You could ask him if he would be freaked out if you asked him to be your date for the wedding. Tell him ahead of time that you just need a date for it and that if he says no, that it's ok. I think the way you say it and what you say are important in determining whether he is going to be freaked out or not. LIke, if you say it staring into his eyes with an intense look on your face, he will probably be freaked out (unless he secretly wants to marry you already - ha ha)! However, if you say it very casually and nonchalantly, like,"I have to go to this wedding and I need a date. Do you want to be my escort?" That way he doesn't feel any pressure or that you have wedding bells ringing in your head or anything.
He knows that you just need a date and that's it. Make sure he knows it's just a date & not anything else and he should be ok. However, depending on his personality, schedule and other things, he may not want to go. Weddings are normally stuff that guys really like to try to get out of going to if they can, so prepare yourself ahead of time for possible rejection of that idea, but don't take it personally, because most guys aren't really into that stuff! And, if he does go, don't make a big deal out of it afterwards - the fact that he went with you, that is, because if he is a typical guy, he doesn't want it to be broadcast that he went to a wedding just because his girlfriend asked him to go, etc. Guys normally have a code about that stuff. You don't do stuff like that with a chick normally unless you are "committed" to her. So, if he tells his guy friends, they might think he is "whipped." You get the picture. Ask him anyway, but nonchalantly, like I said, and don't mention anything that I said! Good luck! :)
Why not? What's the worst that happens?
Seriously, it has three possible reasons/outcomes:
1. He's weirded out by the request because it has to deal with commitment. In which case, if he still is uncomfortable after a month, what makes you think a year (or five) will be any better? I would think you'd rather know now.
2. He cannot logistically get out of work. He reluctantly declines but notes that you think he's worthy enough to introduce him to your friends and party with them. He knows that he's got your affection and he's taken note that he's let you down. He either owes you one or thinks that you're probably gonna invite another young guy to the event that CAN attend. And that drives him crazy!
3. He accepts the invitation. You go and have a wonderful time singing, dancing, drinking, and partying, because you're one heck of a gal to hang out with!
Really it's all up to you. I've kinda learned that you never know unless you ask. What do you have to lose? Only you can answer that question.
My vote would be to take a chance, possibly make a mistake, and live with no regrets. :-) Good luck!
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this is hard to say whether you should or shouldn't because every guy ( or girl ) is different, some guys could be like of course ill go! others would get freaked and dump you in a week or so. I would talk to him about it and ask if he thinks its to weird or to soon for him to go to something like that. Also if he has met this friend of yours many times in the past month he may be ok with it. don't know. good luck
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