Does a drunk text mean anything?

[Anonymous]

Alright so I'm so confused my lad friend texted me a few weeks ago drunk saying he had feelings for me. I asked him when he was sober and he jokes ya I'm secretly in love with u, we've flirted a bit, he s cuddled with me but I am so unsure can u cuddle with ur just a friend? I joked saying when he is in a relationship we won't have our cuddles. I've liked this guy for a year and a half i didn't do anything cause he had girlfriend a few months after we met and I missed my chance but they are broken up 7 months now. He s texting me more often. Are these all signs? I'll b seeing him next week should I make a move or flirt more how can I know for definite how he feels towards me? I don't wanna make a fool of myself or for our friendship to suffer
Any advice is a help thanks😁

[cazza3]

Confusing isn't it? I'm in the same situation except I've never slept with him and its been going on for years, yes I said years. You could probably try and ask her but when she's sober. I never got a straight answer so I tried asking when he's drunk but the problem there is he's drunk, see where I'm going with this. Its never ending. All that crap bout the truth comes out when you're drunk is exactly that, crap but I would say that people do get horny when drunk. Maybe that's what she misses the sex. Does she contact you sober? Does she flirt?

[Anonymous Asker]

She texts me sober like once or sometimes twice a week, just playful little sentimental stuff, she sometimes uses :P :) and ;) a lot in texts, and we talk online like once a week too. when I texted her the other morning (the first time I ever did that) she seemed pretty interested and happy. but she mentions her guy friend sometimes and she has a lot of guys giving her attention on facebook so I can't tell how emotionally invested I should be? should I back off or keep pursueing?

[cazza3]

She's probably asking herself exactly the same questions. I can't comment on the whole facebook thing cause I'm not on it and never will be but that's a whole other story. Obviously she's a good lookini girl if she's getting that much attention but there isn't a whole lot she can do about that. As for the guy friend don't worry about it she could just be trying to gauge your reaction or he could simply be a very good friend, just cause he's male doesn't make a difference.

[cazza3]

My best friend is male and I wouldn't change him for the world. What you need to figure out is which decision can you live with? Making a solid move towards her and getting rejected or doing nothing and you both move on. Maybe she doesn't know what you want. I can safely say I would not invest that much time with someone I wasn't interested in. Maybe its the distance that has her unsure or simply that all you had before was sex so she thinks that's all you want. Ask her!

[Anonymous Asker]

Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it. do you really think I'll lose her if I don't try to change the way our relationship is now? I'll see her over Thanksgiving week, should I just wait till then? is she is gonna forget about me within a month? I just feel like I'm slowly losing her

and how could I ask her what she wants out of our relationship? I'm setting myself up for a possible huge disappointment so I'm wondering if there's a way to make it less awkward for both of us?

[cazza3]

It probably feels like you're losing cause she might think she's being obvious when in fact she's confusing you. The fact that you haven't made any move towards her then compounds the idea in her head that you're not interested. Don't wait til Thanksgiving its too long yes idealy it should be done face to face but nothings perfect. Maybe the next time she drunk texts you flirt heavily I mean really heavily and see what happens the next morning. You won't lose her in a month as a friend but

[cazza3]

She has to move on sometime. Ask her does she ever think/wonder if/could you be/were more than friends. Try a phonecall the next time she texts you-sober. Yes you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment but do you want to keep wondering what if? Where you are now is a cruel horrible place to be wouldn't you rather know for once and for all

[Anonymous Asker]

So I got a drunk text from her last night and I wanted to try to do the heavy flirting that you suggested. she texted me things like "you're beautiful" "you're a cutie" and "i wanna kiss you" and other stuff like that. but I could tell she was really really drunk. and I'm pretty sure drunk people give compliments like that all the time so I don't know if she means it. she brought up the new years eve plans we have with each other and how she wants to kiss at midnight. all these things make it seem like

[Anonymous Asker]

She thinks of me more than a friend, but why doesn't she ever hint at a relationship? how can I tell if she's just drunk and horny or if she actually MEANS what she says? I feel like the relationship is just gonna keep building tension until she meets someone new or I eventually just spill my heart like a blabbering idiot and ruin the relationship we have. what do you think is the next best move?

