Today I planned on asking him out. I did my hair nice & wore a nice perfume and made sure my lips were perfect. Why has he stopped flirting with me? He didn't show any definite signs on being into me. He didn't give me that much eye contact or talk to me that much. What did I do wrong? Did I wait too long to ask him out? Did he not like my hair? Or my outfit? Why wasn't he flirting? And I also noticed that he was clumsier today (he burnt himself 4 times in food tech and tripped over most of the day) So what did I do wrong? Did I just wait too long to ask him out? We both haven't officially told each other we liked each other but his friends have told me he likes me. Maybe that's it. Maybe he doesn't want to talk to me because his friend told me he likes me. I was going to tell him I liked him but now I just don't know. He hasn't shown any signs of being into me. What's wrong? What have I done? How can I reverse it?
Did I wait too long to ask him out?
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Okay, there are lots of different areas I want to hit. First of all, you did NOTHING wrong. As you said, you were perfect. He just wasn't himself. I don't know how to explain it to you, I mean sometimes I'm just kinda there you know? {work with me here} I'm just quiet and keeping to myself. That doesn't necessarily mean that I'm having a bad day or that my girl did something wrong. It just means I'm going with the flow. As you said, he did seem a little clumsy. He could of just been tired or had his mind in a different land.
Also you mentioned that he confessed to a friend of his affection for you. He probably wouldn't have told the person if it wasn't going to stay "in-house" , I think its safe to say he wasn't banking on that to happen. He would've rather it just been kept, but as you and I well know, that doesn't pay the bills. Your fellow classmates need something fresh, right off the presses. So that probably did delay him in making a move {if he was going to make one} and hurt his confidence. He most likely feels like he has to go back to the drawing board and get his gameplan together. He probably couldn't resist telling the friend he likes you, {again he was banking on it being kept} I've felt that way too, but he will learn even though you truly want to tell the whole world, it's best if you keep it to yourself. I know many people would rather have their friends help them out in the whole process, but not me personally. I would want it to be between me and her. {Until I ask her obviously} Like I said before, it probably didn't help him any.
Also, how long have you known him? You are wondering if you have waited too long to ask. I want to know what you think what to long is. Is it time-wise or does it depend on the status and flow of the relationship? How close personally are you to him?
As far as what I can say for you to do, just be near him, take it easy. Try to do something with him {I don't even know if you guys have broken that barrier yet, or him at least} Keep talking to him and don't worry. He was just had a lot going on in his head. I think it's safe to say though that you had a lot to do with it. Again, you did nothing wrong. Just think of it as your beauty overwhelmed him. {If that makes you feel better!} Anyways hope I helped, send me a message and tell me what you think.
We're REALLY close. We dated before but we broke up after school started because we didn't get the chance to talk all summer (we made a mutual decision) Then after school started back up we became really close friends. Now we're best friends. We sit next to each other all the time and we're partners for everything in class (that's probably why people think we'd be a good couple) Yesterday his best friend told me that he was going to ask me out but he was scared. Do I wait for him to ask me?
Should I ask him out or wait for him to ask me out?
Yeah, I would wait for him to ask you. It sounds like it should be coming soon, even though he is a bit hesitant. I can't really give you a time, but just take it easy and be friends.
I love it. You put all types of possibilities in your post but you forgot a few.
So he told his friends he likes you. WAs his intention to tell his friends so that they could tell you? Maybe he didn't want that to happen and now he is embarrassed about it and he is acting like he is to cover his embarrassment. Also, maybe he is thinking you're not interested in him; from the post, it sounds he is the shy/insecure type of guy; otherwise, he would have already made a move.
Is he in your same class? Have you talked to him in the past? If not, have you made yurself available for him to talk to you?
I'm assuming this guy is less than 18 at that age range, lots of insecure boys.
Yes we're really close friends. Normally he lets me wear his jewelry (his bracelet and his necklace) and he tries to sit by me in every class but today he hasn't done anything like that and he seemed like he didn't want to be around me
WEll, don't jump into conclusions. And if he sits close to you, how come you're not the one today going up to him and saying, hey, what's up, I missed you sitting next to me today in class. Why didn't you do that?
Because he looked really sad. And this one girl got jealous of me spending so much time with him and pretended she was mad at him so he would be next to her trying to figure out why she was mad in all of my ICT lesson
If you're gonna sit back and watch another girl take him over and do nothing, then most likely you don't deserve this guy. At some point you gotta make a decision and say, I want this guy, and I'll get him. So it seems to me he is up for grabs. That girl wants to take him and you don't do anything about it----is it really his fault? If you want a job---do you wait for the job to come to you, or do you go actively out and seek for it?
She's not a threat... at all! He really doesn't like her like that. Last year she asked him out and he rejected her really harshly. Whenever I bring up the subject of him and her he has this horrible face. He really doesn't like her AT ALL. The only reason she's jealous was because after he rejected her I asked him out and he said yes. I went out with him but then we both decided to break up. Now I like him again
So all you have said so far doesn't really point to him not liking you; so take the bull by the horns and make some type of move! my point to you is that you seem to be a bystander. instead of wasting time wondering if he likes your or not, for gods sake, do something about it. :)
That's what I was going to do. Today. But he was acting different. He wasn't flirting with me or showing any signs of liking me. I'm not gonna go out on a limb if I know I'll fall off. I'm not going to tell him I like him unless I'm at least 70% sure the feeling is mutual
Welcome to a guy's world! We ask either way..if we like a girl, we go for it. If I sat back waiting to see if my chances are 70%, I might as well would have retired to tibet and started meditating in a cave! :D See, you're not getting the point. you don't have to go and declare your love;all you have to do is go up to him, and talk to him; simply saying, I missed you in class today is not declaring your love; anyway, I don't think you get it, so good luck to you.
I really feel bad for guys. And girls play hard to get too which makes us harder to figure out...
Omg :D I'm so happy. His best friend told me that he was going to ask me out today but he chickened out. That's why he was acting weird. I am SO happy :)
Yep, typical insecure boy! :) So you must find a way to let him know that you won't turn him down! :P Good luck and nice to hear the news!
Maybe you made him speechless when you looked all pretty :)
Ask him out whether he shows you signs or not.