I came on too strong with a guy. Can I fix this?

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I met this guy through a friend of a friend type thing on a night out, I was basically out with my friend having a great night and not looking to meet anyone.

Anyway, he basically chased me around for the night and I thought he was being friendly 'cos he was so good looking and I've been off the dating scene for few years so thought nothing of it as my confidence wouldn't have been very high. Long story short, he walked with me for few hours after and we kissed and he asked for my number. I didn't even give him a CHANCE to call I was so excited I found him through a friends friend list on facebook and emailed him Xmas eve!

Nevertheless he responded very keenly and said he had just thought it would be better left til after 'the madness of xmas' (he was right I know..) He got in touch a few days later he saw me online on FB and we chatted for hours about films we both like (we're both film buffs). He texted next day to arrange a date for the following day and the place I suggested and asked was this OK for him,he said he was going to suggest himself! So all going great.. The date happened, a ten hour first date, it was amazing, and very passionate at the end. Then here's how I ruined it all.

The next day, new years eve, I texted him twice even though I knew he was spending the day and night with his buddies. He texted me following day saying sorry he couldn't make it up to the party I was at but him and his buddies had been drunk etc, what was I thinking asking him to spend new years with me anyway after one date? Heard nothing for 4 days so I texted him 'hi how's your week going' I got back a reply saying 'Sorry haven't been in touch been working late (etc) I don't think we should go out again, I'm not ready for anything, hope you understand' I was devesated. And still am. I waited an hour and said 'ok can I ask if I was too full on'? He replied 'no you weren't, I just haven't had date in few years since breaking with the ex and I still miss her' I then wished him well with an upcoming difficult time I knew he had coming and the next day he texted to say thanks for that and take care.

I don't doubt there's issues there with that ex, but I KNOW he really liked me and I KNOW I scared the s**t out of him. Please please help, it's been so long since I met someone I really like and we clicked so well, so much in common it was unreal..and I just have a great depth of feeling for him already, would hate to think I've ruined a really good opportunity.

Is there ANYTHING I can do guys?...

Thanks in advance x
I came on too strong with a guy. Can I fix this?
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