How to get older man's attention?

I am 24 years old and I have a serious crush on my neighbor who is in his late forty's. he is unattached but does have kids my age. we have only had 1 conversation but we see each other everyday and always say hello. He seems to be interested in me too and seems nervous when I talk with him and is always checking me out. now that it is cold I hardly see him because we are never outside so now it has been about a month that we have not spoken to each other. I was thinking I would send him a Christmas card. do you think this is a dumb thing to do considering our limited contact? Do you think just sending the card is sufficiently letting him know I'm interested? also I would like ideas on what to say in the card. I don't want to say the usual ' happy holidays' or something too juvenile. I want to say something a little sexy to get him thinking about me, but still with class and without being too forward. In other words I don't want him to think I'm a girl that's ready to go. thank you in advance! Any other suggestions to get his attention is welcome!

I do not live with my parents, I am an independent woman, with job, new car, etc. we do not have any of the same friend circles. He lives in a house up the street from my apartments.


Most Helpful Guy

  • A card might be a good idea, just saying merry christmas, happy new year and that you hope everything is well with him, since it's been so long that you don't see him outside.

    If he checks you out, you already have his attention. But try not to show him too much flesh, or else he might just see you as a sexual goal. Be friendly, small neighbour talk is the best for your case.If he knows that you know his age, tell him you totally got surprised when you knew how old he was, because he totally looks your age. That will be a good way to tell him you don't see him as an old guy. You can ask him how he occupies his free times, and tell him you do it also, so maybe someday you could get together. Trade numbers or e-mails.


What Guys Said 6

  • Just ask him to coffee.

  • Do you live with your parents, or are you renting this place you're living in?

    If you're his neighbors daughter, the odds of him going near you are waaaaaay lower.

    If its your place, its different.

  • write thank you for being such a great neighbor. I would like to cook you dinner sometime. Send me a post card back with yes if you're interested.

    damn that's pretty sexy I would love that <3.

  • walk around half naked.

  • A card is sufficient to let him know you're interested in him, for now. On the card you might want to ask a open ended question, a question that he just can't say yes or no too. I might be over the top here, but it's just a an example: Being neighbors with you have been great, but I would like to know how we can make it better.


What Girls Said 1

  • I think it's a great idea. I'll have to get back to you on what to say. That's the tough part.

    All I got so far is >>> if you're up for a little snowball fight, give me a call. :)

    Too cheesy?