Guys - Would you date a girl who drinks a lot?

[Anonymous]

I like to drink a lot, I go out with friends at least 4 or 5 times a week. I have a guy I like who also likes to party a lot, and has admitted that everything is better with alcohol, lol. However, I drunk text him a lot :( (I really need to leave my phone at home but you see there's this other guy I'm sorta involved with that the guy I like doesn't really know about, well he kinda does but thinks it's over, and the guy I'm involved with would kick my ass if I was out and didn't answer my phone). Anyways, would you date a girl who drinks a lot? Or would you be totally against that?

[ikarus]

hmm this is a post with lots going on but ill stick to the question. personally...i would not. however...with every situation, there are always unique circumstances. for example...i myself LOVE to drink, but the amount and frequency vary greatly. I have not been drunk in a loooong time, yet I drink anywhere from three to four times a week. I don't ever allow myself to get super sh*t faced tho..because its an uncomfortable feeling and I believe nothing in excess is good for you. that being said...females who drink a lot are stereotyped for being incapable of being monogamous (I have no idea if your story of flings with two different males is evidence of this, or just coincidence?). however, I cannot be hypocritical so there has to be some leeway, so its acceptable as long as she doesn't allow herself to become completely obliterated because alcohol is known depressant of inhibitions. also, a big factor has to do with the security of the relationship to begin with; i.e., if I trusted my girlfriend with my life and around ANY male...then it wouldn't matter if she had a social drink here and there. but if I had a girlfriend who I couldn't even trust in a room full of homosexuals then coupled with the fact that she HAS to drink, then it would be a deal breaker for me.

[Asker]

So if he already has this view of me (personally I don't HAVE to drink, I just drink a lot... but I don't go and have sex with random guys or anything, but then again he doesn't know this so he may assume I do) what can I do to change this view?

[ikarus]

When you say "a lot"? does that mean you drink frequently? or in large amounts? or both? in any case,to change his view you really only have 2 options. a) depending on how much you drink, you may need to may a drastic cut or b) give him peace of mind that you're not a promiscuous drunk (however..i think this would be the least effective of the two. I'm assuming the reason you posted this question is because your drinking has already affected things so its probly better altogether you stop drinkin

[MrKkibbles]

Most likely not. I drink a lot in frequency but I rarely ever get drunk, and have never had a hangover or gotten sick from it. This is in heavy contrast to what I have seen with friends and family who I have many of times needed to escort home, or fetch a bucket for and I know what it does to people. Even up at the campground we often visit the majority of people there are what I would consider alcoholics, they will put liquor in their morning coffee and if you need their help with anything they are more than happy to accept payments of 6-packs.

My point is, I probably wouldn't but it depends on how drunk you get and how you act when you are.

[Louise123]

Drinking buddies are great. Does a guy respect a girl who is always sucking on a liquor bottle? I think you know the answer to that question. Don't let it get around that you drink too much. You will get a reputation you do not want. 4 to 5 times a week is too much. Sorry. Please start acting like a responsible person - limit your partying - and you will attract the right guys for you. No guy will respect someone like you. They may like to hang with you but will never look at you as a serious girlfriend. You should figure out why you think you need to drink so much. Nobody will respect you if YOU don't respect you. Clean up your act and act like a lady. You will get MUCH better results. Just be sweet - kind - flirty - fun - and don't act like a barfly. Not attractive. Trust me.

[Asker]

I don't drink too terribly much, and I don't have like random sex or anything like that... but I don't think he knows that. If I have this reputation kinda with him what can I do to change that?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't date a girl who drinks a lot, but only because I don't drink a lot. I have a friend though who doesn't let his girl drink even though he is drunk everynight because he thinks if she's drunk she be more apt to cheat or do something stupid. To me that's stupid