Attractive girls either ALWAYS or NEVER have a boyfriend?

Question

The mindset of some guys is that either attractive girls always have a boyfriend because they are attractive and guys are always after her. But the other mindset is that they never have a boyfriend because guys think that the girl is out of their league so they never end up asking her out or she is stuck-up and thinks she is good for them so no guys like them due to their personality.

Girls what's your take on this? From what you have seen in life with all the attractive girls you know, do they always have a boyfriend or never have a boyfriend? And I am aware that each girl is different.

Guys can answer too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

While I am by no means the most gorgeous girl in the state I did, much to my embarrassment, get voted as most attractive in my dorm freshman year. Much to my chagrin, I will admit that I avoided the study rooms in my doom like the plague after that, because a couple of them had silly results for various superlatives posted on the walls.

Although I am more accepting of my looks now, I personally have been told I'm intimidating by a good handful of close guy friends because I'm unexpected, smart, and heavily involved in various organizations. Bottom line: guys think I have my sh*t together and must have dozens of guys asking me out. Meanwhile, I just feel goofy in social situations because really I'm just a young 20 something whose a little quirky, and terribly clumsy that is just trying to give life my best shot. I've almost had a relationship once, but things fizzled, and he moved across the country for grad -- I really haven't met anyone since and I'm not into random hookups. I do try though, and I'd love to have a relationship with any decent guy that I could hold a conversation and go exploring with, I'm not picky either hiking or a used bookstore could work :) Anyway, I'd put myself in the never box.

In contrast I have a few friends that are truly gorgeous who would fit into the previous category. One is the casual, flirty sort that seems to have a different guy every month or so the other two are in long term relationships and have been dating the same guys for the past 3 and 5 years respectively. I have my suspicions that both stories may end in wedding bells in the next year or so.

On the whole, I'd say it's a mix of both that may be dependent on both personality and individual preference. I also think that pretty girls who are a bit more liberated and into bars, hookups and the like probably fall into the first category a bit more often.

Just-A-Person · Accepted Answer

I'm not conceited or anything but I know a lot of guys have liked me but they NEVER actually ask me out... I'm the one they stare at but not the one they will talk to. I remember being so excited because I thought this guy was going to ask me to prom. I mean he told his friends he was looking for someone to go with right in front of me and then looked over at me. A few days later I saw that he asked this other girl who was "more approachable" and not gonna lie not nearly as pretty. That bummed me out so much. What these guys don't seem to realize is I'm not nearly as scary as they think. They don't get that I would have given them a chance had they actually asked. Plus, I'm shy around guys so I don't have the nerve to ask them myself...

SophieaWoods11 · Accepted Answer

Usually I go rom relationship to relationship. Iv'e always got new offers and things fade out. But I've never had to go to long with out a boyfriend. I'm not saying in hot but apparently guys find me attractive. I've always got guys staring at me when I walk into places but most of the bf's I've had hated bring me anywear cause they told me 'dudes are all over me' . Most guys just stare at me and hardly any guys approach me I wish more guys approached me cause it's annoying when guys think I'm out of their leauge. when it's like I don't think like that

bigbang654 · Accepted Answer

well, I have seen those a lot. The thing is pretty girls are always troubled by their parents relationship. Mother is married to a guy who is not her type but she needed money. So, their parents are not that friendly to each others. If she is pretty and have a good parents who are loving she would be on TV already, but some unfortunate girls are out there. She could look cold because growing up seeing her parents fighting and skeptical about relationship which makes her really wanting love but then she reject harshly deep inside. she needs a cure but no one notice her sick. That's the typical story. Many people would assume that she is just slut hiding or she have lots and lots of boy friends but in reality she spend weekend alone. If she is a good child, she wouldn't mind spending time alone, but she is kind of bitter inside. Many people tend to think opposite of the person's situation because how they look and later find out that they are total opposite. That's true to everyone. You can never judge by their look or act. Many guys also, the same. They look attractive but then they have no idea how to get girls. So, they end up being used by ugly and mean girls. Especially when they are very young. So, there are zombie out there. Society criticize certain portion of the population making them as drama and then dump. Everything is not what it seems.

