Ignoring a girl to make her crazy?

[PatrickRory]

I'm having some serious girlfriend issues and everyone I know is saying to ignore her until she goes crazy and wants me back. I don't know if this is such a good idea and if so I wouldn't want to be cold about it. Has anyone done this or have any thoughts about it?

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Okay first off thank you for all of the answers but previously to asking this question I had made myself less available because that's what she did, and I got placed in the "best friend zone" she texts me at least once a day and I do plan on talking to

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her when I see her next but I don't want to hurt her by giving her the cold shoulder for a little bit I just want her to want me...like she used to when we started dating all those years ago. I feel lost in this situation. everyone says to be single bu

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but than again everyone said ignoring her for a bit is a good idea but I don't feel like its a good idea and according to the 31 answers I don't think any of you think it is either. iv run out of ideas here

[BroskiJayAre]

bro, never do this to a girl. Honesty, and communication is what drives a relationship. Playing hard to get does work I will admit it, but it'll work negatively in your favor. Doing this so immature and it's what sets apart a deuce from a nice guy and nice guy apart from a gentleman. Nice guys care too much to the point where they themselves become impartial to what they want in a relationship and they start handing over the relationship to the girl. Deuces are outright jerks and do this kind of stuff to give a limp relationship push and pull. Will it work? Yes is it worth laughing at her confusion. LOL f*** yeah it is! Lol jk

But in all reality, be a gentleman,this doesn't just mean chivalry, but it means knowing a good priority. A good girl with stay with you so long as you can make her smile and laugh. If you can do that, she will always be with you. If she's not willing to push her 95 lbs of weight forget her. IT JUST AIN'T WORTH IT BROSKI!

[Reiki_Z]

i did that once to a girl I liked but she didn't really like me back at the time I think (because I asked her to homecoming and she said no )

but I didn't really ignore her, it was like I kinda acted like I was too busy and or mad at the same time. because I think maybe I gave her too much attention and I guess it got in her head or something I don't know but she was just like getting used to it and so I pulled off for a bit and then she asked me if I was mad at her

after that we talked about matching for our colors

and after homecoming we kissed and dated for a good 5months, longest relationship of my life, no sex tho ha ha so id say goodluck hpes this helps

[BittersweetLover]

I hate being ignored and when I am I take it as he doesn't care and so I don't put in effort to care about someone who I think doesn't care. So don't really literally ignore her too much, just don't give her all of your attention as you would if things were okay. Personally ( I don't know what exactly your issues are but) I would talk to her about them, communication is key in any relationship. Bring them out on the table, tell her how you feel and try to work them out the best you can.

If she doesn't care enough to take your feelings into consideration and/or take the time to talk them out with you then it hurts but she obviously doesn't care about you or the relationship and you need to leave her and find someone who will want you/respect you/treat you right.

Sorry I can't really help anymore than that, I hope it all works out with you two.

[onetwo3]

I'm a big fan of just being honest. Planning what to do or playing some kind of head game usually backfires, and it's just plain rude to toy with someones emotions. If you ignore her, she could end up finding a guy who gives her a lot of attention and deciding she'd rather be with him than someone that barely talks to her. Or she could interpret your lack of attention as you moving on, and then she might decide she needs to move on as well.

Your situation is kind of vague (you and your girlfriend broke up/took a break but you still want her?) but I think you should just tell her how you feel then leave it in her hands.

[superdudeman]

This is terrible advice.

With women : The more you tell them the more you repel them.

Its not rude to toy with someones emotions, not when you consider toying with emotions is what drives attraction, its what gets women to like men.

When someone is seen as "moving on" it shows a lack of needy behavior. which women love.

Ignoring someone is essentially showing that you "might be" mvoing on, providing you keep her in "doubt". And if she's in doubt she's not going to move on.

[angelasantx]

@superdudeman The advice YOU gave is terrible! I am not sure who told you that but most women of high quality will not handle being ingored too well, they will just move on.

[Powerhousegirl]

@superdudeman WRONG! on so many levels... anyone who toys with someone's emotions is only thinking about themselves, it's very selfish to put someone through crap plus you're just creating drama. Any self respecting woman who gets ignored will either move on or get annoyed with the inability to verbalize feelings and never speak to him again. Honesty is ALWAYS the best quality if you want no drama. If the other person can't handle it, forgive them and just move on.

[BunnyToast]

Honestly, a guy is doing this to me right now and while it is driving me crazy, it is also pissing me off. When people say ignore the girl, they just don't mean cling. Go on and live your life, let her text you first. Give them a little but still leave them wanting more.

