone out there give me some advice on how to tell the difference between a girl playing hard to get, or a girl who is not interested at all?

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How can I tell?

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how can I tell if a girl is trying to avoid me or not interested? please I really want to be able to pick up on these signs.

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girls have it so much easier.

[dunc17]

If she laughs at your jokes or she sneaks glances, she probably likes you. If she's playing hard to get, she probably doesn't avoid you, she probably tries to go places where she knows you might be so she can be seen by you. If she doesn't really smile at you and she tries to not even notice you at all or tries to avoid you, she probably isn't interested.

Ya'll act like its harder on ya'll...ya it's hard to work up the courage but girls have a hard time reading guys too! Then guys can give all sorts of mixed signals! We are from different worlds! that's why I'm sooo glad this website was made! haha

[Asker]

It's way easier for a girl to get a boyfriend than it is for a guy to get a girlfriend, Girls just have to look pretty, be cute.

Guys have to think, talk, act, walk, dress, and breathe a certain way.

[dunc17]

You think we don't stress about that stuff too? haha we have to worry about how we look to guys, how we talk to guys, how we walk around guys too. ha I'm not sayin one has it harder than the other because one won't know until they've experienced the other side! it's just hard both ways! honestly,i hate tryin to figure out guys s I've decided to just look for friends at the moment! ha

[Asker]

It's easier for you girls because us guys always have to initiate

[dunc17]

Haha ok then...whatever. I just think it's hard both ways ha

[Asker]

Girls have more options

[dunc17]

You just have to be right don't you? haha jeeze! jw, what do you mean by that, "girls have more options"?

[Asker]

Girls get to do the choosing, they get to do the selecting, sorry for my negative attitude, it's just that I have always been single.

[dunc17]

Well guys get to break hearts too ya know...

I've only had one boyfriend and I don't have the greatest attitude at times either but I try to put up a good front and that helps me get through...just some advice. look on the bright side of things, you'll find who you're supposed to be with. just be patient. I know it sucks waiting so long but you'll find them sooner or later. Just work up the nerve to ask girls. Take my advice on how to read girls.

[Asker]

I've asked girls out before, just have been rejected too many times.

[dunc17]

Man, sorry to hear that. You'll find somebody though. Just keep trying.

[Asker]

Why are girls so picky?

[Anonymous]

It's not going to matter man. Here's the thing.. If you show a woman attention and that you're really interested, you're needy. If you show a woman no attention, you're a jerk.. There is no middle ground. Women were put on this earth to drive men insane. Men die first in relationships because they want to. Yes means no, no means yes. Like we are a bunch of mind readers. Yes I am very bitter because I was the best damn boyfriend in the world, yet that wasn't even enough. I'd just simply talk to her, ask a few hint questions and then back off until she talks to you. It's all a big game anyway.

[Asker]

Don't you think women have it easier?

[Opinion Owner]

Absolutely, all day. In the end though, they don't. Good guys are very hard to come by. So when they're done being whores and want to settle down, many of us good guys are already claimed. Oops. Sorry you were stupid ladies.

[Asker]

Yeah, also at least that us men don't have to endure childbirth, lol, but nowadays with the birth control pill or abortion, whatever, they can usually skip that.

[play-wright-boy]

Unless you have powers of clairvoyance, you can only approach it the same way regardless of what game she is playing. Inevitably, there will come a time when it's pretty clear if she's into you or not. If she accuses you of stalking, well, it's her fault for being too much of a coward to give you some straight answers.

Of course, don't be calling her every day and leaving flowers at her door or anything out of hand like that.

[Asker]

Don't you think girls have it easier? or am I the only guy you know that thinks that?

[play-wright-boy]

I enjoy having the power to chase, as opposed to being forced to wait around in fear of being perceived as desperate should I dare to chase.

[Asker]

Yes what you said gives us the option of not having to wait, but still, doing the chasing sets us up for rejection.