Mudpuppy · Accepted Answer

I would say attractive girls always have a boyfriend IF they want one. Looks seem to be the main thing most guys go for so all she needs to do is smile at the right guys and she's away. But it's worth remembering that looks are subjective and a girl (or guy) may feel more or less attractive than they really are.

kandy_brown · Answer

I can truly attest to this topic I am a 39 years old And never had a boyfriend ever I consider myself fairly attractive I don’t have any issues getting any man’s attention I just never went down that relationship Road.. In high school I struggled with my weight Was a bit of a people pleaser.. Had friends male friends had crushes went out on dates I actually “dealt”with a man older than me for almost 10 years but he made it very clear that we were not in a relationship. Weird I kno. I’d go out men would tell me how beautiful I was and then walk away like what the f! four years ago I was dating this man I thought I can see a future with unfortunately he saw his future with my best friend as well. The end result I called myself lashing out by sleeping with men immediately breaking all ties because I felt the ball was in my court and I had the “upper” hand. I was emotionally broken and heading nowhere fast. So fast forward now I know what I want, what I deserve I know I love myself and I know how give it and I know my treasured heart deserves it in return... and I guess until that person whoever they may be arrives.. they say don’t look for 🖤I don’t know if that’s such a great idea though

sportygal11 · Answer

idont want to sound cocky but I consider myself very attractive and have been told by others,ive never had a boyfriend.neither have most of my friends and theyre very pretty!honestly,no guy has actually asked me out on a date before and I'm fine with that because I don't need a bf,although it'd b nice to have one.i know this guyy that liked me tho but his firned told me he was to scard to ask me out becasue he thought I wouldn't date him!:( poor guy.the thing with guys as they can't ASSUME things because it just makes them less confident.who knows,maybe if the girl gets to know his personality she might like him?not ALL  attractive girls are shallow yaknow

slipslender · Answer

i've seen both types. I have one friend who LOVES being showered by compliments, gifts, etc so she's never single. but then I have another friend who's waiting for the right one to come along. she's probably the most beautiful person I know, and she's never been on a date lol. it goes both ways.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that attractive girls get a chance to date more and so they know what they want. They want quality. And so there are the girls who always keep a man because they don't like being single, but they always keep their options open for something better. Then there are the girls who stay single and just casually dates until the right guy comes along.

And usually you can divide the attractive girls into two subcategories: the ones who are successful and independent, and the ones who would be lost if they didn't have everyone do everything for them. Most of the pretty girls I know end up marrying the not best looking or the richest guy...and that's where men get it all wrong. Usually the pretty girls aren't as shallow as everyone thinks. And most these women have heard every line in the book and it gets old after a while.

may281995 · Answer

i have only dated 1 guy my whole life. he told me I was beautiful every morning and night. all of his friends were jealous. the one guy said I was so beautiful that even the most confident painters are ashamed of their paintings after they see my face. the sad part we broke up a while ago after dating for 3 years. my world came crashing down when he told me that we were silly little kids when we started dating but I found strength to move on. and if he thought I was so beautiful then why do all of the guys I like think I am ugly as hell? so to a handful of people might think I am pretty while the majority of the world thinks I'm ugly as hell. my really question is : is there really ugly and beautiful?

pepper01 · Answer

i have this same exact issue. most guys think I have a boyfriend and never approach but the truth is I'm single and most guys say I'm "intimidating" so they never approach only stare/smile. I wish more guys would quit assumping and at least talk to a girl and find out.

lilandy · Answer

From everything I've seen, they either always have a boyfriend or never. I think some of us pretty girls are always single until a guy has the balls to ask us out because theyre afraid of getting rejected because we are good looking.it's frustrating. so the ones that have the boyfriend is because the start out with guys so everyone knows the would say yes most probably.

FantasyGirl13 · Answer

It seems fairly accurate..seeing from my point of view and (not in a egotistical way) that I'm attractive but have never had a boyfriend in my life. I'm not to sure about the stuck-up part as to being why they don't have boyfriends...a lot of very beautiful girls are shy which doesn't help them in hinting to guys that they aren't out of her league. Theirs also the point that (for in some cases not always) girls have boyfriends but are on the slutty side. Its the guys choice to go after that kind of chick though. The problem also lies in the fact that all the "good guys" are either taken already, are gay, or don't go after the attractive girl because they might think she's too good for him.

