Husband calls to check up on me all the time?
This might get a little confusing, but I will try my best. Currently, I'm separated from my husband, who lives in another state, and he constantly...
It's obvious that our relationship is up. I know for sure that I just want to go down there and get my things and put them in storage. Then, I will come back up here and file for divorce. I should have done that a long, long time ago, but I was hoping that he would change. It never happened and it never will. We also tried counseling, and he doesn't want to be a part of it. He doesn't want help; he doesn't think that he has a problem (with drugs, abuse, etc.); and I'm much happier without him.
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I first considered telling you "think about it and decide what you want", but then I read the bit about the furniture and realized this is over, over, over.
Make the break as clean as possible. That means getting your things without bothering to snoop. It means not caring, much less discussing, whether he's cheating or not. In fact, that's not your problem anymore. He's going to be your ex soon enough anyway. Let him go.
It also means to stop answering his calls, and communicating with him through your divorce attorney. Not only is this just good practice, but it'll make it easier to create the distance you need to get on with your life.
This isn't a sound marriage, and hasn't been for some time. You know this. He's not changing, trying to make it better, investing in it. If anything, he's doing the opposite. There is nothing whatever to be gained in prolonging this, no getting better. End it now.
I am sorry.
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Good old side effect of tetrahydrocannabinol (THC)... Paranoia. I "tried smoking weed"... But I don't like things that manipulates or negatively alter my mental accuity... I consider paranoia as a negative effect of mental accuity. Anyhow, his paranoia perhaps manifests itself as a slight "jealousy" if you will? What I mean is his paranoi9a is perhaps leading him to the conclusion of you cheating on him. Unless you gave him any legitimate reasons to question your loyalty to him, it is all psychosemantical.
Another thing I notice is an accute dose of something I am intolerant of: Double standards. I don't care if the chicken did not come before the egg, but for him to call you as you explained (IMHO, like a rabid wolverine with a metro pcs phone), YET gets pissed off if you call him?
Both leads me to my own conclusion of this. Weed+guilty conscience(doing something he knows you would disapprove of, such as cheating)+his actions of calling you=He may be cheating on you, and are getting paranoid, and his paranoia compells him to prove you are disloyal as well. I am no psychologist, but I lived enough life and been through enough bullsh*t in my life to see that one comming.
My advice, until you have concrete evidence of his indescression, it may be jumping the gun to lead into divorce. However separation can heal some of the wounds. Another advice baubel I can throw at you is perhaps family counselling. Perhaps you have some unresolved issues within your relationship. I don't know... I am no expert... I never been married and my longest relationship was a 5 year failed engagement... One last thing though, Should you chose divorce, I suggest that you have an air tight justification. Feel free to IM me should you have other questions... :)
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