I was just wondering because I've always been called handsome and never anything else and always hated. to me it was always just something you call somebody that is not gooding but a good person to make them feel better. although recently I've found out there are definitions.
so for the guys, do you like being called handsome?
for guys and girls, what is your definition of handsome?
What we need is a way to compliment a man's physical appearance that would be improper for his mother to use. Handsome is appropriate for his mother to use therefore it lacks the desired emotional punch that you would want from a woman you were sexually interested in.
Think of it this way: the proper word, if said by a guy's mother, should imply incest. It would be scandalous for her to say it, therefore she would not. The word would convey the desired additional meaning is said by a fellow's love interest.
Consider this imperfect example:
What if a woman described her son as "fuckable"? Scandslous! Horifying! Right?
Now let a girlfriend say that her man if "fuckable". That's appropriate and desireable. It also expresses the sense of attraction I think you are looking for. We just need a term with this sensibility that was not vulgar. Hmm...
Now that I think about it, I suspect this void in the language is somewhat intentional. I think for women there is a desire to preserve ambiguity and deniability. That sounds about right.
I've always been called handsome by close family and friends, so I guess you could consider them biased.
I guess it depends. If a girl really likes you, and she says you are handsome/cute/gorgeous/adorable, it doesn't matter whether it is true or not (also remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder), the fact that she cares about you enough to complement you on your looks should be more then sufficient for you. If you consider yourself unnatractive, you don't get called handsome by family and friends, but your girlfriend/boyfriend constantly complements you on your looks, that's when you truly know what a special person you have, because you know they are seeing past your looks, and truly love you for you. ;)