Bringing up Valentine's Day, especially when you're not official yet, can actually be a pretty smooth move. It's like dipping your toes in the water to gauge the temperature, you know?
You could start off super casual about it, maybe something like, "Hey, got any fun plans for Valentine's Day?" This opens up the convo without putting too much pressure on either of you. It's low-key enough to keep things chill but also gives you both the chance to hint at wanting to spend it together, if you're both feeling that vibe.
And if you're feeling a bit bolder, you could even throw out a suggestion like, "We should totally grab coffee or see a movie on Valentine's Day, just for kicks." It's playful and shows you're interested in hanging out, but it's also laid-back enough that it doesn't scream "I want us to get married tomorrow." Plus, it could be a great way to spend some quality time together and see if there's potential for something more without the heavy labels.
Remember, communication is super important in any sort of relationship, official or not. Bringing up Valentine's Day can actually be a good test of how well you both communicate and handle slightly delicate topics. It's all about the approach—keep it light, fun, and see where the conversation takes you.
At the end of the day, Valentine's Day can be about celebrating all kinds of love, not just the romantic kind. So, even if you decide to keep it as friends for now, it's still a win because you're spending time with someone you enjoy being around.
I would not be scared to throw out the idea out especially since you have already had sex but even then I think you are fine. I just wouldn't hold it against him if can't for some reason. It maybe too soon to expect it but not to mention it.
Yes mention Valentines day. When you talk to him soon wear something skimpy with cleavage and get him in a trap to force him to have to buy you something. And look at him with puppy dog eyes and say pleeeeeaaaase. That should be fun.
I'm in the same situation. I've been seeing this really great guy for about a month, but we haven't established officially that we are exclusive even though we've already had sex. I know he is not seeing anyone else right now, but at this point the relationship is up in the air. I agree ideally it's best to wait until you are in an exclusive relationship before you have sex, but It's hard to bring up relationship talks in the heat of the moment, and sometimes holding out won't ensure that the guy will want to be your boyfriend. I'm definitely waiting it out to see how he reacts around Valentine's day. I figure if he wants to spend the day with me or gets me a card or something then he is attracted to me on more than just a physical level. If not, perhaps I didn't give him enough opportunity to get to know me before things got physical. I don't think you should mention anything about Valentine's Day. He might get scared off and think things are moving too fast or you are becoming too clingy. If he's really into you he will do something. There are plenty of reminders everywhere, so don't worry about it. You will feel so much better if you know he made effort for you on his own.
Sorry, but this is putting the cart before the horse. You've had sex but you are taking it slow? Taking it slow means not having sex and taking time to get to know each other. So, what you really have here is a FWB deal that may or may not turn into something more. Sex does not completely establish that you are into each other. For a girl, yes, that is highly likely to be true, but for a guy, it means only so much. Guys can and do have sex with girls they have a physical attraction to without any fear of ever falling in love with her or wanting her for a girlfriend. The fact that he has made no mention of Valentine's is interesting. I say wait it out and see what he does. If he says nothing, it will give you a much stronger indication of where his mind is at. Since you are already having sex, pushing him on things like Valentine's Day (and by pushing I mean even bringing it up) could backfire on you. Until he has some sort of emotional connection to you (which guys do not get from sex though girls do), he won't want to do things like celebrate romantic holidays. Good luck.
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Not unless you want him to waste his hard earned cash on bullshit that’ll just end up at a goodwill. I mean seriously do we really need another shit holiday for women? We have too many bullshit things for women these days that just make men feel like shit in the end
m I dont see a need for it
Having sex but not committed. Idiot.
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