I feel like all I ever do is disappoint my dad. I try so hard to please him... but it feels hopeless. :(

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From the time I was really little, my parents have been divorced and I've always just lived with my dad. Well, I'm 17 now and I've always been a "daddy's girl" . I'm an only child, so naturally he is very protective over me. I love my dad, don't get me wrong. love him to death. And I try SO hard to be the best daughter I can be not only for myself, but also to make him proud.

Thing is, I am getting really tired, and I'm beginning to feel like no matter what, he will always be disappointed in me.

I've always been the "good girl" at school. The one who is always happy, nice, and tries hard to get good grades. I've never smoked, drank, done drugs, skipped class, or been in any kind of trouble. I'm off to college now, and he still isn't proud of me.

He always tells me I could be doing better, that I don't try my hardest, or even that I shouldn't go to college because I won't be able to compete with the other students there. (I know I won't be the smartest kid there, or even close to being the smartest kid there... but it still hurts to hear him say these things.)

He always yells at me for things like... the way I do my makeup, the things I wear, the size I am, and even how I hold myself.

Thing is... I wear very little makeup, I dress conservatively, and I'm underweight for my age/height according to my doctor,

I am FAR from perfect, but I also know that I could be a lot worse.

I just want my dad to see that I do try my best in everything that I do and that I just want to see him happy for me/ proud of me.

He has never told me that I make him proud or even that I've done well on anything. I want him to love me for the person I am.

What should I do?

Sometimes I feel like he doesn't even love me.

Should I give up on the whole father-daughter relationship thing, or should I just keep trying?

Thanks for your time, and thanks for helping.
I feel like all I ever do is disappoint my dad. I try so hard to please him... but it feels hopeless. :(
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