Girlfriend doesn't seem to care?
I feel like my girlfriend doesn't put me first like how I put her. She says I'm everything but she doesn't make me feel like it. I feel like I deserve better because I'm so good to her, I would die for her. But it feels like she knows I'm there so she doesn't care. She says one thing and does the other. It hurts so bad. Do you think I'm just being silly?
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I've had a Girlfriend for a month and I really would do anything for her and I want to be with her all the time. Whenever I'm with her at school it's as if she ignores me and doesn't care at all and she laughs at everyone else even though often their jokes are pretty stupid and rarely funny, I don't even know how to talk to her anymore I feel like everything I say is wrong and she only cares about herself. She's told me probably three times after I've been admittedly sad that "she's with me". But who really cares if she doesn't show it or we don't really talk about anything other than small talk. I joke with her friends whom I just met and for example at the lunch table today I had the whole table laughing except for her. It's f***ing awful. I've always felt like I'm really caring and good to girls and nice and funny. She just makes me feel awful about myself and all I want to do is nothing or just get away. I don't deserve this sh*t but I want the real her so bad. If this continues for a while I think I'm going to dump her.
What Girls Said 2
You just need to sit her down and tell her how you feel. Tell her look if you say you want to be with me and you love me then you need to show me that. If not, then you don't feel like we are the perfect match. Remind her that you put her first before everything and she seems like she doesn't want you first in her life.
If she does say you are everything, then that must mean you are. Maybe she is not showing her love to you for a reason. You need to talk to her about it. It's not easy for many girls to show the person they care about the most that they do actually care. I am also like this. For me it's really hard to let out my feelings. I'm sure it's because I wouldn't want to open up to someone I'm not sure that truly loves me. She probably isn't convinced about how you feel. So she is holding back.
What Guys Said 2
If you want her to care for u, then stop caring for her, or at least stop showing that you care for her at times. She'll miss the affection, and start to return the affection in order to get it in return. When she does this, you can then reward her with some of your own. That's how you can make her show how much she cares.
Nope. I feel the same way about this girl I am dating. It seems the only way that she shows any emotion is if I say I am leaving or don't call for a couple of days. I am seriously thinking about getting out of it. I am giving her some time to ponder my ultimatums that I have laid out for her about what I need out of a relationship and must have.