If you ask a girl for her number and she says she has a boyfriend, what do you say from there?

like what if you want to just hang out as just friends, like how do you say that :)

im not gay, I just don't like her like that is all

yea well I'm just asking like why can't I have any girls that are just friends to just hang out. why is that such a big deal, talking to you, asking for your number and just wanting to hang out or study or whatever, I don't think that's a big deal is it


Most Helpful Girl

  • most of the times when a guy asks a girl for a number, especially if the guy just met the girl, it is because he's interested.. (I mean why would guys want to be just friends with a girl? that's what his guy friends are for right?) so yes, girls usually assume that's why you're asking for a number. then usually if a guy tries to explain he doesn't like the girl like that and just wants to be friends, girls assume its a cover to keep himself from embarrassment or getting his butt kicked by the boyfriend.

    basically its hard to ask a girl for her number to be just friends. try to not be so direct by asking to hangout sometime instead of asking for a phone number. or simply don't give her the impression you're into her. don't flirt with her, don't hit on her.. just act friendly. it also depends on the place you meet her. if you meet some girl at the bar and are asking for her number it is more implied you're interested in her than asking for a girls number at school, or while hanging out with a group of friends. back up asking for her number with something friendly like "so we can study together sometime" or "so we can all (implying the whole group, not just you and her one on one) get together sometime again"


What Girls Said 17

  • huh, that's pretty cool. this type of thing doesn't often cross a girl's mind, I think, so it's kind of hard to get the girl to believe it, especially after she says she has a boyfriend.

    i mean, if you say to a girl "can I have your number, we can chill sometime, you know as friends or whatever 'cause you're pretty cool", she'll think it's a line to get her number and it's not a friend thing. (whether she's interested or not)

    if you ask her her number and she says "i have a boyfriend", and THEN you say "oh, nothing like that. I meant just as a friend thing, just to chill or whatever", ( <--- I guess that could be an answer to the title question), she'll think you're trying to cover up awkwardness.

    i've never thought about it, but yeah, clearly it's not always to hit on the girl. but I think for most girls at least, it's such a foreign concept that a guy would get a girl's number just to hang out as friends sometime, that they just wouldn't believe it.

    it's one thing if you've known each other for a while and are more or less just friends; or if you meet at school and have class and have some assignment to work on together.

    but if you just meet, think that person's cool, want to hang out as friends, then the whole opposite genders thing has to come into play.

    haha I don't know why I'm even answering this question, ohmylovely has covered all the bases pretty well and clearly she deserves best answer!

  • sayd "well I wasn't asking you to marry me, I was asking if you wanted to chill and do something sometime." but say it with a polite smile- that way she will pick up on the friend vibe

    • Not by message..

    • Of course not in a message, but in person is the best way to do it.

  • well lol you talk to her and just tell he that you just want to hang out and get to know her as a friend and strees thet you just want to be friends

  • Diffuse the tension by making it into a joke:

    "Well, in that case..." *turn to walk away* "Haha, kidding, I just asked for your number cause it'd be cool to hang out."

  • Just tell her that. Some boyfriends think it's inappropriate for their girls to hang out with other guys alone. That's their deal. If you tell her that you just want to be friends, and she still blocks your advances, let it go. It isn't worth it. You'll just end up offending her in the end.

  • You can have females that are friends.

    Just usually not girls with boyfriends because we both know how that can go and usually the boyfriends don't allow it.

  • Well first off.

    Once a girl says this she usually just plain doesn't want anything to do with you.

    She has a boyfriend and my boyfriend doesn't allow me to have "guy friends".

    Unless they were like gay or something.

    So my point being is: Once a girl says this it's usually best to drop it because as I'm sure you have noticed it usually leads to no where after those words are said.

    • Wait, he doesn "allow you" do have guy friends? that's kind of controlling- not that your relationship is my business but no one should be in charge of whether or not you are "allowed" to do something. Even if he doesn't use the words "not allowed to" but just gets upset when you have a guy friend or asks you to not hang out with them, that's controlling, and a red flag.

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    • Its just that, one of the signs of a controlling relationship is when a man doesn't allow you to do certain things or has a lot of jealousy and gets mad when you do things that don't warrant anger. Its more of a concern is all. There are so many relationships that start like this and turn abusive (verbally, physically, and emotionally). It never seems like a man will turn out that way but they can.

      There are plenty of men who have no issues with who their girlfriends are friends with.

    • Okay well to everyone thanx for your concern.

      BUT I DON'T NEED YOUR ADVICE...this question ask-er is.

      So stop assuming stuff about a man you don't know.

  • well it could be the body language you give off or how you say things. think your so say something. if you were to ask me to hang out. say something like hey lots of people are going mudding or to a car show do you want to come with? something like that but beware how you say it though. you can just text her and ask cause its usually hard to know how people feel when they send a text. but most important when you hang out with girls you consider just friends just be chill and not worry bout making them think your into them and if they are getting that idea just set it straight be like we are just friends and sorry that I might of lead you on. its going to happen anyway just be prepared on how you reply back cause you don't want to hurt their feelings.