[cazza3]

I would agree that it seems that she does think of you as more than a friend, a lot more. I can't say why she doesn't hint at a relationship but maybe its because she doesn't want to seem pushy or needy. Girls are told all the time not to appear desperate or needy cause the guy will run. You're going to have to talk to her, have you spoken to her since she drunk text you? And how do you know she was really really drunk? If she was that drunk she wouldn't have been able to see her phone never min

[cazza3]

Text. Has she apologised for doing it, and I mean an I'm sorry was really drunk take no notice? Don't worry about ruining what you have now because what is it really, you have no idea where you stand and its doing your head in. Try calling her today and flirt and tease and bring up the texts. Ask her what are we going to do about these drunk texts and see what she says. And whatever you do make sure she knows its more than a one night stand you want. You're going to have to talk to her?

[cazza3]

I just thought of something else. I would never tell a guy I didn't have feelings for that I wanted to kiss him, drunk or sober! That's not 'just sex' territory, so maybe she is hinting at a relationship afterall. Ask her for how long has she wanted to kiss you?

[Anonymous Asker]

I talked to the next day and I could tell she meant what she said in the texts. I finally had the balls to ask one of our mutual friends (who goes to her college) about her. when I talked to him on the phone, he was with this girl's roommate and they both said that she feels the same way about me that I feel about her. but both our mutual friend and her roommate told me I should stop contacting her because its bad for both of us. they said that she gets sad at parties and will sit in a corner...

[Anonymous Asker]

And text me because she isn't interested in other guys because theyre not like me. I told our mutual friend and her roommate that I'm afraid to do that because I might lose her if I cut off contact. and we have plans to see each other over Thanksgiving and new years eve so I don't know if that really is a good idea. they told me we can't have a long distance relationship because she needs to experience her first year of college and make friends which is hard when she thinks about me like she is now

[Anonymous Asker]

So I don't know what to do now. I feel like I have three options and its up to me to decide where to take our relationship: I can keep the relationship the way it is now and both of us will be insane, I can try to see if a long distance relationship is something she is interested in, or I can cut off contact with her and hope that she understands that I will always care about her but the circumstances are just too bad right now for it to work out. I just want her to be happy. what do you think?

[Anonymous Asker]

The part that worries me about a long distance relationship is that she will still be sad because we will be so far away from each other. so I'm thinking about taking our friends advice even though it will probably be the hardest thing for me to do. do you think she will still care about me in a year? two years?

[cazza3]

You cannot judge what this girl wants by her friends. If you want a relationship with her have one. Yes long distance relationship are difficult but wouldn't it be worse not to have any which is what will happen if you cut contact. 2 years is a long time and if she's with someone else then you'll kick yourself. You need to sit down and talk. If your feelings are mutual it really would be a shame not to act on them. Yes she should be out making friends but that's not going to happen when all she

[cazza3]

Wants is you. That's why she drunk texts you because she's emotional and wants to talk to you. I'm not saying definitely but maybe if you have a relationship she can relax knowing she can contact you whenever she needs to. Don't let friends make your decision its up to both of you, no one else.

[Anonymous]

Drunk text =sober thoughts

[easymac64]

Yeah it sounds like signs I mean I don't just cuddle my friends who are girls or act the way he does with you with them unless I want to be more than just a friend, just ask him what he thinks of you

[Asker]

He has told me be for that he thinks I'm amazing and strong.

[easymac64]

Yeah so I mean that's something I'd say to a friend too but he probably likes you

[FadedSkull]

being drunk doesn't make you a different person, it just lowers your inhibitions. Alcohol exposes who you really are and your true feelings

[Ben38]

hard to tell. it's said kids and drunk people always tell the truth.
anyway, as you have feelings as it seems it's already to late for a normal friendship. so i'd say go for it and try.

[Anonymous]

Truth in wine or just a moment of weakness... not a lot unless their is follow through