My ex has moved on but still wants me in his life? But I can't be his friend.

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My ex broke up with me about 3 months ago because he didn't have the same feelings any more and was unhappy in our relationship. I was told that I was an awesome person, that he would likely kick himself and that he still wanted me in his life. I was really nice about it and didn't give him issues, saying I agreed that it wasn't working. I made the mistake of texting about a month later telling him I missed him whenever I saw him and I needed him to tell me his feelings for me were gone and there was no chance of us being together. He replied by saying he couldn't tell me that because he still had feelings for me and did miss our relationship, but that he was seeing someone at the moment. I respected that and told him it was enough to let it go. Found out a week later he was dating a girl he worked with who he was seeing before we met and he had constantly been in contact with and went for drinks and movies with while we were dating,(I had spoken to him about how uncomfortable it made me). I (probably wrongly) texted him to say "I told you so". He called to say that it had only started after we broke up and that when he was with me, I was the most important thing to him. I said I was just amused that I knew, before he did, how he felt about her and that I really was glad that he was happy. We have not had contact since, until last week when he texted me about something he saw on Facebook (coincidentally, 10 minutes after I had made a comment on Facebook about how nostalgic I was feeling) and has been texting and sending messages on Facebook daily since. I deleted him from my Facebook yesterday after seeing photos of him with his new girlfriend and realising I wasn't completely ok with it. Today I got a text saying how upset he was that he was deleted, that he wanted to see me and asking if I would be free to do something soon? I understand that he wants to be friend but I honestly just want to get over him, and being in contact with him is stopping me from doing so. He knows that I still have feelings for him. Why does he keep giving me hope and keeping in contact? And how do I tell him that I can't be his friend and as much as I want to see him, it's not good for me, without sounding mean and selfish?
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Just to clarify. Nothing happened between him and the girl until we broke up. There are no hard feelings, he really isn't a bad guy and we would likely, under different circumstances, have been friends.
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In the past week I have started giving other guys a chance and it seems to be working. I've also found out that he broke up with the other girl (exlains a lot). That said, I've pretty much decided move on. I have 2 much pride 2 be someone's back-up plan.
My ex has moved on but still wants me in his life? But I can't be his friend.
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