I'm a blond Swedish guy, how do I date black/Arabic girls? :(

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As I said, I'm Swedish, which means I'm very shy and passive. Here in Sweden I'm used too girls making moves on me, since we have the feminism and I'm kinda shy so I mostly hook up when girls hit on me (people tell me I'm attractive so I guess that's why it works out for me). I understand the indicators of Swedish women but I have no idea with foreigners (Sweden has a very different dating culture and such). I like black/Arabic girls  Because they have more confidence and are much more trusting, I'm always surprised by how many Swedish girls that are prepared to cheat on their boyfriends. And I'm actually kinda scared of approaching foreign girls because I do not know how they will give me a total diss because I'm blond and I believe in equal stuff so I don't act like I'm super confident and best in the world like other guys do. How important is it too act confident too black/Arabic girls and similar stuff.

SkyOvaNewOrleans · Accepted Answer

I'm a black American girl whose lived abroad for 8 years and currently back in the U.S. I've dated interacially since I was a teen because I love the contrast and being culturally opposites. I pretty much agree with the other posts, if you just be your natural self, polite, courteous and approach a female of color and just say, " Hi. I'm so and so and I'd really like to get to know you." I think she would be flattered and receptive as long as you are reasonably nice looking, have a nice smile and no BO, body order. Laughing. Women want to be approached. We don't want to be ignored. But its the way you do it. Mature women don't appreciate cocky guys. Most women want a strong,;confident man who is sensitive to her feelings. For example, I met a very nice Danish guy in Germany who is nice looking, intelligent and sweet but for me he was too...passive so it was a turn off not to mention a perv. He explained that in Denmark men tend to have very domestic roles in a culture of equality. He and I are friends to date but I also note he is now almost 50 and has never married or had a long term relationship with a woman of any color and he also has a fondness for black women but not solely. Unless a woman is bi-sexual she doesn't want the man to be softer or more passive than she is. Sensitive enough to ask how she's feeling or does she need something but assertive enough to say, let me take care of this for you. Women need that, black or not.

After becoming a diehard fan of HBO show True Blood I have fallen head over heels for Alexander Skarsgard physically and his personality is more intoxicating. Now. I'm obcessed with finding a Swede to date and marry. So now my question to you is with Swedes both men and women on average normally being very good looking people what do you think my chances care to attract a nice looking Swede for a serious relationship and I'm a single, 44 year old black female with a 3 year old bi-racial son? I think my pic uploaded so you can see I'm not a dog but also no super model either. Where would I go in the states or in Sweden to find or attract locals who would be interested in me? Keep in mind, I'm a single mom so I'm not going clubbing anymore and I've decided that since I really want to get married I won't sleep around until I'm in a committed serious relationship with the guy. I'm proud of my new found virginity and I have been celebate since I was 7 months pregnant or from May 2010. I have vowed to give myself only to my new husband which I hope to be a Swede. Lol. The reason for my question is; in general, are Swedes pregudice and prefer to keep their race pure and only date ither white blonds or is there a rise sorta speak in interracial relationships there? Basically, I want him to treat me like his nubian queen and he will be my nordic knight. All honest responses appreciated.

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In search of my true Swede. Question 456920

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i'm black but I'm not arabic. I don't really know about how sweden is, but most black women do not approach guys especially of different races. we expect the male to take the lead. all that feminism sh*t doesn't fly with us, we prefer stereotypical masculine men, so put that feminist propaganda aside and take the lead and go after the girl. a lot of european black girls are more likely to date white men. be very confident. equality is nice in the workplace but has no basis in the romantic field. deep down we all want to be "taken" by a strong masculine manly man

Leenaaman · Answer

I don’t know how old this post is but I just wanted to clear something I’m and arab girl and most is us believe in equal stuff too I hate when people assume that “ we like to be opressed” it’s 2017 most of us our parents have taught very well and want us to be equal to a man , regarding your post as an Arab I would totally give you time if you came to talk to me there problem if she doesn’t make the first move is bc we thing even having born and being raised in Europe we thing that European guys won’t have us a chance

MissBollinger12 · Answer

Really interesting question. I am of African heritage and have grown up in London. For some bizarre (not complaining though!) - 97% of men that approach me are Swedish. I have also spent some time in Sweden, and found that the guys were shy but still approached.
Would love to share my opinion, being on the other end of the spectrum. Tried to post, but the field had a word cap. Question asker , if you want my view - please email me on MsBollinger@outlook. com

All the best

Loools · Answer

Not all arabic girls like super confident guys, I don't, they can be a bit arrogant at times :) If you act friendly and smile at a girl you're interested in, she'll get the hint and might make a move. It doesn't matter that you're blond or whatever, many girls are attracted to guys like you, all you have to do is show you're interested in them. Also a lot of black/arabic girls like dating caucasians :D

Anonymous · Answer

I'm Egyptian! Well, there's no rule in approaching Arab girls. You don't have to be super confident. Just approach and start any random talk. We're fun, outgoing and friendly. If the girl is interested (especially that you're Swedish & good looking! lol) , she'll be happy to talk to you.

But Swedish women are noticeably beautiful, why would you date Arabs?

Anonymous · Answer

well

i have the same problem but the diffrence is that I'm an arab girl who has problem finding a nice blond guy like you ;P

i agree with Loools, there are a lot of arab/black girls who would die to date with a nice blond guy like you. and I absolutely LOOOOVE your morals !

just be confident. we arab women love a confident women, take the lead but don't be to arogant.

and you don't have to be afraid that they will diss you, we arab girls are very sweet ;)

i'm from the netherlands by the way

Anonymous · Answer

Arab girl's don't look black imao we  Both of them are arab do they look black to you?

Tallblkbeauty · Answer

I'm black and I love the passivity of Sweden men. So please do not try to change... just be friendly and be yourself. If you're out and you find that black girl across the room attractive then give eye contact as much as possible with a warm and welcoming smile.. and she'll get the hint :-) I'm dating a Swede now, he did make the first move.. subtle but enough to catch my attention :-)

Anonymous · Answer

hi,
first of all, I`m sure that there are some Swedish girls that don`t do so, good girls exist everywhere.
well, about dating an Arabic girl, I think that it`s going to be a little bit hard to find a non-Muslim one, and even if u do, they generally act as most of Swedish girls,
but if u r interested in Muslim Arabic girls, there are plenty of them in Europe now, (for studying, working...) and normally they are so cute n loveable.
wish u good luck, and be sure that you`ll find the one

Xtiix92 · Answer

Lol arabs girls aren't black we have tand and olive skin

Norax12 · Answer

Arabs aren’t black lmao we are brunette and have olive skin however i’m arab girl if you want to date me i’m so ready to date Swedish guy xD

RealityCheck4Ya · Answer

You don't. You find a White Swedish girl of the same race as you and stop destroying your bloodline by trying to race mix.

Anonymous · Answer

Don’t try to act ‘black’ when approaching a black girl. You should rather compliment her skin tone or her hair (NEVER TOUCH IT). Convey to her that u r ‘woke’ or w. e be knowledgeable about the black community and its achievements

AlShira · Answer

how do I date black/Arabic girls?  NO WAY. You can`t approach us. Please, stay with your kind and get off our backs. We don`t need you.

Spidrai · Answer

I'm an arab girl and I think there's some sort of connection, attraction between our people

nahla · Answer

I am black-brazilian-funny-single girl and I like blond guys ;)

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think the girls are attracted to Swedish guys?

CandyCoated123 · Answer

Dont worry Just relax be confident

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