Ladies, how do you feel when your guy gets angry?

At you and whoever else. do you feel scared, indifferent, etc?

Also, how do you feel if your guy cries about something? what about if he cries too much?

whoah. no guys answered this? This Q isn't directed to only girls, ya know :P though it is (mainly) for women to answer. I should have specified XD oh well...

~Dudes, if you wanna answer just replace the word "guy" with "girl" in my Question. also, replace "Ladies" with "Guys".


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  • He doesn't really get angry with me, but he does have a temper with sometimes violent reactions [i.e. punching walls, tearing his bedroom door off the hinges, though not in relation to me]. I've seen his anger directed at other people, but he doesn't really act on it because of his kids. Both because he has custody, so they're always around, and because he can't afford to go to jail on assault charges, lol. And I've also seen his rage, just in general. It doesn't scare me though, because it's not directed at me, and the women and kids in his life never have to worry about a violent outburst. I don't have any fear of getting hurt by him. I usually just sit quietly and stay out of it until it subsides, or if we're alone then I'll rub his back and play with his hair and try to talk him through it. Doesn't aaalways work, but it usually has the intended soothing effect. =P If he were really angry at ME, odds are I would probably be super upset, but I certainly wouldn't be afraid.

    I've only seen him cry once. It was like a single tear, and he was trying to hide his face. It was when things were really rough in the split with his wife, and he hadn't been able to see his youngest son in a few weeks. He was having a panic attack and teared up a bit, but didn't want me to see it. I felt bad and made an attempt at comfort which eventually worked somewhat, but I found it really endearing that it was so difficult for him to be away from his kids.


What Girls Said 23

  • when he gets angry easily,i will think there is another problem like stress or sth... if it is always being too angry, I will think either he has great problems on his own, or with me, and there is sth wrong.. when he cries, I feel myself more attracted to him.. but if he cries too often, I will think that he has problems and I will try to help him, which in return kills my attraction to him..

  • it depends why he got angry on me, if I did something wrong or not. if I havnt done anything wrong I try to calm him down and ask him to lets talk like 2 grown ups and solve our problem by convo.

    but it depends on the situation because I need to be super calm to control my anger too. but this is what I always try to do, to remove the anger and solve problems by talk.

    if he is angry of some1 else, I try to listen to him and let him discharge his anger, then if there is a problem we can talk and find a solution for it, or if there isn't any problem and some1 did a bad thing to him.i try to distract him after he discharged and make him laugh and forget about that, I'm sure he would think better of it after talking about it.

    about crying! again it depends on what happened to him that made him cry! but usually I don't like him to cry that much, and if he does so many time its a big turn off for me. maybe shading some tears in special occasions be OK, or a cry after a misery but not so many time! I don't want him to be that week!

    • weak* sorry a typo

  • well, if he gets mad at me... I honestly will take it personally but I'll act as if nothing happened not to seem to sensitive. but then if he does it too many times then I will act really annoyed around him. and I won't be scared but I will be a bit confused.

    also, everyone cries sometime in their life. but then if he cries too much it looks like he can't handle pain and will seem weak.

  • my boyfriend hasn't really ever yelled or gotten angry at me, but in the times he's been frustrated with me I've already felt sad and like he didn't like me or something. I figure if we ever really got into a fight though, I would use it to my advantage and have angry sex with him. (: lol. My guy has never cried in front of me, but once he said I'm the type of girl he feels like he can lay down and cry with. Kind of weird, but kind of sweet too. Idc if my boyfriend cries as long as he doesn't cry too much. Hope this helps! (:

  • If it's for logical reason, I think it can be really sexy. I like seeing that he's got that fire inside so he's not gonna let anyone walk all over him and he's protective. But if he gets mad over stupid ,petty things then I'll think he's sensitive and sissy like

    It's okay to cry. Real men cry. If he cries to much, then I'll be really tempted to say "OMG get a grip! this is ridiculous! you're way too sensitive and it's annoying. I've seen 10 year old girls with more restraint" over sensitivity annoys me

  • I would like to what I did. not scared

    I think its good if a guy cries shows he has emotions.

    too much, I wouldn't mind, some pple can't help it

  • If my boyfriend gets mad at me for something stupid it really pisses me off...but if I know I screwed up then I just become really insecure an kinda shy away until he calms down enough to wanna talk to me. He becomes really stern with me and slow to speak so he doesn't say the wrong thing. He's only gotten really mad at me one time and yeah it was a little scary (not because he would ever hit me or anything like that but just because I didn't want him to start thinking I wasn't worth it).

    When he gets mad at someone else though...that's HOT! He looks really severe and it's just a huge turn on! Super sexy :D

  • when he gets angry... it's kind of scary I guess. I generally just back off, stop arguing and let him vent a little. if he cries, that's so sad! I don't know if there is such thing as crying too much! or maybe I've never seen it

  • if he gets angry over something little I feel like he could easily get mad at me and I don't like that...but if he gets angry over someone hurting me that's such a turn on!

    if I see him crying it lets me know that he trusts me and I will just want to comfort him

    if he cries too much and over little things I'll think he's very emotional and that's a turn off. hahahhaha

  • My current boyfriend has actually never gotten legitimately mad at me, but if he did, I'd probably be WAY too upset, haha. I'm super sensitive about loved ones being angry or yelling at me. I probably wouldn't be scared, because I know he'd never hurt me or anything, I'd just be hurt and upset.