[PatrickRory]

I agree...no one wants a clingy person but ignoring someone is childish...asking this question was stupid

[shyyt21]

I don't think you should do it. I was dating a guy for a while and then he started to ignore me all of a sudden and it was hard for me. At first it made me want him even more I was like waiting for his texts and so on, but after a while it just got old and I started getting the 'well there's other fish in the sea..." mentality and I started to not even like him anymore. It's harsh to ignore a girl that you have something with, it really hurts her. You should do the exact opposite and maybe start giving her little surprises or write her a poem. Do something exciting for her.

[acidpop]

I think as long as you don't approach it like a mind game, then it's okay.

It's completely true that people don't appreciate things when they have them; it's human nature to take others and objects for granted.

Making yourself unavailable will definitely cause the girl to take action, especially if she's the type of girl who just wants to waiting to be with her. The way she acts when you're no longer there will show if she really wants you.

I think it only becomes really cold if she has made effort to change or be better toward you and you continue to ignore her out of vindictiveness. She just needs to realize the situation, not be punished horribly.

It's a matter of whether you're trying to get things to work out or if you're just trying to punish her, and I think it's totally fine as long as you aren't doing the latter.

[Anonymous]

I will confirm that ignoring a girl that likes you will drive her completely insane and she will want you SO FREAKING BAD! But from what's going on with me right now, I can also confirm that while your ignoring her she can't think straight, she doesn't care about anything but seeing you, she wonders if she did something wrong, she rips her hair out, she cries at night thinking she may have made you upset, and it hurts... LIKE HELL! Our hearts literally squeeze when a guy we like ignores us, so if you're going to ignore her, prepare yourself to do some damage to her psyche. :/ It'll work, but there will be a price.

But if she's the opposite of me, she'll be p*ssed and move on.

[joe_tokosh]

Were you serious about the crying?

[Opinion Owner]

It depends! I've done it, just because I wanted to be with him so badly and I was distraught because I thought I did something to make him not like me and that I would never get another chance again :/ it sucks when you're left in the dark :( he STILL hasn't texted me back even after saying we should hang, but maybe I'm just being paranoid... It still sucks! Lol

[chrissyla8706]

Yep you sould like me...It hurts...especially, when you really love someone deeply. But you gotta move on.

[joe_tokosh]

Oh, I ignore this girl that keeps flirting with me because I think she just wants attention. is that bad? she never initiate texts, so I never initiate talking (in person). she'll either talk to me 1st, staring in my eyes, re-initiating conversations and such, but I won't even look at her unless she talks to me 1st. she really flirty and initiating in person but never over the phone, so I ignore her unless she speaks to me. and she only talks to me. I'm not making her feel bad am i?

[joe_tokosh]

Also, we're not dating or anything. she just picked the seat directly in front of me and started chatting me up since the first day of class. I can't tell if she just wants to be friends, just wants male attention, or something more. I hope that isn't mean.

[Chanel22]

@Joe...Yup you are hurting her!!! If she thinks like me...I would think, well I make all the first move, I give him eye contact, maintain a conversation, flirt, talk to him first and he STILL can't even write/text/call me...welll he's not interested and I should just move on...but every time she sees you, her heart squeezes a little from the hurt you gave her!!

[joe_tokosh]

@chanel

i DID text her. I tried on 2 different days. she takes 4ever to respond and never ever initiates, so I deleted her number. but in person she's aggressive. ex, if I don't look at her, she'll walk by (cut me off) or turn sideways to dig through her purse, unnecessarily placing her elbow on my desk. then casually making a comment about me always having earphones in. why can't she just be consistent. if you read this, pm me, because it doesn't notify me if someone responds 2 me and I might 4get.

[joe_tokosh]

Beeyatch

[Chanel22]

Humm ok...the beeyach comment was not necessary!!

so to answer you joe...I don't think like this girl...she sounds young...however, here is what I think : She is unpredictable but it sounds like you are unpredictable to her too...why delete her number?! what did that change except that you just can't text her first...if she is doing those things, it's to get your attention, and she might not be answering too quickly to look not to desprate...give her a chance and telle her how you feel!!!

[m1988]

Being ignored by the guy I love is the most hurtful thing, it does make you want them more at first but then after a while you just get sick of the pain and end up angry and not wanting anything to do with them. Even if you ignore the girl for only a short time when you come back you just confuse the hell out of her and she want to know why and you'll just end up fighting

[Maggalicious]

don't ignore her but at the same time don't give her all the attention. respond to her when she responds, be friendly and kind...be there for her when she needs you but don't chase her...give her space and time to figure out her feelings for you, that's all! .keep your head up high and smile :) you guys probably know each other very well, why play hard to get or mind games? its immature...lol

[Surfinforlife]

Best answer

[DeCh93]

Best answer ever... thnx

[miki94]

Do so.

Chances are bigger she will want you if you ignore her.

She broke up with you anyway so it's not like it will hurt her or anything.

But remember that if she has some feelings for you and is only selfishly trying to place you in the friend zone, then doing this might hurt her.

