Why am I never noticed by guys while my friends can't stop being noticed?

[Anonymous]

i have petty much 3 friends. they're all girls and they are my best friends.

one girl has a boyfriend so I don't mind her, but the other two always seem to be with guys and being hit on by guys and what not.

i feel like I'm the ugly friend, which I probably am, and no guys ever talk to me. both of my friends are always talking about who hugged them or who they want to be in a relationship with, but I can never contribute because I don't know any guys well enough.

all the guys I know don't find me attractive and they ALL think my friends are "super hot"

they would ask me to find out if the girls liked them.

why am I never noticed!?

[wildfire5288]

Story of my life. Unlike the other two guys I'm not going to assume you're overweight or suggest you go out and find a slutty top. In my case there's 2 girls that I'm really good friends with and one of them gets hit on all the time. When I say all the time I mean that there is not one instance where we've gone out and she hasn't been hit on. And the worst part is she'll engage the guys and talk to them while me or me and my other friend are just kinda standing there awkwardly and even if we do try to chime in whoever's talking to her gives us a "stfu" kind of look. I was out to dinner with my other friend (who's like me and doesn't get hit on all the time) and we were talking about it and she said that she doesn't think our other friend is that much prettier than the two of us and that she's embarrassed to go out with her because of how she dresses. She always wears really tight jeans or shirt skirts and her boobs almost always seem like they're barely contained (meanwhile the two of us tend to show up in jeans and a shirt unless we're going someplace nice).

I honestly don't have anything to insightful other than I know how you're feeling because this has been going on with us and this girl since 8th grade and we're about to be seniors in college. The only conclusion we've ever been able to come to is that we don't have all the goods hanging out when we go out. But while we're both at school we're in the same position with our friends there, watching them hook up and get hit on while we don't, and neither of us are ugly, we're not super models but we're not ugly. I don't think either of us are unapproachable either so I don't really know what it is. I think guys just have a thing for girls where they don't have to imagine too hard as to what she'd look like naked (which is why I tend to think that all guys really do just care about physical appearance because in 21 years I've never been given a reason to think otherwise).

[Asker]

Thank you so much. I'm not overweight and I don't dress too tight or too baggy.

we all have the same style. guys talk to me and I have a few guy friends but they think my friends are hot, not me. it just gets me so annoyed cause a lot of times, the guys they talk to and think are cute and the ones I've known first and they were introducd through me.

[Anonymous]

Myabe all you need to do is boost your confidence. And do you dress in ill-fitting (too tight/too baggy) clothing? That could be the reason why they don't like you. I have the same situation, but I just try to stand out from them more often, and be more noticable. I'd say it's helped me, because I'm talked to much more by guys than I have ever been before.

[dellfavorite]

are you overweight? maybe you should wear something low cut, to show off the goods better, Maybe some more make up? If you want to be hot like your friends you have to start looking more like them.

[Trihill]

maybe you should try to improve yourself instead of trying to compare yourself to others and just worrying about it

[Asker]

But if start changing myself, wouldt peple start liing me for somethin I'm not...?

[Trihill]

No...you're doing something about it...don't abuse it like some girls do and then they start lying to themselves