Why hasn't he messaged me back yet?

[Anonymous]

So I met this guy off a dating website.he messaged me first and said how interesting my profile sounded.so I messaged him back and then started talking from there.After talking for a few days, we really hit it off and when he wouldn't be able to make it online to chat for the night he would actually be so considerate to message me and apologize! He would even say how much he loved talking and how he couldn't wait to talk again and all that good stuff.so I guess a girl gets excited right? I really started liking this guy and it seemed like he was interested as well.just all of a sudden maybe a week and a bit later.he just cut it cold turkey.I wouldn't hear from him unless I messaged him then he'd say he would love to talk in a message back.but I'd never see him online.I don't get it.Did I say something wrong? Did I appear too available or something? I swear we really hit it off and I loved his company.I'm just so confused because I was actually really liking this guy! Now I can't stop thinking about it because I just can't stand the thought of not knowing what happened so rapidly.ahh! Help please if anyone may have any idea.

[bubblyblonde]

Firstly you don't like him cause you do not know him, its his online persona you have a liking for.when/if you meet that should be the only time you decide if you like him as he could be totally different in real life, also there might just not be any chemistry when you meet up. Don't get too excited about emails and online chats, just use it as a tool to meet people/guys, that's it. So my advice to you, would be get back on the dating website and find yourself some other guys to talk too see if you can arrange some dates 1) it will take you mind off Mr Awol 2) you should be doing this anyway and not just being exclusive before you have even met someone in person - how do I know all this, cause I online date too. I don't get over excited until I meet them, I used too, then you'd meet and 1) they wouldn't look like their photos 2) they would be boring as hell 3) no chemistry 4) you get the idea. The other thing is hun, he doesn't know you so he doesn't owe you anything - sure people should be courteous but he doesn't owe you anything - and you shouldn't be questioning yourself and your actions. Ps. Best way to get over one man, is to get onto the next one - get back on the site!

[Evolution86]

Just give him some space. He probably got spooked by the idea that this girl he's only talked to online is crushing on him. I know I was in his position not too long ago. The only thing was, I was crushing on someone else while this great guy was crushing on me. He knew I was interested in this other guy, so instead of pushing me to go for him instead, he left it alone. And then, when things didn't work out with the guy I had wanted, I kept talking to the other guy. After talking to him for a few hours a night for probably 2 months prior to him going to work for a month (he works away from home), and then he went to work, I realised I missed him, I missed talking to him. I quickly discovered feelings for him, and when we would talk while he was away at work, he realised it too. But the bottom line is, the best thing he could've done was to back off for a while. We'd still talk, but we'd keep it friendly, nothing too serious about his feelings or anything, just work and stuff like that. So, just back off a bit and see what happens.

[lostandconfused]

I'm so sorry, but no answer is your answer. I would just back off a bit and let him come to you. If he doesn't then you have your answer, but if you back off, he may come fighting back.guys love the chase. Just don't wait around for someone who flakes without an explanation. Just don't accept less than you deserve.

[browolf]

Thats because you see it as "we really hit it off" but guys see it as almost passing time. he loves talking to you until someone else he loves talking to more comes along. You know how guys have one-track minds, we can't multitask. that tends to mean our attention is on one woman at time and the rest fall by the wayside. Most guys don't really understand this so tend to tell the others, yeah we'd love to talk, but then don't get around to it, cos the one we really want to talk to turned up. He doesn't apologise anymore cos he's not trying to keep you talking to him. This is nothing to do with you or how you were. its how guys work online. Guys generally take what they can get without any guilt over the effect it has on women, All that stuff he said was in the moment, a different moment he might be thinking something else entirely. The only way to be more sure of a guy is that he has explanations for unexpected events and he follows through with actions. The minute a guy starts saying stuff and not doing it that's when you know he's not feeling it like you are.

[Anonymous]

This happens a lot when you meet someone online. He probably became interested in someone else.