Can't get a date, am I a loser?

[Guy22]

Ok here's the thing I'm 23 single no baggage exs, work Monday-Friday get paid well, I've been told I'm very good looking called handsome all the time from older women, talking 40s but yet I can't get a date to save my life I have 3 good friends all guys who have wifes , I don't sleep around only 5 girls I've been with were all over 1yr relationships...I don't drink much drug free and don't smoke, I like to carry conversion about anything, I'm in great shape workout 5 days a week... sometimes I'm quiet but that's just how I am at first later I open up alot.

Here's the thing I can think that's not attracting of me I'm 5,5 short :( hair lines semi fading not bad I don't like to club but will dance, I like staying at home and cooking rather than restuarants I love to cook and I'm better than most restaurants!

I feel lke I'm a loser Sometimes cause I go everywhere alone I mean everywhere dinner movies beach shopping boating theme parks, the last 5 girls I talked to and tried to go on dates ignored me, and once that happens I never try again I don't play hotly mind games..

All these girls I struck out with were 19-22 range what am I doing wrong? Is it cause I'm not a party animal like these young girls are now days or Am I really a looser?

Updates

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Ok thanks for the advice il try older, but getting an older chick to fall for a younger guy is tricky also a lot of girls 23 -30 range won't give a younger guy a shot cause they them selfs are looking for a older more mature man... Sigh


Also why a normal dude like me can't find a quality girl but all these BAD boy drug scene clubbing players seem to have any beautiful girl at there side instantly I really don't get it. What do they see in them?

[Anonymous]

It's not really your fault. And you aren't a loser. Here's the thing: You are probably very good at dating and would honestly make a good boyfriend. The reason why you are striking out with women though is because of something women have been complaining about for a long time that few people also acknowledged with men, there's been an incredibly unrealistic goal created by women for men to meet. I know lots of guys who are single who would make good partners. They have jobs, are very smart, average looks, very thoughtful and caring, and all of them are single too. So while in a way it sucks to hear this, its not your fault and there's not really much you can do about it other then just keep on trying. You are gonna strike out a lot. But there's a chance maybe one day you'll get a girl. The most important part is not to hate yourself or beat yourself up about it.

And as for why girls will go out with abusive bad boy types? It's because they are being stupid and following very stupid fantasies. If you want to be like them , there's plenty of places where you can learn to stop thinking about women as people and use every horrible trick to get them to date you but honestly, it's not worth it. Trust me, you don't want someone who's head is in the clouds. If they find a heroin junkie with no future, no real job, who is emotionally and often physically abusive, and who's so self centered they only care about how many girls they can get with, then can you honestly trust any of their judgment?

[christian2724]

Something is wrong with your game? You should take the game cartridge out and blow on the connection terminal. Then plug it back into your console and you should be good to go.

-sarcasm

[Guy22]

Maybe you could blow on my game then put it back in you're console.

-Sarcasm

[christian2724]

it's spelled *your*

[Guy22]

I'm so sorry mr Perfect guy, my spellcheck wrote it that way now exit.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should try a slightly older crowd. Maybe 23-25. Those women would probaly care less about your looks and height and more about what you can offer them?

[Anonymous]

try maybe approaching different types of girls, ones who don't look like are into partying and stuff. Maybe go to a cook show and approach some of the girls there who might be as passionate about cooking as you are. I think the term "loser" can be misused by society. It should refer to those who have nothing going for them because they are lazy and haven't done much. So no, you don't seem like a loser based on what you have said.

[Guy22]

It wasn't ment to be put in terms as total loser , I ment like with women will they think I'm a loser cause I'm not a party animal anymore.

Example I'm not mr popular that hangs with big crowds and club hops buying rounds of drinks for everyone.

[Opinion Owner]

nah still not a loser. being a loser is relative from person to person. someone who enjoys reading, excercising and other activities can look at someone who goes clubbing as his major weekend activity as being a loser. I know how you feel because I am more like you. Maybe you life is lacking a bit of excitement however? try going to shows or events that interest you and maybe travel a lot...you won't feel like a loser then :)

[Dan2287]

story of my life right there dude. All I can say is just try not to feel bad about yourself because of it

[defytraditiongirl]

I know a guy who did not lose his virginity until age 26, feel better?

[moviedude714]

same here