Guys, how do you feel about girls playing games?

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Guys how do you feel about girls playing games. My opinion is a bit of game is a bit fun but it gets old really fast, as a girl I am guilty of playing games but more then half of the time I don't mean to be and most of my actions towards other guys (the jealousy game) are easily misconstrued like being huggy and flirty with my gay best friend (he is still in the closet). Another question guys how do you feel when you see the girl you like hugging another guy?

PHILR · Accepted Answer

you and the guy I just answered his question about not liking games should get together lol.

here's my probably dumb answer .

when I was younger I may not have said this but now I know better (/i think)

i believe girls play this game (being coy,hard too get and the like ) because its fun . yep that's right its fun to see the guy out there trying to impress you skirm ,right. but then again isn't it sort of a compiment to him in a round about way. if you weren't interested enough you wouldn't play the game. right! so isn't that in a way saying "keep trying you may be on the right track but you won't know unless you do" a compliment . other wise you'd probably wouldn't give him the time of day . correct

as far as the jealousy card it depends on if your really trying to make someone jealous enough to make a move on you or not. such as you mention your gay best friend. if a guy that didn't know that your bff was gay and this guy was interested in you it might work to a degree.

last question how would a guy feel if he saw a girl he liked being hugging or kissing even if on the cheek .

this depends on the upbring and personality of the guy . remember not all guys are alike and respond similiarly.

1. one might consider the girl already taken and not persue for that reason alone. even though he may have a crush.if he was unaware of gay guy friends orientation.

2. might make the guy jealous but (depends on personality) if shy and lacks self confidence

might go deeper into his shyness thinking he has no chance even though having a crush.

3. migfht consider girl too big of a flirt and might cheat on him with others if he was to get with her

4. might take the chance to approach but be wary of any deemed misconstrewed happings

as you dicribed with your gay bff or any other male aquiantences.

5 the jerk who really doesn't care at all as long as he gets what he wants and that's just bedding the girl. that's just 5 possible scenarios. I'm sure there are plenty of other variations as well.

playing the game can at first be something that lets the girl how interested he is in her but a constant diet gets old for the guy quickly. also an every now and again (widely spread out) of the game in mild form still may be fun for both in a way as long ashe's incouraging hoim to play along and not being mean about it.

i hope in some small way this helps answer your question

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i don't really care, then again id play my own game: find a new girlfriend

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I believe the chase in the very beginning can be fun, but it also really depends on who the guy is and if he's willing to play along of course. The games can get old very very fast too. Also, I won't play games if the guy isn't playing games.

scribble · Accepted Answer

Oh.  I thought it was video games or board games.  I switch my vote to "really immature" from "all girls should play games" You should have been more specific in the title.  O_o

saphirasilverwings · Accepted Answer

This can be tricky because sometimes girls are encouraged to play certain games, even by guys. Yet then it is also considered immature or uncaring. I guess there's a fine line.

Pandatoast313 · Answer

Plane and simple, games are what cause problems in relationships, its OK to play little cute games with each other every now and again, so long as the games are 1. not long term, 2. don't effect the guy much (which is hard to determine unless you ask.) 3. don't push an agenda of yours as a form of manipulation. Head Games are one of the most damaging things in a relationship because it breaks trust between two partners, and causes hurt if done improperly, every person is different, and will feel different when it comes to games, I like little games, but only as a way of being cute, and when they hardly effect me, my girlfriend respects me, and we talk about the things we like and dislike in a relationship so we know what to avoid, and she asks me prior to playing these games if it is something that would bother me, then does them when I don't expect it lmao. The point I'm trying to make here is that games should be avoided unless the games are not serious ones, like teasing someone about you knowing what there B- day present is or something like that, you should never ever try and make someone jealous, or even try to use manipulation to get someone to do what you want, because even the dumbest of people will catch on eventually, and lose trust, not only that, but its just simply wrong. How would you feel if a guy flirted with a bunch of girls, to make you jealous? Or even worse, because it wasn't working, he stepped it up, and started hanging out with them instead of you more? Mind games are incredibly dangerous to all relationships, no matter what the form, and should be avoided if you value this person, and this should be told upfront before the relationship begins, that way you can start a trusting bond with each other.

