I have this guy friend, who I have known for about a year and a half. We became friends instantly, all my friends told me we should date. I ignored the feelings I had for him, so I wouldn't ruin or make the friendship awkward. But lately it feels like we brought our friendship after a party, he took care of me when I was very drunk. After that we kind of started talking about things other than our interests, like our life and we kind of flirt a lot more now. It didn't really trigger until today when I saw him for about 5 minutes. How do I let him know I have feelings for him. It will hurt to be rejected but at least I'll know...or should I just say nothing. I am sick of rejected so I stop taking those risks with guys. what do I do/ :(
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this is really hard girl... I have talked to a lot of girls who somehow managed to get stuck in this awful situation. tell him how you feel. but only if you're absolutely unafraid of rejection. I really hate to generalize, but when a guy who's been a good friend of yours for a while and does not exhibit any romantic feelings, he either doesn't have that kind of feelings, or he's holding them back for a very strong reason.
in any case, you need to talk to him because you'll wreck yourself with doubt if you don't. look at it this way - how he feels about you is not likely to change no matter what you tell him, even if he's close to one side of the boundary between friend and romantic partner. but if you tell him how you feel (do it as calmly as you can), he will appreciate the honesty and if he's a decent guy at all, he will tell you how he feels as well even if he's not romantically interested.
caveat: there are rare cases where the guy just gets scared and flat-out ignores you (i.e. breaks off the friendship). this depends on the guy's personality - usually the guys that do this are the soft, quiet ones who can't share their feelings and don't like to know others' feelings. ultimately, you gotta make the decision yourself about whether your wanting to know is more important than your fear of rejection.2