Why do girls chase when guys ignore them? I have found this experience kind of true. My first time was with a girl I have ignored and have no interest in. My friend married a girl that he had no interest in at first, but it eventually happened. The girl that I have chased for a bit and I stopped,...
Why do girls chase when guys ignore them? I have found this experience kind of true. My first time was with a girl I have ignored and have no interest in. My friend married a girl that he had no interest in at first, but it eventually happened. The girl that I have chased for a bit and I stopped, chased me for a time or two (I screwed up and started chasing her again and I need to stop, cause she is pulling away.) What is with that?
People are instinctively drawn to a challenge. "You're ignoring me? Why? I'm a good person..."
I mean, I once tried to ignore a guy because I was SO mad at him, and he found five different reasons to come up to me to say "Hi" until I finally answered him. Silly? Yes, of course it is. Human beings are not as logical as we would like to believe we are, lol.
In your case, if she keeps pulling away whenever you get too close and you two are playing this game, neither one of you is actually serious about having a long-term relationship and it's best to cut ties now before one or both of you gets hurt.
simply because when something is forbidden or impossible to achieve, it becomes attractive. If you're parents won't let you drink alcohol, would you really don't drink? To be honest, guys are really really really wanted when they play it cool or hard to get. because for girls, it becomes a challenge, she laughs harder and flirts with more guys when you're in the same room, simply because she wants to make YOU jealous. ;)
I used to do that - I chased a guy relentlessly that I eventually caught, married and then didn't like anymore. Its the thrill of the chase, I think. Its wanting what you don't think you can have, and you actually can make yourself believe this person is what you want just for that reason alone, when in actuality its all bull****.
But now when a guy pulls away I run. Fast. I get mad at them for doing that to me because I know its playing with feelings, I know its not real.
They are insecure and need to get the guy who they think doesn't like them, and get him to like them, so they can feel better. It's like a mission: once they accomplish it, there's no need to continue.