As for the other guy thing, if you are doing this to make him jealous, stop doing it. If you are hugging a guy because he is an old friend this is different, if he says he doesn't like it when you do it, its because he either is insecure about himself and feels inferior to the other male, there fore the other male posses a threat to him, or he flat out doesn't trust you. No person has the right to tell you what to do, he has the right to tell you it makes him uncomfortable, and to ask you to please stop, in which case you must chose to either stop for his sake and make him feel more comfortable, or keep doing this, and risk his trust. A true friend would understand , but not like the idea of stopping a hug, and a boyfriend who trusts you wouldn't ask you to stop. But don't take this out of context, if you originally did this before asking him if he was uncomfortable, or worse did so because he was, then of course he doesn't trust you. Also, a boyfriend who is trying to force you to do something, is not good. It is a sign you are in an abusive relationship. And these come in two forms, 1. because the guy is naturally someone who takes charge, and feels superior, or a guy who feels threatened and is afraid of loss.

setcheck67 · Answer

lol I lose interest pretty fast. I don't have to put up with a girl who thinks she's better then me, because I know I'm better then her. Can't tell you how many times a girl trying playing the game with me while we're talking and I just interrupt her "Oh my friends are here! Bye :D". Exactly like that, smile and all. I'm friends with most of the people at my college, because I can do more then one thing good, which sadly not many women do. I would know.. I'm in every sport except lacrosse at my college and often you'll find women devote all their attention to one of each sport. You'll also find they "hang out" with friends as their chief and often times ONLY activity for the day. Not good enough to play any sports or artistic enough to write/draw/speak or intelligent enough to do any other activities. No instead they stick with their ONE group of friends watching movies or shopping or they join a sorority and just do whatever they're doing(the leadership!).

If you're really as awesome as you think you are kudos to you, but a guy like me will just ignore you and move on to the likely more interesting and less annoying girl.

dreamtime · Answer

I actually like it when women plays games and doesn't just give in straight away, it shows me they don't just say yes to any guy and have standaards.I concider games as little tests women have to see wether your not just some loser hitting on them.

Obviously there needs to be a limit and usually that's when you both realize you like each other, it gets boring if you keep it up at that point but its fine to play games for a bit but continuously playing the same game over and over is a whole different thing and then I'm leaning towards immature.

Hugging means nothing to me, I hug my relatives, that doesn't mean ...

I could think your flirty in nature if its not just 1 person your flirty towards(tho I'm a teasing kind of guy when women are flirty in nature or specificly towards 1 guy) =)

MmaTender · Answer

Games are absolutely fun... It's a great way for people to show that they "get it" However, there comes a point where it has to get serious, if they want to be a couple. If the games never stop then it's just two people wanting to have fun and nothing more... Neither one is right or wrong, it just depends on what people want

I personally want something real so games to get to know each other, and keep things fun and interesting... When we connect and really have something the games have to go to the wayside... But that's just me

IWillNotBow76 · Answer

It can go too far. I wouldn't mind if a girl liked playing games with me, it would be fun. But sometimes there just has to be a bit of a seperation. I used to date a girl who would get on and play on xbox live with me which was perfectly OK. But when I want to play with the guys and get some serious gaming in she would kinda just include herself, which I didn't think was always right. I didn't mind it but she always assumed it was OK, I never butted into her friends plans. I later found out it was because she didn't trust me.. I don't know exactly how someone could be deceptive over xbox live.. but yeah that's my opinion.

Brando · Answer

It depends on what kind of games and what kind of behavior is considered "a game". The flirting game, the teasing game, stuff like that everyone likes so that's fine. The playing-hard-to-get game really depends. If it's playful, or even serious but not too intense, then fine. I think it's better than a girl just throwing herself at me. If I flirted around and had to sort of earn her attention, then that would appeal to my need for achievement :) However, if she enjoyed the attention she got from me, and wanted to keep it going without reciprocating, then that's not cool. After a while of being distant and I'll pick up and move on. I don't need dumb crap like that. But really, girls shouldn't really play games so I guess I should've voted A. Any other game or drama that a girl does like that is stupid and immature. Being playful isn't, and that's what I took this question as.

thisGUYknows · Answer

the initial game when you guys first meet each other is a little fun cause it gets things started. but if you wanna move on to the next level then it gets old fast. why beat around the bush and risk the other person becoming involved with someone else cause you wanna play games still? its a waste of time.

