Should I give her the cold shoulder?

[Snows]

Ok so here is the deal. Me met girl about a year ago at a church group. I liked her and I suspected she liked me too, but she was 14 at the moment so I thought hey she may not be ready so I let it go for a moment. Year later I was talking with my bud and he brought up about me and her and that she still had a crush on me and well I said hey a lot happens in a year so maybe I should give her a chance. I talked to her and she came with she was a little confused by my timing, we talked some more and agreed to give it a shot.

Everything is cool at this point, I do many things to make her know I'm for real. Things are moving forward and I'm already making plans for that first kiss. Future is looking good. o so I thought.

Now about 2 an a half weeks ago she called me up to talk and said that she was still confused and needed time to think about how she felt and I ask if she wanted space and she said no she just wanted to think. I do that, I'm still there active for her. So the weekend passes where she was going to reflect on the situation and I wait for her call all week which never comes.I go to a reunion at her house but don't get the chance to call her out so I give her another week and still nothing. Last Friday I went to a surprise party for one of her friend that is also my friend and there she is. I try to spend some time with her but she seemed to be running from me as avoiding having to face me. So she gets to avoid me springing the talk on her but I tell her without beat we have to talk and she says that yes we do so so I say when, she says I don't know, and I was not going to leave it in her hands to choose when so I said tomorrow and she agreed. (Some times you need to make things happen). And then the next day I call her friend where she is staying over and I tell her that I'm on my way and I need her alone. She starts givingme 101 reasons to do it another day and I'm like no it has to be now, this is 2 weeks overdue. Well the "buts" still come so I finally get pissed and say well tell her that when "she" is ready that she comes to me.

Now don't get me wrong I love her to death but enough for me is enough. I had done for her more than anyone would have. I traveled from one end of Puerto Rico to the other just to see her for an hour maybe too( I don't live that far, I just study that far.) treat her like she deserves all the love in the world, go to her house cause I know she can't come to mine so easily. And after all this she makes me feel like all I've done was waisted and I'm back at '0'. I really don't deserve all this drama. I'm thinking I'm way to good to her to be treated this way, to be left in the blank. All I want is to know where I stand and she won't even give me that. So my sis suggest give her the could shoulder for a while, I'm thinking not even letting her speak to me if its no for 'the talk'. The question is should I really do it? All I want is to be with her and if she does not want that well at least some closer.

[jarjar0819]

ur situation reminds a lot about my situation last summer. From what I can tell you REALLY like her and I was in the same predicament where the girl wanted more time. I cared about more than anything else at the time and in some ways I still do, but I was impatient with her and long story short, it ended bad with her and I let the best thing ever happen to me slip through my fingers and it took me almost a year to get over her and to this day I still regret being impatient. Girls just need time and you need to give them that and it usually ends well. That's not to say that you should wait forever for her; wait maybe for like a month and if she's still playing the same game then, I think it's best if you let her go. but in that time just act cool and just let her get to know u. If she gets to know you better under less stressful conditions, she might just make a decision faster. Hope it works out better for you than it did for me.

[Snows]

Man I do hope I those go better than I imagine it will. To tell you the truth she now has all the time she could ask cause I'm not going to look for her anymore. She would have to come to me and I'm only there for the "talk" and nothing more.

[chuyky]

My friend, let me give you that straight. It seems like she doesn't know how or she doesn't have the courage to say you that she does not want to be with you. It seems like a pretty difficult thing for her to do (a matter of maturity). So the only way she can't think to do that is avoid you.

The solution is, I guess, look for a another girl!. Don't waste more your time. I know that at your age is way difficult to forget a girl you were thrilled with but I think that there are not else to do with her.

Maybe there should be another woman around interested on you that you haven't realized because your are focus on one woman that isn't worth it.

[HaggardDiva]

I wouldn't give her that much if she's treating you like that. I don't know if the "Cold Shoulder" is the answer but don't go looking for her. Lay off for a while and let her come back to you. And when she finally does (which she almost certainly will) come around to calling you, make sure you keep your cool. Be straight when you talk to her, not cold, but don't show her too much emotion. If she thinks it's OK with you now that this is happening, that she's not around, it will drive her crazy. And from there play it by ear. I guess, bottom line, just don't go back to her wait for her to come back to you, when you call a lot and always come around, girls find it clingy and they shy away. Good Luck!

[Snows]

Well you got a point there. And that's really good advice. Maybe not really be cold just as you said but I'm done chasing.

[sweetadrianis]

I totally agreed with your sister give her the cold shoulder.

that happen to me ones this guy used to like me and he was really nice to me. So I sort of play with his emotions.

that said you don't have to show the girl you love all your LOVE because then there gonna think that they have you in there hand.

trust me I know what am telling you.

---adriana. alvarez

[Regenerit]

She seems to be acting immature, according to GirlsaskGuys, you are 18-24. Give her the cold shoulder, she needs to understand that things like that won't be tolerated because they are immature and child's play.

[Snows]

Yes I'm 18 and she is 15 going on 16 in like a month or two. And your right, she is being really immature which is one of the reasons I'm a bit ticked off. And in a way I do have to show her that things like this won't fly with me.