My boyfriend of two years, broke up about two months ago and I want him back. He never broke up with me, he told me that he loves me, no doubt of that, but he doesn't know what he wants the last time we saw eachother. Then communication dropped, and we stopped talking altogether. We had a good relationship, but we moved too fast. I ended up moving in with him, for a couple months and he even bought me a diamond promise ring, and we made all sorts of plans of marriage, kids, and a life together. But we also had our problems, because we would fight alot. We recently, stopped talking, and I spoke to his sister and she said he's just being stubborn and mean. The last time we saw each other we were very much in love still. I know he still loves me but is confused, or perhaps other issues that he hasn't expressed. I know he is stubborn, and I also am stubborn, so I feel lost that we would ever work out. I want to tell him how I feel but my pride won't allow me, for he has already hurt me deeply. I feel like making him jealous and showing him that I've moved on by talking to other guys, so he could snap out of whatever he's dealing with and come back to me. I know its a bit juvenile, but I'm desperate, I guess. I don't know if that would make him jealous and bring him back or push him away because it would hurt him, and he'll be glad we are not together. What do you think?
Should I try to make my ex jealous, or will that push him away?
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This sounds soo much like me and my ex. He bought me a promise ring and we were all 'Let's make babies someday!' and then something just happened. Like he got kind of depressed and confused about everything in his life. Then I started having a similar problem. We broke up and haven't gotten back together which I'm fine with now. However, I understand wanting to make him jealous but like the other girl said if he wants you he will come back to you. But I think a little wake up call is good so I will give you some advice haha. Give him his space and stop calling/texting unless he calls/texts you first. Do NOT make up a boyfriend. Do NOT lie to him. Go out with your friends and have an interesting single life and when you get a chance bring it up all the fun you are having (And seriously, try to have some fun. It's a very attractive quality haha). You could say a guy asked for your number and he'll probably get a little jealous. It's not a total lie because a guy probably has asked for you number even if it was years ago but he doesn't need to know that haha. If he asks who just be like "Oh some guy I met (wherever)" and then change the subject, hopefully it will make him wonder.
Making a guy jealous won't change his mind. I understand, because I confess I've thought of doing it. If a guy wants you, he'll come to you; you won't have to chase him down to make him jealous or anything. If you want to talk to him, do it somewhere where there are people yet you guys won't be interrupted by anyone or anything; ask how he feels about you and if there is any chance of resolving the relationship. You've admitted it's juvenile, just talk to him directly about the matter. It won't really matter if you try to make him jealous or not, guys could care less, especially if you're out of his life now.
NO! Do Not DO That! I'm reading a book right now that you should read It's called Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray. A chapter in there explains how men are like rubber bands. They'll pull away for space then come back to you, all you have to do it give them there space, don't try to make him jealous just let him be. The more you try to make him jealous or try to talk to him about the situation the more he will be unable to pull away and the more he will feel stressed. So just let him be and wait. It will suck and believe me I know, I'm going through it now. He will let you know if you for sure need to move on.
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