[Kaylife]

yea you shouldn't do that..but I think its just one of the signs that your not ready for a serious relationship with a girl just enough chillin and hanging out...bc playing games will just get the girl hurt...ya young no need for the gfs drama time will come when you find that girl you want ignore anymore...until then enough life

but if you really want a girlfriend work on the ignoring issue

[alysaa16]

if you ignore her she will think you don't like her and lose interest don't do it its a horrible rumor that's been going on if she can't realize her own feeling for you without you ignoring she doesn't really like you and you shud move on even if you like her it'd b for the best

[leesooim]

Personally, I despise being ignored. That being said...

Ignoring seems at best a somewhat immature tactic, however, depending on the individual, it can grab a person's attention. You said you're having issues with the girl, but we don't know if she's being completely unreasonable, playing games with you, if you are the one trying to get her attention and she's not responding at all, etc. etc. You said everyone you know is saying to use the ignore tactic, so of course they must know something about this girl we don't.

My advice: Since you said you want her back and aren't really a fan of the ignore tactic, I'd just be direct about it and say plainly what it is you want. If she doesn't respond after that, then yes, ignore her and keep moving forward with your life because she's going to be doing pretty much the same.

[yengesi]

"everyone I know is saying to ignore her until she goes crazy and wants me back"

Everyone you know is an idiot. When adults need to resolve issues, they communicate.

[TC123]

Depends on whatever issues you are having. The only times I've "ignored a girl" is if she was trying to play games or just being a bitch for no reason.

[concearnedlady]

only ignore a girl if you don't want to see her or talk to her and she is of no interest to you. Playing games like this with people will bite you in the ass! And honestly doing that is very childish! If you want a serious relationship that is not what to do. If she wants you back just because you are ignoring her then when you stop it's just going to repeat the cycle. Spare yourself the drama and just be real!

[fireandice]

i wouldn't ignore her to get her back. talk to her about it if you really want her to want you back. if you don't want her back then find someone else...theres a lot of girls out there

[Anonymous]

Depends on the girl. But I hate to say it, but girls like CHALLENGE. If you withdrawal from her the fear of losing something will make her come back.

I would keep real low and chill. And yes ignore her.

I would like to say be mature and talk to her directly. But if you don't play the game the game will PLAY YOU.

[toulouse]

The arrows direct you in the right direction this time. People who say ignore are obviously children or in disfunctional or no relationships- don't ignore her. Minimally confuse both of you but probably fu*k things up. & I did that for my own 'sanity' then the guy did it for his and we could never get on the same page- no one really know why they were not talking and couldn't really explain it and were all why did you do this* -Turned into hurt feelings & confused minds- way too much trouble.

[Opinion Owner]

The always available guy is not attractive to you girls. Too easy, too nice. You will argue otherwise and maybe in that moment you are right because you are thinking logically. But then come the mood swings, emotions, irrationality and all that other crap we men have to deal with. That is WHY men pull away sometimes...because you women are doing things that drive us nuts.

I don't want to get in a gender battle....I want this guy to get his girl back. He's got to stay chill.

[screamxxworks]

I'd be p*ssed if someone I liked ignored me just to make me go crazy for them. The way to make a girl go crazy for you, is to be normal, funny, charming, smile a lot; not ignore the bitch. Damn.

[Lis4Loca]

Not flat out ignoring but definitely making yourself suddenly unavailable and putting your personal goals and needs first. She will want you like mad. Then you can decide if you want her back. It's not a game it's human nature.

[superdudeman]

HA. this woman "gets it"

Very good.

Although I disagree a bit. ignoring her does work, but there has to be "some" kind of attention, meaning you must do something that says that she still has some shot with you, or she's going to think your unattainable altogether. You want her just hanging on by a thread that's about to break. Meaning just to the point where she's about to leave and move on.

[ccaseyheart]

Don't do it. If a guy does that, I just ignore him back, because he is acting like an as*hole. and I don't feel I should be treated in that mannner, and I'm pretty sure a lot of girls feel that way too

[Anonymous]

You don't ignore someone to get them back. When you cease contact they move on. That is what I would do. I wouldn't want the boyfriend more, I would then be pushed away to want someone else and leave. If you have to do this maybe you two aren't meant to be. Relationships are not to be maintained by playing games, they're destined to fail that way.

[dinolexi]

If you don't want somebody to die, please don't.

Unless,

a. she's ignoring you (even then, talk to her if she wants to talk)

b. If she's made it clear she doesn't want to talk to you (even then, don't be a bitch about it).

[QueenAna]

When my SO ignores me for whatever reason... it doesn't make me want him any more than before, it only makes me wonder why the hell did I even want him in the first place? Especially during an argument... being a man isn't ignoring the problem... and it is definitely childish... just ask my ex he ignored me for a day... I've been ignoring him ever since by the way that was a year a ago..