Guys, gym crush keeps ignoring me then stares at me from across the room, could he just be uninterested?

[rairai]

hello guys,
i have been crushing on a guy i see every day at the gym. he started saying hi after my friend and i introduces ourselved to him, he seems very sociable with other people. he talks with everyone except me, he s asking my friend how she s been, what exercises will we do, he even asks where i am if i take a free day &co and totally ignoring me while being close to me... but, there s a but, i always catch him starring at me from the distance, or from across the room, in the mirrors. i don t know what to believe.
i really admire him, not in a freaky way, but it hurts to be ignored by the one i like.
what do you think? why would someone ignore the hell out of you, then stare at you from the distance?

[sam66270]

Initiate a conversation about anything. See where he takes it from there. If you like him, laugh and smile during the conversation. Or show him you like him

[rairai]

i will give it a try. thanks :)

[LeFrogDog]

I'm a shy guy so let's see if I can help. If he is starring trying catching him in the act. When I stair it's to see if she is interested.

[rairai]

i always catch him. he keeps looking then starts the set...

[LeFrogDog]

That appears to be the main point of interest. You do know your stairing too lol. It could be possible that you both are trying to catch each other looking. To be honest the gym is boring, having a cute girl near motivates me to get those extra reps :)

[rairai]

i get motivated just by knowing he ll be there too :))

[LeFrogDog]

I see no reason you both can't be motivated together. Ask advice on some workouts, compliment his form, workout near him more often, etc.

[rairai]

i ll try it. thanks 😚

[LeFrogDog]

No problem, you are welcome to message me if you hit a snag.

[rairai]

thanks dear 😍

[LeFrogDog]

My pleasure 🤓

[JesusIsMyOnlyLord]

Please, ask him by your own...
Every answer you might get here are just speculations, because nobody here knows what your crush's really thinking about you.
And if he doesn't know it by himself, then only god does...

[rairai]

i can t go straight at him and ask him why he acts like that. i don t want to scare him or make him think i am crazy...

[JesusIsMyOnlyLord]

Why would you scare him by asking why he stares at you?
He is maybe just admiring your beauty and charmingness, hopefully without any other, unpleasent, thoughts.
But if he is reasonable, loving, and courageous enough, he would just tell you, and he could maybe even decide you to be his.
The worst that could happen is that he is secretly a total jerk, and as quick as he knows that you have fallen in love with him, he could try to exploit your emotional state for his own dirty desires...
The second worst that could happen is that he would feel ashamed of his obvious behavior, that he would try to flee, before transforming into a puddle of shame.

[rairai]

i don t know. maybe he puts himself together inbetweeen sets by watching someone else. i wouldn t want him to know i have a crush on him. i am not the only one that saw his behaviour and found it curious. regarding the beauty part i am not that sexy at 6am in the morning to be honest :)))

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is married? Is he a lot older than you? How much do you really know about him

[rairai]

not much, name. he does look a little bit older...

[rairai]

let s suppose he is married. he can t speak with me but the 2hours we spend there he keeps looking at me. would it be ugly if i told him to look away?

[Opinion Owner]

Might be rude to say it like that, maybe something more subtle if you can

[rairai]

hmm. oki. thanks

[Alexander101]

Just go talk to him, find out more about him (if he is single etc) then see if he wants to meet outside of the gym.

[Seppelson]

simply answer. he stares at you how can he not be interested?
Someone who is not interested gives a fuck about you and will never stare at you. sometimes I believe all girls here don't know how he simpliest human beings are

[rairai]

:))) he s hot and cold that s why i asked

[Seppelson]

maybe he read in a magazine that girls likes that ^^

[rairai]

who even reads magazines

[rairai]

i m kidding

[Anonymous]

eh, we generally dont go to the gym, to meet mates. we're sweaty and gross, and you are too. i would stay away from gym freaks

[rairai]

i don t go either to meet guys. but i noticed his behaviour and i found it intriguing why he can speak with anyone except me.

[Opinion Owner]

it's a common trait.. sometimes extroverted people will become shy around the person they like, because they don't want to "say the wrong thing", but, not always

[rairai]

good to know. it never happened to me before...

[MainGuy]

Maybe he is shy as sh. t

[rairai]

uhh. that s a bad thing coz i am too...

[MainGuy]

Try to talk to him about the Most random things like... weather, work (school idk)

[rairai]

uhh yeah. my mouth won t cooperate and i ll be like a tomato 😂😂😂