Happens a lot sadly but its the relationships that happen that are beautiful :)

mangageek · Answer

I consider myself quite attractive, in the cute rather than hot way. I have never had a boyfriend before and can count the few dated I have had. I often am the one to ask guys to things, I think they may assume that I am taken when I'm not. But I hope my luck will take a turn for the better with college guys

Anonymous · Answer

im good looking (petite & a good face) but I'm kind of shy. I've only experienced 2 things

either -guys are too nervous to approach me or ask me out (no matter how friendly I am)

or -guys will approach me but are only interested in f*cking me.

and I'm too shy to approach the nervous guys and when I try and date the players I get hurt. sucks:(

hshsjsjdhdhsxh · Answer

Im not gonna be cocky but i guess im considered Ttractive because I've received confessions from otherguys and been told im pretty but i honestly dont see it but anyways honestly for me i know it sounds bad but i always want something better and i never had a boyfriend either because my feelings are always on and off and like im scared to be in a relationship honestly it depends on the girl

kinostreet · Answer

People always tell me I'm attractive and I've done modelling so I guess I look decent but I've still never had a boyfriend. I feel like guys stare at me but never approach me and that's annoying because I'm actually really shy and don't feel comfortable with approaching a guy myself.
Then again, I get cat called a lot too which has led me to assume that the guys who approach me (tho it rarely happens) are creeps. So I guess that makes those guys think I'm stuck up and think I'm better than everyone else. At this rate I'll be alone forever. Hah.

judithann · Answer

I think your dead on I don't have a boyfriend I find out from friends if a guy likes me because they are afraid to aproach me and guys I have liked have asked me why I am talking to them and have told me I can do better I think they are afraid I will get board and move on and allot of times there lack of self confidince about the way I feel them ends up huirting me when I generally like and care for them.

Anonymous · Answer

well I've been told I'm very attractive. I'm 16,

i have blue eyes, black hair an oval face and almond eyes with thick arched brows like megan fox.

im 5'1 and I'm a cheerleader. in my expierience I've had 2 serious boyfriends but one most recently being extreamly serious (3 years together and still going) however since I began high school I've alwasy had guys asking me out, whistling at me in the supermarket, beeping the car horn...etc. I don't date those guys but I don't feel like I fall into either of the two statements you named. I guess I would say...ive always been hit on but I only date certain people.

Anonymous · Answer

I believe it somewhat. I am attractive, every room I walk into I can see/feel guys looking at me. Some will say things too. However, with guys I like ..they don't ask me out..well sord of. It's always awkward because I get shy/nervous.. I've never had a boyfriend. I am picky! I don't like the guys that approach me, not that there's anything unattractive about them its just that..i look for chemistry!

Anonymous · Answer

Well I know attractive girls who are never without a boyfriend but I think I'm pretty attractive, I've been told I'm pretty, sexy whatever, but I've neeever had a boyfriend. I've never really been approached by any guy I would want to get involved with. I've been told though that I look unapproachable and that I may reject someone, so maybe that's my problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Attractive girls don't get approached as much as you may think, or have a boyfriend.  I'm an attractive girl (No model but certainly no minger either) my friend is absolutly stunning though! and is actually a full time model with a modeling agency.  We get looked at, but never approached and we're both single.

kiss_me_Kate · Answer

Looks don't have much to do with someone's internal character. The girls who don't have boyfriends are usualy looking for something meaningfull. The one's that do are usualy comfortable.

AmberChick · Answer

Either they have a boyfriend because they want one or they have a lot of guys who like them who don't ask her out mostly for a good reason- she doesn't want a boyfriend at the moment. And if she does then she is insecure and doing something wrong.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Once you have dated a really hot woman or two, you realize they are not worth the colossal headache.

After the novelty of being with a hot girl, and her bitchiness and high maintenance shine through, it's easier to date an average girl without the personality disorders of a hot girl.

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