How serious is a guy for you when he introduces you to his family and close friends?
I am currently in a long distance relationship, which sometimes makes it very difficult to know how a man really feels about you. We are both adults in our mid 40's. We met last June while I was visiting my family who also lives in the same small town. We started talking after I got back home (we live in different States--about 14 hr.away). We have talked everyday since, whether talking or texting. I flew back there in September and he asked me to stay with him during my visit--which I did and it was fantastic. While I was there I met his children, mom & dad, and his best friends. At the beginning our texting it was almost all "sexting"---I've noticed now that he doesn't talk as dirty anymore---but will now text "good morning honey---how is your day going? xxoo. While talking though, he is somewhat guarded and closed in regarding his feelings...so it is difficult to really get a sense of how he feels about me. He was hurt very badly by another woman & while visiting he said he isn't ready for relationship---but I'm confused---we talk everyday, having intimate relations when I visit, and meeting his family. My family wants me to move there--and there is a very good chance that it will happen in about 1 yr. When I brought it up he seemed interested, but a little closed up. I don't want to press him about his feelings...but giving it time to nurture--but then again I don't want to be wasting my time on a man who doesn't have the same feelings that I do.
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The fact that he let you meet his family and children is huge plus for you. I don't know a single guy who would let some girl he's only using or not sharing feelings with meet his family, much less his children. Those who have been hurt in the past, though, do tend to have a paranoia of letting a second person get that close to them. You'll have to be a little patient with him as he adjusts. He may also be acting slightly different because he's a little nervous about the possibility of a serious relationship with you. However, it's no use speculating with things like this.
If you can, I'd recommend you call him and see if you could talk to him about this. You could mention that you mean not to pressure him but would like his honest opinion about the possibility of moving over there and that he seemed a little closed up about it. Communication is the key. If he doesn't want to give a definite answer or sort of avoids the issue, give it another week. If he still pushes it away, perhaps he really isn't ready for another serious relationship.