How do I make amends with a girl I love?

[Anonymous]

I had a big argument with a girl I liked, and it didn't end well... well, I was in love with her, even tho we never dated and were just friends. I want to talk to her again, but I'm afraid my feelings will come back and be just as strong as before and I'm really really scared of getting hurt again... I want to clear up any issues that arose between us, I want my friend back, but I want more too... I feel over it now sorta, I'm not feeling it like it used to be, or I'm just getting more numb to it, but I know I'm gonna end up wanting her again.

I think she'd want to still be friends, but I'm still scared... I don't know how she's gonna react if I did try to talk to her again, and I'm just so afraid of getting hurt again. I really wasn't well at all for a while after it all happened...

I don't know what to do! I just feel so naturally drawn to her... I want to fix the problem and talk to her and everything, but... I'm just so scared. I want to make her all mine one day, I gave her that option herself too, but I can't wait forever... or maybe I could... :(

Idk. I just want to be with her and only her... I know she didn't mean the things she did. I just somehow things she's the girl for me.

I don't want to keep hurting myself but I know what I want... what should I do? It feels impossible to let go.

[Tayylorr]

OK 1st off you do love this girl, what you feel is confusion. You want her friendship but you know you won't be able to control how you really feel for her. You say you feel like its going away , its not. When you see her or talk to her it is going to come back so here's what you should do.

Exsept that you love her. Get back into reality so you can sit down with her and talk.

Now when I talk I don't mean tell her how you really feel about her. She is already feeling pressure to be around you now for before. Tell her that you want her to forgive you and for her to be your friend. say I miss my frind, and I know I came on to strong but it was the spur of the moment, I'm sorry, I don't want you to feel uncomfortable. If she is all for it the good!

But if she starts asking about you likeing her tell her that you do have strong feelings from her but you will not let that come in between the friendship. if she want more detail, say that you wish you one day will have a chance to have her for yourself. But reassure her that you are just being truthfull, not to make her decide.

But in the end girls are bitches, I promise you that. they can say they are cute and cuddely but that's bullsh*t. So if she hurts you agian you should perpare your self. Because you feel so strongly towards her that you are very vanulabul for pain.

Just do like is said, talk to her about frindship. if she brings up the past with the love thing tel her what you meant. If she wants to know more tel her that you want her for your self but let her know that that is how you feel. and if she can't except it then you need to kick her ass away. I know it hurts but you will learn...

GOODLUCK

-taylor

[azzhole725]

She is definitely your cocaine. You gotta have her cause you are addicted. As we all know, cocaine is not very good for you. What is my point? She is not good for you. You need an intervention. Is it impossible to let go, no. It's very possible; you just need to not see her, contact her, or even think about her. Of course the thinking about her is the hardest. There is no way this girl can affect you this much. She must be the hottest girl on earth and have a great personality, which we know, honestly, is not true. The thing is you need to find someone who will appreciate you and give you the same amount of attention and devotion as you have demonstrated. You're never going to find happiness with this girl who has you in the "friend" zone. Besides, you're going to ruin the friendship anyway because you want more. If you truly care for her, you'll let her go. That is the greatest gift you can give her.

[Asker]

I def agree on some points... I haven't spoken to her in 6 months and on top of it it doesn't seem like she's quite fully let me go based off what I've seen... I don't actually see her anymore. It's just a really weird situation.

[bundygal]

Just talk to her man! It is as easy as that. If it is you, then I am here to talk! But if it's not the person I think it is, then sorry for the mix up. It's only because this situation I'm reading sounds very similar to mine. I'm not a monster lol just talk like we used to. I'm feeling it too and just as nervous as you are but we will get there. It's growth and steady growth. :-) However, I live in Australia.