A guy asked me out but I said no. Now I'm thinking of asking him out. Yes/No?

[Anonymous]

A guy asked me out on a date about a month ago, but I said no because I had other plans. Now I'm thinking of asking him out since he never tried to ask me out a second time. Is that a good idea? Or is it bad because he probably lost interest in me since he didn't bother to ask me out once more?

And would it look desperate if I ask him out?

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+1 y

I rejected him because I barely knew him, and it was so sudden. But I really did have other plans(it wasn't something I could've canceled).

Do you think he will really not ask again? Even if I give off the vibe that I'm interested in him?

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+1 y

btw, I told him that I had other plans so he already knows. Maybe he thought I made it up?

[kheserthorpe]

He may not have lost interest, but he may say no because he may figure you're not interested enough in him.

But he might say yes.

I would have advised him not to ask again. I think he would have done it by now if he was going to.

Ask him. And be prepared to say why you said 'no'

[kheserthorpe]

Its not that he thought you made it up, its that if you actually liked him, you'd be suggeting other times or something.

Which I supposed you now are. Just a little late ;)

[Asker]

:(... So don't ask him out?

[kheserthorpe]

No, do it.

[linguatango]

First of all, why the change of heart? Why do you want to ask him out?

Other than that, if you want to ask him out, I don't think it would look desperate. If anything, he'll probably be surprised. And if he is still genuinely interested in you, he'll be glad about it. =)

[Asker]

change of heart..

I don't know.. At first I was flattered. Then I was a little creeped out.. Now I think he's cute.

Is that weird?

[linguatango]

It's not weird.

Sometimes it takes a while to become interested enough in someone to consider dating that person.

[linguatango]

I think the main thing is, as kheserthorpe said, being prepared to explain why you said "No" when he first asked you out. Depending on what kind of person he is... if he is cool about it, then he'll appreciate your honesty and will be grateful that you are giving him a chance. =)

[linguatango]

Hey happyyellow, thanks for the positive feedback. I appreciate it.

Anyways, I hope things go well between you two. ;-)

[Asker]

np :) thanks!

[sixstring]

There's nothing to lose by asking him out. It won't seem desperate if you do. Tell him you weren't blowing him off, that you really had something else planned.

Though I can't promise he'll say yes.

Next time if you got something to do, say something like "oh I can't this Friday I've got other plans. But I'm free on Saturday."

That way he'll know you're still interested and if Saturday doesn't fit he'll suggest something different.

[SR1916]

He probably didn't lose interest.

Guys work up so much courage to ask a girl out, and when you rejected him, he doesn't want to get rejected again.

I say you should ask him. He'll most likely say yes. But I would also explain why you rejected him,

[Razztab]

Asking him out is the only shot you got lol he won't ask again, and I highly doubt he lost intrest he just thinks your not intrested.

[Razztab]

Just ask him and make his day =). Even if you give out a vibe your intrested he is most likely just gonna think your just friendly because you rejected him

[CoffinWolf]

it doesn't matter. don't take it back now. you'll look crazy.

[Asker]

What do you mean take it back?

[CoffinWolf]

talk about the date you turned down. move on.

[Cupcakecutie0]

Why would you say no in the first place?

Ask him, what's it going to hurt.

[CoffinWolf]

YES - he will ask again if you stay around and show him some attention.

[CoffinWolf]

let him ask again. toss out the vibe.