as for your second question. I'm not the jealous type so I really don't care. obviously she knows people longer than she's known me so its gonna happen. both sexes shouldn't interfere with their partner's relationships with their friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Basically, Rule#10 After every guy goes past 15-16, when #10 gets violated, they just leave. Like my mother always said: "Some girls are looking for a partner, and some girls are looking for a "real man." A "real man" is an idiot who takes it personally when she uses the word "real man." He's an idiot that's ridiculously easy to emotionally play with and manipulate. Some girls will care about you and love you, some girls just look at you as a way of fulfilling "their" fantasies; emotional, marriage, money, etc. So when you can tell that a girl is looking for an idiot, or a "real man;" ignore her and walk away. I'm your mother, and I'm telling you this with love; I might be old, but there's still no other more manipulative b*tch out there than me."

Anonymous · Answer

I'm largely indifferent.

I don't want to discourage a girl from playing games. It's better if she feels free to act as honestly as possible. That way, at least I can see if she's the type to play games and be dishonest. Better to know that kind of information sooner rather than later in the relationship.

If I'm looking to have sex (and by that I mean, just have sex "only") then games make the sex interesting. If I'm looking for a relationship, games make any romantic (and sexual) interest I have in the girl go away (like the flick of a switch).

TC123 · Answer

Who would you feel if you saw your man hanging all over some other girl? Jealousy is jealousy.

Games? If you want to be single forever, pining away for Mr. Right and wondering why your ugly friends get all the good guys then go for it.

Anonymous · Answer

It really depends what kind of games you're talking about, and how serious they are. Obviously as the relationship goes on for some time, I don't think it's such a great idea to keep playing games. They do get old after a while, and more importantly, I feel it can actually affect your overall relationship. I wasn't sure whether to pick B or E. I feel it's a little bit of both. When a girl plays games, it does make me want her more; that's just the truth. And when she doesn't play games, and has a problem when she sees that I'm playing games, then that's her problem. It would really be awesome if all girls would play games. I remember me and my ex girlfriend used to play countless hours on world of warcraft. We would team up in groups and finish leveling together. We would help each other get equipment and stuff. We would finish raids together; it was awesome. I absolutely loved her for it. But after a while, it got old.

drummerdude25 · Answer

To me its a mix of being immature, and it also makes you want her more... except you don't see it as being immature until its too late.

Games really hurt, you try to take someone seriously, and you get played with... If you're not ready to take someone seriously (and relationships seriously), you shouldn't be dating.

northwestree · Answer

I love it when my girl flirts with other guys. I like watching her be sexy.  I like seeing the other guys respond to her.   I know we have a good solid relationship, I don't have a problem with her showing off her sexyness withother guys.  I like it when girls really own their own sexuality.

bulbasaur · Answer

Alright, so I voted E...  I'm sorry, but I misinterpretted, I thought games like computer games.  I'm new to this site, but with game you mean flirting right?  In that case, I vote A aswell, its kind of annoying, but that's just my opinion. (note, I'm not saying this out of jealousy, I'd hate it when it happens to me aswell, unless she's so hot nothing she does can be wrong)

Nashton · Answer

i HATE it

cuz I can never figure out

then when I find out they really do like me.

they are not interested or donsnt like me anymore

i hate games... just flirt that gets the point across just fine for me...

SmoothBlue17 · Answer

cant stand it, frustrating and reveals your fake side

Hughman · Answer

A bit of a chase is a good. Can't beat the kick I get from it.

But girls that then fail to help in flirtation escalation annoy me. Flaking annoys me. And using 'jealousy game' more than once or twice will really p*ss me off.

moaterboat · Answer

My opinion on games? Knock that sh*t off! Women are confusing enough already!

Anonymous · Answer

It used to bother me, but then I discovered that the best way for it to NOT matter at ALL is for me to just keep on meeting lots of other girls and getting their numbers and asking them on dates too until I'm in an exclusive relationship with one of them.  That way, if any one girl I'm dating blows me off, it REALLY doesn't matter because there will be at least a couple more I could call for a date that same week.

sjli1804 · Answer

voted wrong lol, thought she were talking about video games! Fail.  Anyway I hate girls playing games, can't they just be straight forward?

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