    If he's angry at someone else, I'd just be there for him if he wants me to be.

    If he cries about something, I comfort him as well as I can and just treat him how I'd want to be treated.

  • When he gets angry with something, or someone (even me), I become a more intent listener & try to talk it out with him.

    If he cries about someone he loved passing on (death), I would let him cry, and try my best to comfort him.

    If he cries because some guys are picking on him, I would lay the smack down and tell him to be a man and stand up for himself.

  • Personally, I find that if a guy cries it's a good thing. I feel that meant he won't lose his cool later. It's also nice to let things out. And men being angry isn't really scary unless there the extremely violent type. If they seem like they might harm you, yes it's scary. But if there just yelling and complaining, nope not scary.

  • i like big tough guys and if he is getting angry at some wierdo hitting on me or something along those lines I love it, and crying about somethings isokay but I'm the girl in the relationship I need to be doing the crying not the big strong man protecting me.

    • wow... I wouldn't touch you with a 10 foot pole even if you were the last woman on earth

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    • i do care about how the guy feels...but I'm a very optimistic person and I don't blieve people should sit there and cry their whole lives and when a guy does cry yeah ill comfort him but if he's being a little drama queen because his friends dicthed him ill tell him you're a shouldn't be upset by this and you have me so you're fine. this is MY opninon, I'm not a spolied little twat I grew up with my dad working all the time and going out of town all the time, I hardly know him so judge me how

    • ever you want, because I grew up learning, it does not matter what anyone else thinks as long as I am happy. so I will do what it takes to make me happy weather anyone else likes it or not.

  • Well if he gets angry at me then I'd freak the hell out

    Coz he's the only one whos there for me and protects me and if he's mad at me then whos there for any other than my self?

    Its okay of he cried I'll b his crying shoulder and I'l deff cheer him up, but its heart breaking seeing my guy crying because we all know that men don't usual cry and when they do then sonething very serious is going on -.-

    • "but its heart breaking seeing my guy crying because we all know that men don't usual cry and when they do then sonething very serious is going on -.-"

      really? I cried a LOT at the ending of Toy Story 3 XD lol

    • Hahaha your weird.. Nah kidding

      I meant about something serious :)

    • ohhh. I didn't even read the last part :P. I got it.

  • i get a bit scared because I hate when people are angry and get upset

  • Like he is being an ass & needs to shut up.

  • depending on what he's angry at, or how angry he gets. if it's a violent anger, then it would scare me, how do I not know if he got angry with me he wouldn't try to hit me? and I think, depending on the situation, its nice to see that the guy has a sensitive side. but, the same with girls, if you cry all the time it gets old.

  • I feel like a bitch lol because both of us have too much pride..luckly he's not one to hit but we scream and go off big time..if he would cry I'd probably be indifferent maybe because it would be a diffrence he makes me cry majority of the time and doesn't care.

  • He doesn't really get angry at me, but a couple times he's gotten frustrated and raised his voice a little, and I'm just like, "whoa, OK, I'm pushing it too far". Sometimes when he gets angry at other guys because he's jealous of me it's a little annoying, because it seems unnecessary.

    I think it's really sweet if he cries a little, because it means he trusts me. I don't think he could cry too much. It just makes me want to kiss him and comfort him and make him feel better. One time I was kind of down on myself, and he teared up a little because "it's so sad that you don't think you're good enough" as he said to me. It was SO adorable, but I felt really bad for making him cry.

  • when I feel that he cries, I am really sad and I feel like I should make him feel better.

    That's how I hope he feels when I cry so I treat him the same way I want to be treated.

  • This blog that I read said - that men are sort of like a indicators of how bad things are going. When men cry it means that things have really gone wrong- like a war or something. The blogger also said that we don`t want guys(who cry)/sensitive, we want guys who are empathetic.

    In a relationship, when things go wrong, he should be able to handle it and ``protect?`` me- that everything will be fine. Of course, crying on some occasions is perfectly fine- you are human too

    All in all - should be mentally stronger.

    Angry is sexy sometimes-should be reasonable. The guy should be able to control his emotions.

    But yes it can be scary.

  • Depends on why he's mad, really. If it was over something stupid, then I'd be annoyed, but try and work through it. If it was justified, it bothers me, and I let him vent , or stay kinda quiet since that seems to help. The last time my guy was crying was when I was about to cry and was talking to him about something he did that upset me. I obviously felt terrible, but the fact that he got upset meant that he finally understood where I had been coming from (we'd tried talking about it before, but we'd never reached an understanding). If he cried too much...well, it probably make up for the times that I got weepy. If he cried all the time, it would start to not mean as much, I guess.


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