Growing up my father always reminded me that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance and when you cross it you often times don't even know it, which is why you have to listen to your friends when they put you in check.
I have said it before and I will say it again; the worst, most unattractive, obnoxious of all is the self proclaimed "divas" and "princesses". The only way to deal with these women is to completely ignore them. Don't try to tell them anything especially about their behavior it will only fuel their attitude. I mean completely ignore them, and I mean everyone ignore them. Act as if they are not even there and hopefully they will either find some humility or simply just go away knowing that no one wants to be around them. They seem to exist in this dream world where somehow being in their company is a privilege that they are bestowing upon people. Hopefully they will realize that others don't see it as a privilege but a plague.
On this note I propose a new acronym DwD - "Down with Divas"
I understand the line between confidence and arrogance everyone is describing as the symbol of being stuck-up, but I always thought stuck-up women (and men), were not fully rounded out individuals. It's like they don't understand other people or certain topics, so they ignore it and pretend its not important. i.e. they're stupid and think they are better. They perfect what they know, all the superficial shit, into an art form that does get them a good looking man, a decent job, the nicest clothes and car. Of course, other women see this and think damn what am I doing wrong? They'll figure it out and copy those techniques. more divas. As a chick and an army brat, I've seen it more in women, and I've never been able to hold anything but the most meaningless of conversation with these types. So, I have avoided them! I never understood why a man would date them. And yeah, my opinion of that man does go down a few notches when I see them falling for those chicks. Yeah, those women are usually hot, but hell what kind of conversations do they have? lol. Anyways, just wanted to stick in my 2cents.
i know 5 girls in particular who are shit hot and omg they couldn't be more stuck up there own holes if they lived there!
they think because they are beautiful they have some right to have whatever they want and treat people whatever way they want!
this doesn't speak for all pretty girls I'm just saying these 5 girls I know are like that!
but I also get told I'm stuck up all the time because apparently I look stuck up and you would not believe how many guys stay clear because they expect me to be stuck up so I usually always have to make the 1st move so guys if you think a girl is stuck up just by looking at her please for god sakes go find out if she's actually nice or what because its kinda annoying when someone goes oh I thought you were stuck up but your actually not 1 bit.!
I know I'm not a guy but I must say I do see it happen alot!
Its not always because of sex appeal though. Sometimes its because they were spoiled or still are spoiled by their parents. Maybe they have family problems and take it out through their attitude. There are many reason why you see this, and a lot of times it can be sex appeal but there is a lot of times more behind that, and its usually not just that.
I have people all the time tell me that they think or thought I was stuck up when they first met me. But the truth is I'm actually pretty shy when I first meet people. And by being shy and not talking, people have mistaken me for stuck up. I'm really pretty laid back when you get to know me. I try really hard not to judge people on first impressions because I understand that it is easy to be misunderstood.
Oh yeah their are a lot of stuck up women. I'm only in high school but that means I see a lot of them start to develop that attitude. Still, their are still a lot of nice girls out their so please make sure not to group us all together. :) Some of us girls are getting sick of the stuck up ones to.
PS: Sorry about answering a question you only asked the guys. Just had to say that we aren't all like that. :)
A friend of mine kept complaining about how many guys are players, but then she realized that the problem was that she kept going for the same type of guy, so the problem was her choice of guys, not the guys themselves... Ur you keep going after the same type of girl, nothing will change, they will often have the same attitude problem...
Also, not ever girl who comes across as snobby actually is. Some are shy, a lot of people put on a pretense of "confidence" to cover up the truth, others have family or other issues that make them behave a certain way... People often used to think I was snobby because I can be really shy... I learnt that to avoid being labeled as snobby, I just have to smile more and make eye contact; even if I'm to shy to speak a lot at first, having friendly body language makes all the difference
Stuck up girls are the easiest to get though. Most of the reasons why they are stuck up is because:
A) They have gotten everything in their life solely based on their looks.
B They are insecure and need to try and control every situation they are in by making others feel lower than them.
All you need to do to get a stuck up woman is push past the bullshit sheild they put up one you. Many of these girls will be quite loyal and sweet to you because they are looking for a guy that won't take their shit since everyone in their life has given them what they wanted. These are the girls that date convicts and "bad boys' because they are the ones that don't treat them like princesses. And these women will stick by those men like glue. So you can't tell me they aren't caring people.
Stuck up girls to me are like spoiled children. All you have to do is lay the law on them and not take their shit and they end up being pretty nice people to be around.
confidence versus arrogance! so many girls these days are so arrogant. I'm attracted to beautiful women but as soon as they become arrogant it's a huge turn off. Even if they look like a Victoria Secret Super Model if they are arrogant it makes me want to puke.
These girls usually end up with guys that they can control and manipulate.
That is very unfortunate because basically what they found is not true love, but an insecure moron who will put up their arrogance just because they look good.
I think now-a-days women are more this way due to media influence. Good question
Have you ever heard of some saying that goes like "how something seems to be isn't necessarily how it is." sumthing like that.
As a man your age, it's natural for you to say that, because that's how it seems. I don't have to give evidence on why women seem stuck up, you already got plenty of evidence.
If you continue to think that though... you just don't get it! you gotta understand why they "are" stuck up! Those attractive women you find to be stuck-up, if you can get to know 'em well, you'll find out they're not stuck up at all.
There are stuck-up women though, but what I've found in my experiences is that beauty isn't a factor at all in their arrogance, mostly anyways. There are some unattractive women who are very arrogant, and them I hate the most.
I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years simply because she was a bitch to me! She had no humility and always expected the best.
Honestly now she is really regretting it and wants me back. Because I am a safe, loving, nice guy who doesn't take shit.
But now I have come out of my shell and started to talk to other girls but they take one look at me and write me off before I even get to show myself. I'm not the best looking guy but damn give me a chance, I could be the best guy for you. Its double standards... if you do that to her girlfriend you are mean. It is extremely rare to find any woman who will "treat others how you would like to be treated".
So now I believe I will be looking to Russian and Japanese women to date!
Yea I have to agree with some women being stuck up, to the MAX! and because they think they're all that its like they deserve the best I've seen a few girls with top notch bodies but the face jesus christ THE FACE! I really wonder how guys can block out that image and still talk to that girl lol see if us guys were to change a bit and take away what those stuck up women feed off of which is our attention things would be a little different to a point