Have you ever rejected someone, then months, maybe even years later, longed for the qualities they possessed?

[Anonymous]

I believe that dating life works in a very complex, unpredictable timeline of growth. When it comes to break-ups, they really suck, but sometimes it's simply just about two people not being correct for each other. For whatever reason, at that time in their lives, they don't fit together. Even when it comes to rejection, I think some people just haven't elevated to a certain level of themselves. That's what it comes down to.

I've observed quite a few situations where someone has been rejected for something that wasn't their fault. Maybe it was just really bad timing, maybe that other person just couldn't get over an ex who treated them like crap, maybe that other person just wasn't ready for something that wasn't shallow...whatever the reason is, the person who got rejected wasn't at fault. I was just wondering...what would it be like to reject someone then months, maybe years later, yearn for the personality traits that person had and was ready and willing to support you with and share with you. Personality traits such as intense loyalty, kindness, patience, understanding, affection, genuine care for you and not just playing the part but just pretending like so many people so often do. How would that feel? Have you ever been in this situation? Share your experiences :)

[NonchalantBro]

I haven't been in that situation but I have been on the "getting rejected because of bad timing or something really unrelated to me" end of it, and I'm think the person who rejected will look back and wonder.

[Anonymous]

it's not out of regret of losing them, it's out of loneliness of losing the next best thing. it's a false feeling

[Asker]

hmmm a false feeling? can you elaborate? It's a bit confusing to me the way you've phrased your answer...

[Opinion Owner]

You're lonely, you're single and you haven't found a good guy in awhile. Your brain will end up thinking back on all the guys of your past, one by one, reminding you each one of them. So you end up missing this guy because you have no one else. He's not the one for you, you know he isn't. If he was, you wouldn't have rejected him. He's the second best, the alternative in other words. Born out of desperation and loneliness

[Asker]

Lmao actually, you shouldn't try to make ASSumptions about who someone is when you have never even gotten to know them :P I can't stand it when people answer a question, acting like they are some therapist and they know everything about the QA. You just make yourself look over dramatic and silly

[Opinion Owner]

i am answering this question from my perspective. my using "you" is not directed towards you. but the general public. if you don't like answers from others expressing their opinions, then it would be best not to ask them. what I find dramatic and silly are people like YOU who judge others based on nothing. you don't know me either

[Asker]

ohh OK sorry lol I just hate it when people do that. I didn't judge you lol I just spoke on the type of person I thought you presented yourself to be but it was a misunderstanding