I am currently in a long distance relationship, which sometimes makes it very difficult to know how a man really feels about you. We are both adults...
...cont. from my comment below. For past month things were same as usual when I returned home. I called on his cell phone and his close cousin picked up---during our conversation he asked when I was moving there...I said I was thinking about it.
cont. above--the cousin asked me this---I said I wasn't sure how the guy I am seeing would like it if I moved there & his cousin said that he thought he would be very happy if I moved out there. I was really thrilled because he and his cousin are close.
cont.--well just found out that a job opening will be avail near him in about 1 yr. I called him the other night and told him I was thinking about moving out there. His voice seem happy at first...I then asked what his thoughts were about me moving out.
cont.--he said it was my decision to make. I told him I would be happy to be closer to my family, but didn't want him to feel pressure in our relationship being closer to him. Well, then he show his self preservation side...told that he doesn't want
a relationship---said he has been hurt too many times. He is not in love and will never be in love with me or any other woman...that he feel dead inside and his head hurts just thinking about going down that path again. He said he knows I would
be the woman who we treat him better than anyone every did...he said he planned on driving out toward me with his kids to visit next year, but that didn't mean we were in a relationship. I am going out there with my boys in Jan and now don't even know if
I should introduce them. It was almost like he was talking back and forth within himself trying to figure things out...I told him that in another year he may feel differently...he left it as we will have to wait and see what happens...
...his actions are so conflicting with his words...almost as if he felt threatened by me asking about his feelings. The next day...he sends me text of his child at sports practice...can't figure it out
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The fact that he let you meet his family and children is huge plus for you. I don't know a single guy who would let some girl he's only using or not sharing feelings with meet his family, much less his children. Those who have been hurt in the past, though, do tend to have a paranoia of letting a second person get that close to them. You'll have to be a little patient with him as he adjusts. He may also be acting slightly different because he's a little nervous about the possibility of a serious relationship with you. However, it's no use speculating with things like this.
If you can, I'd recommend you call him and see if you could talk to him about this. You could mention that you mean not to pressure him but would like his honest opinion about the possibility of moving over there and that he seemed a little closed up about it. Communication is the key. If he doesn't want to give a definite answer or sort of avoids the issue, give it another week. If he still pushes it away, perhaps he really isn't ready for another serious relationship.