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Dont feel lost mam!This is not a silly matter ..Its SERIOUS! and life is not just too easy ! only when you endure the difficulties in life ,Your life gets value...If life's just too easy,then life will be full of fun! I know ,I understand Your situation and your condition .May be not 100%.But I know.Each word Your wrote here is worth 100 words and I can get it.You should not get discouraged or lost.Feeling like that will only help kill the spirit in You! may be the coming days and maybe months will be harder than its now ,But I m not saying it will be.May be being through all this will make your r'ship with your husband more and more strong..Emotionally. your husband is though may be the hardest part of HIS/UR BOTH life.He will have his own mood swings and depression and he can't help it and its his MINDS own self-defence mechanism from being broken down.Evrything happen is for Good mam ..and its true.
U have to BELIEVE IN HIM..Not what he is saying NOW but BELIEVE IN HIS SELF!Believe that He will be with You and see,he want to get help but HIS GUY MIND don't want to get help bcoz getting help from a couselor might make him feel that he is incapable of managing his own problems(I m not sure abt this part..But You know him more than any one in this world..So think twice when going for counceling),and this will really make him angry.During this time of depression ,a million things will be going through his mind and he will talk less ,smile less,eat less,sleep less,care for you less...Its ALL NORMAL! there is nothing wrong with him and he loves You.Believe me ... I am not trying to make you happy or make your mood better but Both of your moods better and I can help only throuhg you.You are the medicine now,for yourself,ur husband and whole family.
And One thing You should undertsnad is that the ULIMATE cure for this problem of urs will only be recieved when EVRYTHING GETS ALL RIGHT WITH YOU FAMILY..THAT IS,WHEN YOU ARE FINANCIALLY BACK TO NORMAL AGAIN AND ALL CAUSES OF HIS DEPRESSION GET OVER..and What all I have been saying this is a medicine ,a pain killer a a pain reliever.and You should understand that too..You can't get him back haapy so easily.
A single fact will make you realize how much he loves you and your child and DONT JUST see you as the mother of his CHILDERN "If he doesn't love You,Y does he get depressed?"Evry Guys gives least value for himself and most value for those he loves the most.and they get depressed not becoz if affects him but HIS FAMILY-YOU and YOUR CHILD..Its above all other things in the world.and he will OBVIOUSLY get sad when some thing affects THEM and he just can't GET AN IMMEDIATE SOLUTION TO IT.Right isn't it?He will think that 'MY FAMILY IS SUFFERING AND I CANT DO ANYTHING ABT IT!' BY being depressed HE IS SELF-PUNISHING! its not because he don't LOVE You but LOVES YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING! You have to be mentally strong now ...
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Do you still have health insurance? You need to go to counseling with him, he is overwhelmed with life and unsatisfied. Nothing is changing so it will not get better. Go to counseling, figure out the steps you need to take to have a more satisfying life and work out issues. No one on this site knows what is going on in his mind, a counselor will be able to explore that with him.
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I'm really sorry you're going through this. Living with someone who suffers from depression is hard. Especially when their emotions are so up and down and all over the place. Losing a job is very stressful and financial it can feel overwhelming. It truly does test the strength of any relationship. You both need therapy and for different reasons. You need to talk to someone on how to deal with his depression. He probably needs medication to help him cope and to take the edge off. In the meantime try googling natural remedies and try changing his diet. As hard as it is just try and support and understand him. You both can get through this and you will be stronger for it. Good luck.
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it is conflicting, saying he doesn't love you anymore is a clear line drawn, but depression can make you feel/say things that are only in the moment. the fact that he wants you to go with him to events in his life means he really wants things to be fixed. having financial/job problems with young kids to raise is a huge burden, but you're a good person to keep trying to fix things, some significant others would have bailed with minimal effort on their part. good luck.
Its Just depression Talk .Give him all the support you can give(I know you are).And From Your part : DON'T BE PESSIMISTIC!
It is certainly possible. People with depression can sometimes push people away thinking that it will protect them from emotional harm down the road, such as a death in the family or a breakup.
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