So my friend asked a guy (who flirts with me a lot, super nice to me, cares about me) whether he likes me or not. He then got so angry and said that I'm not his type of girl and asked my friend if I told her to ask him if he likes me.
WHY did he get so angry?! If he doesn't like me he can say "no" and that's it.. Also, if I really am not his type, why is he flirting with me, be very caring, and tell me his insecurities?
GUYS! (and girls too) I really need your help on this..
Why did he get so angry? Does he even genuinely like me?
It must be because you flirt back and even if he doesn't fancy you, its nice to feel wanted and attractive, and if you are not his type, you sure are his type of personality that he likes to flirt with because of your responce to him. He may of got angry because you didn't ask him yourself in private where no one else could hear his responce, because questions like that alway come better from the source, not third party where it could seem a little childish. If you do like him tell him yourself and even then if he says no, your flirting will still continue if you want it to..
Probably it's cause the question caught him off guard and he didn't know if he should tell your friend if he likes you or not. Tbh guys aren't usually prepared for girls asking them if they like their friend and so it's more than like he just panicked rather than he doesn't like you
Like I said, its not easy. In my opinion, every time a situation gets us that worked up to the point of anger or extreme happiness its because we care about the situation deeply. Maybe he didn't want his "secret" to get out and didn't want anybody to know until he was ready. Maybe he thought he was doing a good job at not being so obvious and when you friend asked him, it was like a slap to the face because it was so obvious. I just have to say that even if he looked angry, this was a "good" reaction from him, it means this is something he cares about, if he had said just "no", then he probably didn't feel so strongly about the whole thing and you were reading him wrong. Just wait and see if he talks to you again and how he behaves, if he talks like nothing happened, then he is OK with the whole thing, if he changes (and it'll be pretty obvious) just move on.
No easy answers. I have a girl who told me didn't like me and yet she keeps talking, teasing me, flirting with me and got ANGRY (extremely) now that I stopped talking to her. Sometimes we just need to stop worrying about people's behavior and let them be.
1) Really like you and been caught off guard (Not likely)
2) Have some social anxiety issues and therefore not really be mad but anxious which can be mistaken as mad fairly easily. (You can be a social person and still have social anxiety issues)
3) If he does like you he could be upset that you asked someone to ask him (Even though you did not) in fear that you may not like him.
4) Be a total psycho (Not a real clinical definition)
Just for the record, guys can flirt with girls in a friendly manner and not be interested in anything further than that just as much as girls can. Some people are just flirty... Especially if your a Virgo or Libra (For the astronomically inclined)
Best course of action (If your actually interested): confront him and ask him yourself.
If your interested but fear he may not want to be around you if he found out... then leave it as is.
If your not interested then leave it as is.
Oh, if and when you confront him, have a friend nearby (NEAR BY) just in case.
It could be the fact that he doesn't work well with expressing his emotions. Plus, you weren't the one that asked him, so his anger could help emphasize to your friend that he doesn't like you (even if that is not what he truly feel). I think that he felt there was a chance that he was looking too obvious, which is why your friend was asking him. This is why he asked your friend if you sent her to ask him.
He doesn't want to say yes and find out you don't feel the same way. It's a turn-down or a small rejection and its quite embarrassing and awkward. Guys are not to good with rejection, though some play it off well. There is high possibility that he does like you but he seems like the type of guy who won't admit it unless you two (you and him only--not your friends) were on the topic and you showed interest. OR he probably would like you to say it first OR express it mutually. It's just an inference. GOOD LUCK (:
First of all did you witness it? I know you want to trust that your friend was totally upfront but sometimes people get jealous or friends will end up crushing on the same person. I can't even name all the times my closest in high school tried to screw me over with boy. He might've gotten defensive or hurt in regards to something she said then she failed to mention to you, for example my friend told a guy who I liked and who liked me that I was totally uninterested. In any case he could want to tell you himself and not want other people up in his business. He could've gotten taken off guard and sometimes people deny things, he might not know you like him and be scared if his feelings got out it would ruin what you do have, he might feel pressured by the question and just want to take things at a more natural pace, he might've preferred if you came up and told him how you felt, he may not want gossip to f*** things up since it really can. If he is still being really nice to you its obvious at the very least he wants to be your friend enjoy that for now and don't obsess about this, if your crushing on him ask him directly at some point to grab bite, for coffee, or a movie. Don't have your friend do it.