It can be a modern thing in which some seem to think that if a guy pays for her then she somehow "owes" him. You and I know that this is not necessarily the case. But appparently it goes through the minds of some. My wife and I have discussed this. The first time we met in person (we met through letters, then sneaky me, I found her phone number, we started talking and then agreed to meet for a drink). It came obvious to me. My first up close encounter with her (I was already in love with her by this point) I pay for the date. She, on the other hand admits later that she was observing this, and that if I expected her to pay or expected something in return, then I wasn't the one for her. Offering. That's great that you offered. Old fashioned perhaps but it apparently still has its place. Apparently it doesn't "entitle" a guy to anything in return and it makes some girls afraid that a guy may think that. But if they appreciate the gesture, they may show it in their own way, their own time...
It doesn't mean she's not interested but your willingness to ante up may well have been noted in your favour. Apparently that's how it was for me even though I really thought nothing of it at the time.
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...or maybe she doesn't like people in general paying for her. I grew up with not that much money and I felt awkward when people paid for me because I felt guilty that I couldn't pay for it myself. so even now, I don't really like it. I appreciate the offer, but I'd rather not participate or something, you know?
so, I wouldn't take it as a reflection of what she feels/thinks of you...
While in my mind the idea of a guy paying for everything is sweet, in reality it makes me very uncomfortable. She might like you but it makes her feel awkward to go do something with you and have you pay, almost like she owes you something or it was a date. Maybe ask her to the movies or coffee and at the end pay for her and just be nice and thank her for spending time with you.
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sounds like she's not interested at all. money was just an excuse for her
sounds like she's not interested at all. money was just an excuse for her
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