Would a guy cuddle with you if he didn't have feelings with you?

[Anonymous]

This guy has a girlfriend, but lately she's been "thinking" lately. He says that she's so confusing, but it's nothing major. I'm the type of person who doesn't want to interfere with someone's relationship, no matter how much I like them. Anyway, I used to like this guy. When he started going out with her, I felt like I needed to distance myself because of how hurt I was. Then, I began talking to him again as friends.

The other day, me and two other friends went over to his house, because they wanted me to be a part of their project. He would always hold my waist, and he even fed me. Yesterday, we hung out again at a friend's house to finish the project. After we were done, we both laid on the couch. When he was laying down, and I was sitting, he would pull me down. Then, we actually ended up falling asleep. He would put his arms around me. And he also wanted me to turn around so that I was facing him or so that my head was on his chest. He's always acted this way, whether or not it's cuddling, even before he was in a relationship.

Would you cuddle with a girl/guy if you didn't have feelings for them? And would you consider this as flirting? And why did he do this?

[Anonymous]

To set you up for the kill. A lot of girls get caught up thinking cuddling is oh so romantic but a lot of guys do it because they know you like it, and they know cuddling will make you feel closer and more likely to give up the draws. Not because they actually like you. This guy has a girlfriend already and is cuddling with some other girl behind her back. That's a player move. His strategy most likely is to build you up and make you think that you're better than his girlfriend and has something she doesnt. That way he can move in for the kill later and have sex with you without it seeming like an obvious "i just want sex" thing. Decent guys don't do that when they're in relationships

[justlilly]

Yes, for some reason guys think it is okay to do this. As a girl, yes it is perfectly natural for you to take this as flirting, however that doesn't mean it is true. I think most girls will agree that guys frequently don't think things through or think about the consequences of their actions or consider the feelings of women (or just other people in general).

Obviously in this situation, he isn't being very considerate to you or his girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

He wants you. Feelings have nothing to do with what this is. Feeling happen out of being dumb. Yes he can have feelings at any point. But the question is if I read your question correctly the feeling you look for is a life time guy. I would say lust with infactuation and allot of be mine. If you want certian feelings like love, emotional maturity. You need to state your desires in your questions. What type of feelings are you asking for? Sexual feelings, emotional or love...