Would sending a letter to her home just saying that I was thinking about her and her family and hoping that everything was getting better be out of the question? Something saying that I've really valued our friendship this year, and I'm not sure if there's any interest beyond that right now, but that I hope there's still a place for me in her life, and if she wants to talk, to know that I'm here (basically, a respectful letter). Would this come off as creepy or weird? I feel it's a bit more personal than an e-mail or text, and I'm really not sure if a phone call is open since she never replied back from a voicemail I left two weeks back. I'd say since we were friends, it's fine, but she just gave me her address the last time I saw her so that I could pick her up at her house, so I've only been there once, so I'm not sure if this is violating a confidence.
The other thing is that there is a decent age difference (30 for me, 21 for her). I've never been married or had any kids, so I guess it's a "young" 30, but that didn't seem to bother her as she's known my age for a while (I've never dated someone with this much difference in age). She lives with her mom, and I know her mom had some reservations because "older guys only want one thing" and she'd want to meet me if things got more serious. I had no problem with this.
Anyway, a letter...Creepy? Fine? If it's a bad idea, anyone have a better idea I could use?
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