Normally, I go to my guy friends but they are all too close to my boyfriend to ask them about this. I'm going to refer to my boyfriend as boyfriend and his nephew as bfn. And for reference, I'm 29 years old. It's kind of a long story but here goes:
I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years and I've known his nephew the entire time. His nephew was 13 when I met him and he is now 17. I'm very close to my bf's family and I am by far closest to my bfn. I find a lot of similarities between me and my bfn. We are more alike than anyone I've ever met, and I genuinely enjoy hanging out with him. Even my boyfriend comments on how similar me and my bfn are and is happy that we are so close. My bfn is always at our house when he doesn't have some type of sporting/social event going on so we all hang out together a lot.
My bfn is now 17 and it is not unusual for just the two of us to hang out together; however, lately something just seems different. My boyfriend was gone for the weekend and in a text I told my bfn he could come hang out that Friday night if he ended up not having anything to do, again this isn't really that unusual. He texted back and said he'd come hang out. Typically, if we hang out alone it's because my boyfriend left after bfn was already at the house but still not that unusual.
So he calls me that night and asks if it's still cool if he comes over and I told him 'sure, if you don't have anything better to do.' He said he didn't and came over. The last two times we've hung out we've had these long, deep conversations about life in general, and the older he gets the more alike we become, or realize we are. During our conversation on the last night he came over, he proceeds to tell me that he had plans but canceled them to come hang out with me. He apparently had plans to go to a huge party with his friends but said he canceled everything with them because his dad was out of town (with my bf) and a few days before, bfn and a girl he liked made plans to go spend the night together at his dad's. He told me that when he got my text about hanging out, he thought about it for a little bit and then canceled his plans with the girl to hang out with me. He said that he didn't want me to have to hang out by myself.
The last time we hung out by ourselves, I started getting that feeling that maybe there was something going on but I just dismissed it and tried to put it out of my mind. Because we do talk about real things and expect it to stay between us, I tried to understand it just as us being close and getting closer and nothing more. This time, after he told me he passed on sex, at the age of 17, to come just hang out with me, it brought all those feelings/thoughts back from the previous night. And about 10min after he told me what he passed up, he told me he was really glad he came over.
We've never once crossed any kind of line or even came close. We just talk or watch TV when we hang out. I'm just trying to figure out if I'm reading into this way too much and worrying for nothing.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost four years and I've known his nephew the entire time. His nephew was 13 when I met him and he is now 17. I'm very close to my bf's family and I am by far closest to my bfn. I find a lot of similarities between me and my bfn. We are more alike than anyone I've ever met, and I genuinely enjoy hanging out with him. Even my boyfriend comments on how similar me and my bfn are and is happy that we are so close. My bfn is always at our house when he doesn't have some type of sporting/social event going on so we all hang out together a lot.
My bfn is now 17 and it is not unusual for just the two of us to hang out together; however, lately something just seems different. My boyfriend was gone for the weekend and in a text I told my bfn he could come hang out that Friday night if he ended up not having anything to do, again this isn't really that unusual. He texted back and said he'd come hang out. Typically, if we hang out alone it's because my boyfriend left after bfn was already at the house but still not that unusual.
So he calls me that night and asks if it's still cool if he comes over and I told him 'sure, if you don't have anything better to do.' He said he didn't and came over. The last two times we've hung out we've had these long, deep conversations about life in general, and the older he gets the more alike we become, or realize we are. During our conversation on the last night he came over, he proceeds to tell me that he had plans but canceled them to come hang out with me. He apparently had plans to go to a huge party with his friends but said he canceled everything with them because his dad was out of town (with my bf) and a few days before, bfn and a girl he liked made plans to go spend the night together at his dad's. He told me that when he got my text about hanging out, he thought about it for a little bit and then canceled his plans with the girl to hang out with me. He said that he didn't want me to have to hang out by myself.
The last time we hung out by ourselves, I started getting that feeling that maybe there was something going on but I just dismissed it and tried to put it out of my mind. Because we do talk about real things and expect it to stay between us, I tried to understand it just as us being close and getting closer and nothing more. This time, after he told me he passed on sex, at the age of 17, to come just hang out with me, it brought all those feelings/thoughts back from the previous night. And about 10min after he told me what he passed up, he told me he was really glad he came over.
We've never once crossed any kind of line or even came close. We just talk or watch TV when we hang out. I'm just trying to figure out if I'm reading into this way too much and worrying for nothing.
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This is supposed to be in the Other category...
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If you do think he has a crush, any ideas how to handle the situation? Should I just leave it alone?
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