I really like him, but sometimes I think I UNINTENTIONALLY give him the wrong idea that I'm not into him or something.
A few examples:
- He called me. I didn't hear my phone, and didn't get around to calling him until a few hours later... he didn't answer. So I didn't call again.
- We always hug each other bye, but a week ago we were with our friends playing touch football and when we got in our cars to leave, I didn't hug him goodbye (I was all sweaty and didn't want to)
- Next weekend, all of our friends have a house rented on the coast... obviously, since we have mutual friends, he should know that I was invited awhile back... but he texted me last night saying "So we're going to the beach house next weekend." and I didn't respond. I ended up seeing him after that text last night, he showed up at the place I happened to be hanging out at. It was awkward, because I didn't text him back and I felt bad.
- When he left, he pounded fists with the guys & I was laying down on the couch and he tried to pound fists with me instead of hugging me like he ALWAYS does. We always hug goodbye, so I just wrapped my arm halfway around him and he hugged me back.
- I used to text him more often... at least every weekend. But I haven't been texting lately because I felt like I was bugging him too much.
I'm thinking that I may have accidentally given him the impression that I don't like him... he's really shy and he's never had a girlfriend so I'm guessing his confidence isn't necessarily at it's peak.
What should I do? Would you take my actions as signs of not being interested?
A few examples:
- He called me. I didn't hear my phone, and didn't get around to calling him until a few hours later... he didn't answer. So I didn't call again.
- We always hug each other bye, but a week ago we were with our friends playing touch football and when we got in our cars to leave, I didn't hug him goodbye (I was all sweaty and didn't want to)
- Next weekend, all of our friends have a house rented on the coast... obviously, since we have mutual friends, he should know that I was invited awhile back... but he texted me last night saying "So we're going to the beach house next weekend." and I didn't respond. I ended up seeing him after that text last night, he showed up at the place I happened to be hanging out at. It was awkward, because I didn't text him back and I felt bad.
- When he left, he pounded fists with the guys & I was laying down on the couch and he tried to pound fists with me instead of hugging me like he ALWAYS does. We always hug goodbye, so I just wrapped my arm halfway around him and he hugged me back.
- I used to text him more often... at least every weekend. But I haven't been texting lately because I felt like I was bugging him too much.
I'm thinking that I may have accidentally given him the impression that I don't like him... he's really shy and he's never had a girlfriend so I'm guessing his confidence isn't necessarily at it's peak.
What should I do? Would you take my actions as signs of not being interested?
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Well like I have posted before, we put our time, money, and energy into things that we care about. The more we put these things into something, the higher the priority is for us. Obviously if you're not responding to his texts, maybe you don't like him as much as you think?
But whatever you do, you need to start being more honest with him. Let him know that you would have given him a hug, but you were all sweaty. You don't have to tell him every detail of your life, but you need to realize that we can't read minds. Just because you "think" a guy knows or thinks something, doesn't mean he does. The more you tell us, the more we can be informed. The reason so many arguments and breakups happen, is because of misinformation. One person thinks one thing, while the other person thinks another. You need to realize is that if he does like you, everything you do or don't do, he's going to take that, and try and guess a reason for it. So if you do a bunch of things that make you seem uninterested, that's what he's going to think.
I'm not 100% sure, but me being a shy person like him, I just might take those little things as a sign that you aren't interested. He might be looking at them the way I would and since like you said his confidence probably isn't at it's peak he thinks that there is not way you like him.
Try acting like you're interested again. Flirt with him, and keep in contact with him. You don't have to be overbearing, like you said you thought you were bothering him, but bothering him and not texting him are two extremes. So try to find the middle and stick with that. But if you don't send as many texts as you used to make sure that they show you're interested, add some flirty stuff in there. See where that takes you.
Good Luck!
Damn, I'm going through something extremely similar with this woman I'm talking to right now (minus the shy & never had a Girlfriend part) And YES, I take those actions as her not really liking me that much anymore. If you like him, SHOW IT! No matter what you think he thinks. I hope this helped a little.