I think the girl should be approachable as well as able to start or continue a conversation with a guy. I do not think the guy needs to perform like a peacock to get a girl's attention though if a girl is very interesting to a guy, they will do things to catch her attention.
I believe the guy should ask for the date and it should be a date, not an offer to "hangout" or some other vague thing that leaves the girl wondering if the guy wants romance or friendship or is just trying to convert her into booty call.
I think girls should be polite and if she does not want to date a guy, she should politely decline, not accept then cancel or give a million excuses that keeps a guy wondering if he still has a chance when you know you are not interested.
So, no, I do not think girls should chase guys but they also should not leave everything up to the guy either. Dating and romance is a dance between two people and both sides need to bring something to the table in most cases.
It varies from girl to girl. Depending on personality. Confident girls have no problem pursuing after a guy they like. But I think it's a "meet me halfway" kinda deal.
For me personally, I find it so attractive when a guy isn't so forward. Because it makes the guy more mysterious an sexy. And according law of attraction, we all want what we can't have right? So when it's more of a challenge to get a guy I think it's funner.
But don't confuse challenging with disinterest.
But then again I'm only talking about the initiating. After a girl makes the first move, we tend to wait and see what the guy will respond. Cause all in all, we still want to be chased by the guy. But that doesn't mean we won't make a move as well.
Basically, I think whoever is more interested should do the chasing. Whatever the gender.
I completely agree with Tamikaze; I don't chase guys I merely try to make my interest known. At least, I don't see it that way. To me, chasing is a bit more aggressive and I think guys can get away with that better than girls can without pushing at the psycho boundaries.
I put the flirtatious feelers out there, and hope he picks up the hints to ask me out. If he doesn't, I wait to see if he at least responds in kind or if I get shot down. If I don't get shot down with body language or nonverbal behavior I casually might suggest coffee or something.
Used to be completely against asking a guy out at all, in anyway, but ever since I've changed my point of view and stepped up sometimes, I have a lot more luck. And not one of them thinks I'm easy/desperate just for making one of the first moves! :-)
It is a mixture. However, the guy has to initiate and ask on a first date etc. The girl however has to show the guy she is interested so that the guy can ask her out on a date without risking his manhood to get torn off into itty bitty shreds of rejection. Its a bird dance that requires the collaboration of both without denying nature.
It depends on how badly I want them, whether or not they're already chasing me, and the odds of it working in my favour. If a guy's chasing me, I only reciprocate if I'm feeling him too. Similarly, I think that guys experience the same thing. So it's all about gauging his potential reactions, and deciding whether he's worth the risk. I have chased guys before. I've been rejected, but I've also experienced positive outcomes. I think that as long as there's some level of give and take, it's healthy for either sex to pursue the other. It shouldn't always be up to the man, or all of those wonderful shy guys out there would end up lonely! I'm not sure what it is that makes me chase a guy... It's just a gut feeling. A natural attraction that I can't get over. If I want him to chase me, I flirt, and then back off to see if he took the bait/wants more. Although, again, it depends on so many things... I find that men generally do most of the chasing, but I definitely don't think that it's reasonable for girls to think they don't have to pull their own weight. If you like someone, go for it! :)
In my experience, chasing a guy never works. They end up trying to outrun the girl. If the girl thinks he should do all the work, then she should probably cool it. But, if the guy doesn't want you, no amount of waiting for him will help.
I don't chase guys, but lately I'm showing interest to this guy but still I'm playing safe. I don't want to act so desperate, I want it to be friendly first. But if there's no progress, I just leave it as is if he's not interested. But the guy should do the chasing then both.
I never chase guys But I don't think the guy should do all the work, I mean If I like a guy I would talk to him ar kinda flirt with Him so he understands that I like him and ask for my number,and after dating I think it's 50-50 to
well I use to chase guys... but then I just figured it was a waste of time wen they have no interest in you whatsoever. I just gave up... and it seems like I'm just too desperate... so watever.. I'll just let things be.. and let the guys do it .
I think that both should chase. My current boyfriend is a bit shy and bit oblivious to hints so when we first started dating it took a large amount of chasing before he FINALLY asked me out.
I think that girls need to be fair and show when they're interested and not be afraid to chase what they want. But if they do all the work that's not really fair either.
There is something to be said for the thrill of the chase for guys. :)
im pretty forward. if I like a guy I eventually will let him know and show hints I'm interested and if he shows signs he's possibly interested but never asks me to hang out sometimes I'll do it for him because I know some guys hesitate because they aren't absolutely positive how the girl feels (especially shy guys) so I'll ask to hang out or get dinner or something to show that I am interested so he might feel more comfortable approaching me in the future. I've also had guys tell me that they wished more girls would ask guys out and that they love it. but after I first show interest and make it clear I'm into him then I leave it up to him to finish the rest, like make a second date and start initiating conversations more (and of course I would still flirt and talk etc etc)
I would prefer it he did all the work cause I'm a shy person (any shy person, guy or girl would agree)
I don't think he should do ALL the work, a girl should at least do a bit of the work
I don't know what to expect from a guy to get my attention or interests
I do believe it should be a mixture but I immediately voted B since I know girls who do chase after guys.. I think it should be like 50-50 or close to 50-50 (like 55-45) but keeping it in balance so neither tends to seem needy
Girls don't chase guys but they should. Sometimes rarely they do, but almost never. They have the stupid mindset of "It makes people believe we're desperate!" when no guy thinks that. Especially no guy worthwhile will think that about you. If anyone thinks that about you it'll be other girls and f*** them, they're just mad you are getting guys and they're being stupid just playing the "oh come to me" game.
But really, if both are interested, both should just be honest and say it.
The classical image is that it's the guy doing it but that's just a fantasy. If a girl likes a guy she will "chase" him, ie put effort into the relationship, plan dates, buy gifts, do things for him, that sort of thing.
Every single woman whom I got involved with has taken the initiative to give me the hint first! I'm just average... but maybe also prone to waiting for the initiative to come from the other side... I like it when a woman's intentions are clear; maybe I can't stand being rebuffed!