  • He must be a lucky guy I wish I could have been that lucky

  • when they say I have a boyfriend you say sooo. I don't want a girlfriend I want you as a friend I'm not hitting on you and theirs not much they can say back... good luck xx

  • pick another girl and move on

  • well... most likely if a girl has abf she would want to spend her time with girlfriends or her bf... not alone with another guy... because then the boyfriend may get jealous and whatnot... I def agree that you guys should be able to be friends but it may be weird for you two being together alone...if they say they have a boyfriend just say oh I know or something I just want to be friends... make sure you tell them its just a friend thing :) hope that helps! -JoaHelp

  • just tell her that. just be like..wanna hang out sometime? I know this really good diner we could grab lunch at and catch up. or something... just be prepared if you get a call from the boyfriend because they get jealous if their girls are hangin out with other guys alone...

    • Its cool, I'm quite able to handle my self with any man of any size :)

  • girls think that if a boy awants your number then you want more than a friendship! and if they probibably don't give you there number is beccause they find you unatractive.

  • Say you want to hang out or you want to be friend with her.

  • when a guy asks me for my # and I say I have a boyfriend, that means I am letting him know I am not interested and the conversation should be over. So do you not see this girl romantically/sexually at all and you just want a purely platonic friendship with her? Then just let her know that your intentions is to only be friends and hang out. Suggest something as a group so she doesn't get the wrong idea


What Guys Said 17

  • Tell her that before you ask for her number so it's clear as to why you are asking in the first place. I think if you point that out after she says she's in a relationship or try to brush it off makes the guy look like he's trying to save face.

  • Well like the girl said there brushing you off. Of course if your a smart ass youd follow it up with" well that's nice,but I asked you for your number not if you were dating anyone" She put you in an awkward spot so the only way out is to put her in an awkard spot.

  • Say "good!", first of all. Invite her AND her boyfriend to do something, like maybe a double-date, or a party, or bowling. Invite her and some other friends over to play a new Nintendo game.

    Keep in mind, though, the possibility that she simply may not be able to accept people of the opposite gender as just friends. Some people are like that. YOU may be like that, and not willing to admit it. How many GUYS have you asked for phone numbers from? Any?

    Good luck, brother.

  • aight if you ask the number out of the blue, then its probably will be interprated as "wanting to hang out..." which is basically wanting to date.

    how would you feel if your Girlfriend hangs out for no apperant reason with some random guy... who claims "does not like her..."

    Getting the number for legitimate reasons (study, ride.. excuse the pun, sports)is a different matter...

  • Your response should be, "How long have you had that problem?" and blow it off as it you did not hear it.

  • I would just say... oh, sorry. I didn't mean to impose. From that point you probably have to consider the two of them to be one person. You could say something like... my friends and I are doing such and such a thing... you don't you and him come along?

  • Sorry I think you misunderstood me, you're not my type, but I really like you and would like to become friends, that's all"

  • Say that's cool and walk off. No big deal.

  • Telll her..." what the f***? I'm not asking you to marry me.. now c'mon and lets hang out"

    on the other side maybe she doesn't like you... or she is whipped.

    and what fibi500 says "pick another girl and move on"

  • Seriously?!

    Ask a random girl a number to study with you or just be friends?!

    If you see a girl you only do that..SEE..so the most important thing is the looks..then you go and talk to her, but what made you want to talk to her was her looks!

    Than maybe you find out after a few small talk that she is interesting enough for you to ask her number or ask her on a proper date..

    Who the hell want to be friends with a girl you meet in a bar for 5min?!

    Things take time to grow..you talk to random people in a bar because you want to have fun, not because you want to make friends right away..

    Oh and one more thing..

    The anonimous girls said "when a guy asks me for my # and I say I have a boyfriend, that means I am letting him know I am not interested and the conversation should be over." that is so not true!

    Any successful guy know how to catch a woman bluff and even if you do have a boyfriend there is a think called manipulation, I know that word sounds bad, but in the real world many people use it and the only ones who say it's wrong to do it are the losers who don't have the skills to!

  • Tease her..

    Say something like "But your boyfriends lets you have friends, right?"

  • 1. I've done the exact same thing as you have. Actually girls just gave me their number.

    2. Eh you ask if you want to hang out sometime or do something. In a casual, non-flirtatious, non-sexual tone.

  • Hmm...something like that happened to me, but I just winged it.

    ME: So how's was your weekend?

    HER: I did stuff with my boyfriend.

    ME: I guess I can't ask for your number then.

    HER: Oh yeah.

    ME: So, can I have your number?

    HER: But I have a boyfriend!

    ME: So, can I have your number?

    HER: But I have a boyfriend!

    ME: So, can I have your number?

    HER: But I have a boyfriend!

    ME: Okay. I guess I'll see your then.

    HER: I'll email you.

  • you say: anyways I just want you, I don't want your boyfriend for nothing :D

  • You reply "And I have two goldfish" and she will say "What?" and then you say "I thought we were talking about things that don't matter"

  • Just tell her that.

  • what if you do ask her out and she does have a boyfriend but still gives you her number?