Do you boys spend a lot of time thinking about a girl?

[ladyrara26]

Do guys overly think things about girls too ? Do you boys spend a lot of time thinking about a girl ? I feel like girls spend way too much time over analyzing things, or am I wrong and guys do it too?

I have been thinking about a boy for a couple days, and its really annoying ! I guess I'm just wondering if you guys do that to or forget.

If you do think about a girl, what do you think about her?

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Not really... I don't place so much effort in thinking about her. Why? I do not expect her to place too much effort likewise. Nevertheless, before you misinterpret my situation I shall explain.

If it is only dating, and not an actual marriage, even if it is on terms of exclusivity, I do not expect her to place too much of her thought process on me anyway. Why? simple, there are more important things to be thinking about. As long as we remain faithful to each other and have plans for the future that we are actively and progressively working toward, and not allowing things to fall apart because of a frivilous affection, I do not expect her to waste too much brain power on useless thoughts. To some people, it may not be viewed as "useless", but in reality, daydreaming is not action. If you want the person to appriciate you thoughts are not enough, actions speak louder than words, and thought bubbles. I don't waste my time thinking of her. The only thought is, At this time do this, and at that time do that. Nothing romantic or fantastic. I don't get off into the soapy fantasy stuff... I am a stone cold realist.

I am in no way calling your thoughts of him useless, but my question is, that as much as you say you think of him, aren't you a bit "obsessed"?

I mean no offense, just a logical question.

[ladyrara26]

Haha , none taken .

We are not dating. I had recently met him at a bar, and we really hit it off. I guess I'm just thinking of things I could have said/done differently to him ?

Im pretty sure its not an obsession. Most girls act like this.. well at least every girl I know.

My question is to find out if men think about it too.

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

I see..

My only suggestion is, in the future, to not have sucg regret, perhaps you should impulsively do what you wanted to do to catch his attention. It is not obsession, but regret... I try not to live with regret... Perhaps because I have grown cold over the years... I don't know, but I regret nothing. Even the fact I haven't dated in 7 years... No regrets... Why? No one piqued my interests enough. More or less, If someone does interest me, I will still remain unchanged as is....

[Jinmetsu_Rasetsu]

Typo... such... instead of sucg... LOL

[ladyrara26]

Thanks for the advice !

[Betawolf]

A lot of guys don't really care to think about things like this. Guys like to be simple and have things straightforward...so a lot don't really want to waste their time over analyzing things such as a girl they like. However, there are some, like me, that do tend to over think about girls and other things. When I think about a girl I like I always re picture her face and what she looks like, I can never forget even the smallest detail of her. I always go back over what she said to me in our conversations, and her body language that she gave me. Sometimes it gets to the point where I can't even do anything to get my mind off of her...but that just means that she put a darn good impression on me!

So really, id say maybe like 3/4ths of guys out there tend to not really think that much about a girl they like...i mean they do but not obsessively like girls tend to do.

[Dantemustdie]

I really can't stop thinking about the girl I love, like seriously every minute lol. I always thought I was the only one who does this but maybe not. I think about how she makes me feel and looking forward to the next time I'll chat with her, she's my first thought when I wake and the last when I go to sleep... I guess love does crazy things to ya :D

[martyfellow]

Sure, often I wonder what she is thinking about me, or IF she is thinking about me. Also, I wonder if she will fee the same as I do about people I meet or situations I am encountering!

Especially if you REALLY fall for someone, you're always wondering what THEY would say if they were with you...

[Anonymous]

well I think about a girl I really like all the time I actually try to stop but can't and yes I over analayse everything about her , it annoys me too that I can't get her out of my head I think about the laughs we had and the good times and miss her , this is the only girl I've ever actually can't stop thinking about in my life

[ladyrara26]

Have you known this girl for awhile ?

i just recently met this guy !

[Opinion Owner]

Yep I've known her for ages but things just kept going wrong , I think from knowin her so long I know all about the type of person and the things I like about her